u/Affectionate_Today52

Hi, I’m a 19 yr old female and recently I’ve been struggling in terms of my sexuality and dating. I just ended things with a guy I was seeing and I feel really disappointed with this situation. I’ve never had sex or have been in an actual relationship before and I feel like I’m behind on a theoretical timeline, which I know in reality I shouldn’t be worried about but it’s plagued my mind and I’m almost embarrassed to not be experienced sexually going into my sophomore year of college. I personally feel like I would want to be in a relationship if I were to be intimate with a partner but a lot of my friends don’t feel the same and now I’m wondering if this is a childlike fantasy of mine. I feel like not being experienced sexually or in relationships makes me feel like I’m not as mature as my friends, they talk to me like I’m a child or naive when the conversation of sex comes up. I guess I just want some advice in terms of dating and how I should come to terms with my sexual experience or lack of. Should I just “get it over with” and if I were to be honest with a partner about not being experienced is that something I’ll be judged for?

Hiii, I’m a 19 yr old female and recently I’ve been struggling in terms of my sexuality and dating. I just ended things with a guy I was seeing and I feel really disappointed with this situation. I’ve never had sex or have been in an actual relationship before and I feel like I’m behind on a theoretical timeline, which I know in reality I shouldn’t be worried about but it’s plagued my mind and I’m almost embarrassed to not be experienced sexually going into my sophomore year of college. I personally feel like I would want to be in a relationship if I were to be intimate with a partner but a lot of my friends don’t feel the same and now I’m wondering if this is a childlike fantasy of mine. I feel like not being experienced sexually or in relationships makes me feel like I’m not as mature as my friends, they talk to me like I’m a child or naive when the conversation of sex comes up. I guess I just want some advice in terms of dating and how I should come to terms with my sexual experience or lack of. Should I just “get it over with” and if I were to be honest with a partner about not being experienced is that something I’ll be judged for?

Hii, I’m a 19yr old female and I’ve been seeing this guy (20 yr old). We met back in December and for the first few months we really just snapped and talked occasionally. Starting around February things got more personal, we snapped and talked more often and eventually went on a date(he initiated and planned). We have since been on 2 more dates, text both on snap and messages daily, he’s followed my private instagram and TikTok and I’ve met his dad. He’s told me on multiple occasions that he liked me and is really into me and told me on one occasion that there are no other girls. The reason why I’m posting this is because it’s now June and I really like him, I don’t talk to men nor do I like to waste my time with flings or casual relationships. I basically want to just ask him where this is going. I talked to my therapist and she is on board with having this conversation, contrastingly I talked to a friend and she told me to drop him because he doesn’t seem interested in a serious relationship and that I shouldn’t settle for this. While I agree with the sentiment I feel like there are a lot of factors in our relationship and it’s not that simple. I guess I’m just looking for advice on what I should say, or I guess if this is a relationship that seems viable or that I should move on from.

Reading this back this sounds so immature lmao and I sound like a bird, so sorry about that but I truly am just trying to get my life together 😭

Hii, I’m a 19 yr old female and I’ve been really thinking about how I treat men recently and want an honest opinion. About a month ago I found out that one of my guy friends was hurt about how I treated him at parties, for context I had what I thought at the time was a funny photo of him that I would show to our friends at parties or one time I convinced him to do pushups for a drink at a party. I found out later from a friend that he was hurt by these things so I of course apologized but it didn’t even occur to me at the time that what I was doing was hurtful. This happened again recently when I guy I’ve been talking to sent a pic on snap and in the back was a big hat and so jokingly i said i have to see him wear it. He sent a snap with him wearing and as a joke i was egging him on about how funny the hat was and sent a meme of a guy with a similar hat on and said i was gonna make it his profile pic. He told me i was being mean and that ig threw me off. I apologized then too because I’m not trying to be mean i thought i was being funny. I guess I just am a little confused because I thought that joking around like that was chill and funny and now it’s having me rethink how I interact with guys and I want to know how I can still have a fun and joking relationship with guys without crossing a line? I’m sorry if this all seems dumb but I genuinely feel like a terrible person and I don’t have any close male relationships in my life so it’s hard to know what it’s supposed to be like.