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Age: 3 Breed: grey and white domestic medium hair Neurted: true Weight: IDK 3-5kg? Gender: male

Today, I noticed that my cat Claude, had been leaking stinky yellow fluid from his but and was sticking on his fur around his tail in my bedroom. Before for a week or so, my dad notice he was licking his bum more then usual and reckoned it was worms and asking he to give him a tablet. When I searched up what it was it came up as anal gland fluids or anal gland infection. Can you please tell me what I can do?

P.S. Why can't I add photos? What if I needed them to give vets to help them provide the best advice possible?

The posts are originally from /TwoHotTakes and I'm the OP.

26/August/2024

I’m not sure how to approach the situation about my colleague asking inappropriate questions.

I (20F) work at a market stall as a wine saleswoman on the weekends. I’ve been working there for a few months over a year. I always do my best to be friendly to stall holders and the staff that setup and maintain the market. To be friendly to the staff, I greet them, give them discounts on my wines and sometimes have causal conversations.

Recently a work colleague Steve (between 40-50M) who setups and maintains the markets is recently asking suspicious questions. In the past we had friendly and causal conversations for example, about pets and movies. Now he’s asking questions like: “Have you been going to the gym it looks like you’ve lost weight.” And, “Have you been going on dates?” My gut is telling me that I need to do something because this isn’t friendly and is creepy. I want to know what precautions to take to keep myself safe. I’m not sure what type of evidence to collect or anything and also he’s authorised to look the security cameras.

I’m not sure what I did that could lead him on, besides from me just being friendly. I haven’t told anyone because I don’t want to get Steve in trouble if he had no ill intentions or get myself in trouble.

What should I do?

Thanks for reading.

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12/May/2026

UPDATE-I'm not sure how to approach the situation about my colleague asking inappropriate questions. (TW: SA)

Previous post linked in the messages

I (now 22 F) previously posted about inappropriate questions asked by a work colleague Steve. After that post, he made a statement saying, “I'm learning chiropractic and want to try it on you.” Also, he was a handyman at the markets.

Here’s the distressing news I just found out today he was a convicted serial SAer who spent 10 years in jail and was released in 2021, I started working late 2022. He pleaded guilty to 31 different offences. Such as, Aggravated sexual penetration without consent, deprivation of liberty, armed robbery and fraud. The worst part is that the owner of the markets knew. The market is supposed to be a family-friendly tourism place. When the tenants found out and confronted him the owner came to his defence threatening to evict them from their stall. The good news is that he has quit his job.

From your advice after the post, I was more blunt and less friendly than I would be towards other colleagues. I also told my dad (the owner of the wine stall), who told me not to worry about it. I didn't report and glad I didn't now knowing the owner wouldn't help me at all. The thing is as soon as I found out I told Dad about it and turns out he knew and didn't want me to worry. I’m upset because I should’ve known. But recently he had two major operations this month and is not doing so well at the moment.

I feel scared, yet vindicated. I got worried I was overanalysing the comments/questions from Steve or wondering if the reason was me being too friendly. Turns out it's because he was being a predator.

I’m glad he is not working, but will be anxious of the possibility of meeting him again.

Thank you for reading and your support. Please ask if I left anything out.

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16/May/2026

UPDATE 2- I'm not sure how to approach the situation about my colleague asking inappropriate questions.(TW:SA)

Previous posts are in the comments

Thank you so much for your advice and for taking the time to read and respond.

I (22F) asked the market manager and another handyman some questions, like whether any other tenants had reported him saying inappropriate things to them, and they said no. The manager pointed out that I should have reported it to her, she would have told Steve not to do that, as she deals with sexual harassment among tenants all the time. She did make an example of a woman reporting that a man asked if she was cold wearing shorts and made him apologise but the manager told me in a tone that insisted the woman reporting was overreacting. She said that Steve was reformed, meaning he was allowed to be among the public. To be honest, I’m glad I didn’t report it because the very reason I didn’t was that I didn’t want any attention drawn to me, I didn’t feel comfortable with the tone she was using on me and also Steve wasn’t just some other tenant he was the handyman one of his jobs was providing security. The other handyman I’ll call Bob was good though and talked to me in a kind tone, he also banned a creepy old customer a while back. From the response, I made a folio on our interactions as detailed as possible to help me remember and communicate.

I forgot to mention this in the last post. One of the main reasons I was terrified about Steve, was because he wrote sexualising and objectifying notes about his targets and victims, according to news articles. I was scared he was targeting me with similar intentions from the comments and questions he made towards me.

After work, I went to the police station to make a report on the sexual harassment at work. I asked my mum to accompany me for emotional support as I was anxious. The police officer did a great job of telling me what I can do. He told me to get an app that I can provide/report intel for offices l to any crimes or suspicious activity. He gave me instructions that if I come across Steve again I should firmly tell him that I’m not going to engage in a conversation and if he persists I can obtain a restraining order. Also, I got pepper spray only if I need to. Even though everything is still fresh and I still feel startled I have closure. Because his reputation is destroyed, I don’t think I will see him around again, hopefully.

Right now, can you please give me advice on how I can move on and process this week?

Previous posts are in the comments

Thank you so much for your advice and for taking the time to read and respond.

I (22F) asked the market manager and another handyman some questions, like whether any other tenants had reported him saying inappropriate things to them, and they said no. The manager pointed out that I should have reported it to her, she would have told Steve not to do that, as she deals with sexual harassment among tenants all the time. She did make an example of a woman reporting that a man asked if she was cold wearing shorts and made him apologise but the manager told me in a tone that insisted the woman reporting was overreacting. She said that Steve was reformed, meaning he was allowed to be among the public. To be honest, I’m glad I didn’t report it because the very reason I didn’t was that I didn’t want any attention drawn to me, I didn’t feel comfortable with the tone she was using on me and also Steve wasn’t just some other tenant he was the handyman one of his jobs was providing security. The other handyman I’ll call Bob was good though and talked to me in a kind tone, he also banned a creepy old customer a while back. From the response, I made a folio on our interactions as detailed as possible to help me remember and communicate.

I forgot to mention this in the last post. One of the main reasons I was terrified about Steve, was because he wrote sexualising and objectifying notes about his targets and victims, according to news articles. I was scared he was targeting me with similar intentions from the comments and questions he made towards me.

After work, I went to the police station to make a report on the sexual harassment at work. I asked my mum to accompany me for emotional support as I was anxious. The police officer did a great job of telling me what I can do. He told me to get an app that I can provide/report intel for offices l to any crimes or suspicious activity. He gave me instructions that if I come across Steve again I should firmly tell him that I’m not going to engage in a conversation and if he persists I can obtain a restraining order. Also, I got pepper spray only if I need to. Even though everything is still fresh and I still feel startled I have closure. Because his reputation is destroyed, I don’t think I will see him around again, hopefully.

Right now, can you please give me advice on how I can move on and process this week?

Previous post linked in the messages

I (now 22 F) previously posted about inappropriate questions asked by a work colleague Steve. After that post, he made a statement saying, “I'm learning chiropractic and want to try it on you.” Also, he was a handyman at the markets.

Here’s the distressing news I just found out today he was a convicted serial SAer who spent 10 years in jail and was released in 2021, I started working late 2022. He pleaded guilty to 31 different offences. Such as, Aggravated sexual penetration without consent, deprivation of liberty, armed robbery and fraud. The worst part is that the owner of the markets knew. The market is supposed to be a family-friendly tourism place. When the tenants found out and confronted him the owner came to his defence threatening to evict them from their stall. The good news is that he has quit his job.

From your advice after the post, I was more blunt and less friendly than I would be towards other colleagues. I also told my dad (the owner of the wine stall), who told me not to worry about it. I didn't report and glad I didn't now knowing the owner wouldn't help me at all. The thing is as soon as I found out I told Dad about it and turns out he knew and didn't want me to worry. I’m upset because I should’ve known. But recently he had two major operations this month and is not doing so well at the moment.

I feel scared, yet vindicated. I got worried I was overanalysing the comments/questions from Steve or wondering if the reason was me being too friendly. Turns out it's because he was being a predator.

I’m glad he is not working, but will be anxious of the possibility of meeting him again.

Thank you for reading and your support. Please ask if I left anything out.

Also if Two Hot Takes wants to use this story I don't mind.