u/Aggravating-Oil2690

Hey yall! Random question, has anyone in here worked for Gringos?
I’m trying to get a new serving job where the money is better (i currently work for olive garden, going on 4 years🫩) . It’s been hard getting an interview literally anywhere , but i just got a notification from indeed that Gringos is hiring , I live in Texas and figured texans loveee their tex-mex food so maybe it’s the right move?
Work environments are extremely important to me, and i’m curious to know how everything is set up there. The training process, the tip outs, side work, all of it 😭

Hey everyone! I’m relatively new to the photography world, i finally got my first professional camera this year and have even had a few photo shoots! my problem currently is that i’ve been sort of switching back and forth between different apps to get the (free) edits i want, and it’s getting a little frustrating trying to relearn everything while moving between multiple different apps, i’d rather just stick to one app (even if i gotta pay for it atp😭)
I’ve thought about Adobe bc i’m slightly familiar with it but considering i’m still new to this, i’d rather stick to something that’s beginner friendly and when i feel comfortable enough than maybe i’ll look into adobe again
Anyway, Thank you for any suggestions and advice, it’s greatly appreciated !!🥲🥲

i posted this in another subreddit , but wanted to post it here as well

i’m putting my story and my feelings here, bc idk where else to go to. i’m heart broken, confused, angry, and hurt. Thank you to anyone who’s willing to read to the end. And pls bear with me, i’m a wreck right now so this will probably be all over the place.

5 months ago, i met this guy. he got hired at the job i work at, he is friends of some of my coworkers who i also consider to be friends. One of my coworkers had actually mentioned possibly setting us up months ago bc he thought we were so alike and that we’d be good together. anyway, we met at work and ended up hitting it off.
We would smoke together after we got off work, we’d take walks around his neighborhood, smoke by the lake. i gave him a ride home a few times bc he had blown out his engine and didn’t have a car for a bit. we’d have deep conversations for hours, small little moments where it felt like he was looking into my soul. maybe that last part sounds stupid, but those little moments felt powerful to me.
he told me that he’s not ready for a relationship, that he just wanted to be friends, and i respected it.
One day we had planned an entire day together to houston, we did this under the agreement tht we were taking this trip as friends. we went to an aquarium, he took me to this garden to practice taking photos with my professional camera i had just gotten. we went back to my place afterwards to watch movies, take edibles and we ended up cuddling on the couch. at some point he tells me that he doesn’t go after coworkers, that it’s too messy, BUT that he would make an exception for me. i should have asked more questions, what exactly he meant by that, but i didn’t. in my head i thought , “ okay, we’re not in a relationship, but we’re a little more than just friends…we’re talking” that’s what i thought he meant. we didn’t have sex this night, we kissed , we talked , cuddled and watched movies and then he left.
i think this is my favorite memory with him, spending the entire day with him and just being happy .

fast forward, he told me personal stuff to explain to me why he wasn’t ready for a relationship. he said that he’s terrified i’ll wake up one day and decide i no longer care for him or have feelings for him, and just leave, bc it happened to him before. i told him i wouldn’t do that to him or anyone in general, that i’ve had shitty things done to me in the past as well, and the last thing i want is to make another person feel the way i’ve been made to feel. at this point , we agreed to be friends with benefits .
time went on , everything was fine . we gotten into a disagreement once bc he had been flirting with and touching on another girl at work and i wasn’t okay with it . bc even though we were just friends (with benefits) i wasn’t okay with sleeping with a man while he was entertaining other girls, especially after he told me he doesn’t deal with coworkers, it just didn’t make sense to me. he apologized, said he understood my feelings, and even at some point told me that he had a conversation with that girl that they can’t be doing that no more .
but other than that, that was the only actual issue we ever had.

side note: he would tell me things like “we’re just friends BUT i really like you” or “we’re just friends BUT you’re the only girl i’m talking to” . not only this, but my coworker/friend would also tell me that he had conversations with him and he would tell my coworker that he really likes me and he could see himself being in a relationship with me.

about 1-2 weeks ago, his mother kicked him out of the house, idk why, all he said was it was the consequences of his own actions. me being the person i am and how i was raised, i told him if he ever didn’t want to sleep in his car, or in general just needed anything, he can always come to me and i’ll gladly help him out. he said he didn’t want to leech off me, and only came to sleep over a few times.

fast forward to 3 days ago, where everything came crashing down. he had stayed the night, and the morning of, before he had to go to work, we had sex, he took a shower, got dressed, and we were just laying in the bed talking. we gotten into the topic of our situationship, he was telling me a bunch of stuff. one of the things he said was that when we had gotten into our first disagreement, there was a couple days where i wasn’t talking to him, he said it felt like the worst heart break he’s ever felt. he said i’ve been so loving towards him in a way he’s never experienced before, that the last thing he’d ever want to do is to hurt me.
then he asks me if he could be honest with me. i tell him yes. he says “i think you’re a beautiful person…but you’re on the bigger side, and i don’t want that.”
i kicked him out instantly.
it felt like my heart was shattered instantly. i’ve struggled with my own body image since i was in middle school, ive always hated looking at myself in the mirror. i know im bigger, i gave myself an eating disorder over it years back. i lost 40lbs+ in 3 months. i finally got to a point where i was okay, and then the guy that i cared so much about used it against me to tell me that’s why he didn’t want to be with me. i’m heart broken. i’m hurt. i’ve been in relationships/situationships where i’ve been told the other person was simply emotionally unavailable, or where they chose another person over me…but never this. i’ve never had my body used against me like this. i don’t know how to cope, i don’t know how to handle this. i’ve been crying for 3 days straight…im so heartbroken i can barely contain myself in public.
i texted him once since, for answers, and didn’t get much answers tbh. maybe i can post the screenshots below, idk. the conversation ended with me telling him to never speak to me again, not at work or outside of it. he replied he never said we were anything more than friends and that he told me this multiple times, but he understands why im hurt.
it’s true we had the friends conversation multiple times, and i knew we were friends. but i thought we were building to something, not just fucking.
i’m not saying he owed me a relationship. he didn’t. people are allowed to have preferences and they’re allowed to realize someone isn’t the right partner for them. what I’m struggling with is this… i had already told him I had feelings for him and eventually wanted more…that i wasn’t involved with him for no reason ( he said he wasn’t involved with me for no reason either). we became emotionally and physically involved. If my body was already something he wasn’t sure he could move past, I wish I had known before I became this invested. i feel like i wasn’t given the chance to decide whether I wanted to keep going knowing that.
but also…why was it okay for us to be sleeping together but yet i’m too big for him to be in a relationship with?
idk. i’m lost, confused, and hurt. i need someone to hear this. i need help.
if you made this this far, thank you for hearing me.

i’m putting my story and my feelings here, bc idk where else to go to. i’m heart broken, confused, angry, and hurt. Thank you to anyone who’s willing to read to the end. And pls bear with me, i’m a wreck right now so this will probably be all over the place.

5 months ago, i met this guy. he got hired at the job i work at, he is friends of some of my coworkers who i also consider to be friends. One of my coworkers had actually mentioned possibly setting us up months ago bc he thought we were so alike and that we’d be good together. anyway, we met at work and ended up hitting it off.
We would smoke together after we got off work, we’d take walks around his neighborhood, smoke by the lake. i gave him a ride home a few times bc he had blown out his engine and didn’t have a car for a bit. we’d have deep conversations for hours, small little moments where it felt like he was looking into my soul. maybe that last part sounds stupid, but those little moments felt powerful to me.
he told me that he’s not ready for a relationship, that he just wanted to be friends, and i respected it.
One day we had planned an entire day together to houston, we did this under the agreement tht we were taking this trip as friends. we went to an aquarium, he took me to this garden to practice taking photos with my professional camera i had just gotten. we went back to my place afterwards to watch movies, take edibles and we ended up cuddling on the couch. at some point he tells me that he doesn’t go after coworkers, that it’s too messy, BUT that he would make an exception for me. i should have asked more questions, what exactly he meant by that, but i didn’t. in my head i thought , “ okay, we’re not in a relationship, but we’re a little more than just friends…we’re talking” that’s what i thought he meant. we didn’t have sex this night, we kissed , we talked , cuddled and watched movies and then he left.
i think this is my favorite memory with him, spending the entire day with him and just being happy .

fast forward, he told me personal stuff to explain to me why he wasn’t ready for a relationship. he said that he’s terrified i’ll wake up one day and decide i no longer care for him or have feelings for him, and just leave, bc it happened to him before. i told him i wouldn’t do that to him or anyone in general, that i’ve had shitty things done to me in the past as well, and the last thing i want is to make another person feel the way i’ve been made to feel. at this point , we agreed to be friends with benefits .
time went on , everything was fine . we gotten into a disagreement once bc he had been flirting with and touching on another girl at work and i wasn’t okay with it . bc even though we were just friends (with benefits) i wasn’t okay with sleeping with a man while he was entertaining other girls, especially after he told me he doesn’t deal with coworkers, it just didn’t make sense to me. he apologized, said he understood my feelings, and even at some point told me that he had a conversation with that girl that they can’t be doing that no more .
but other than that, that was the only actual issue we ever had.

side note: he would tell me things like “we’re just friends BUT i really like you” or “we’re just friends BUT you’re the only girl i’m talking to” . not only this, but my coworker/friend would also tell me that he had conversations with him and he would tell my coworker that he really likes me and he could see himself being in a relationship with me.

about 1-2 weeks ago, his mother kicked him out of the house, idk why, all he said was it was the consequences of his own actions. me being the person i am and how i was raised, i told him if he ever didn’t want to sleep in his car, or in general just needed anything, he can always come to me and i’ll gladly help him out. he said he didn’t want to leech off me, and only came to sleep over a few times.

fast forward to 3 days ago, where everything came crashing down. he had stayed the night, and the morning of, before he had to go to work, we had sex, he took a shower, got dressed, and we were just laying in the bed talking. we gotten into the topic of our situationship, he was telling me a bunch of stuff. one of the things he said was that when we had gotten into our first disagreement, there was a couple days where i wasn’t talking to him, he said it felt like the worst heart break he’s ever felt. he said i’ve been so loving towards him in a way he’s never experienced before, that the last thing he’d ever want to do is to hurt me.
then he asks me if he could be honest with me. i tell him yes. he says “i think you’re a beautiful person…but you’re on the bigger side, and i don’t want that.”
i kicked him out instantly.
it felt like my heart was shattered instantly. i’ve struggled with my own body image since i was in middle school, ive always hated looking at myself in the mirror. i know im bigger, i gave myself an eating disorder over it years back. i lost 40lbs+ in 3 months. i finally got to a point where i was okay, and then the guy that i cared so much about used it against me to tell me that’s why he didn’t want to be with me. i’m heart broken. i’m hurt. i’ve been in relationships/situationships where i’ve been told the other person was simply emotionally unavailable, or where they chose another person over me…but never this. i’ve never had my body used against me like this. i don’t know how to cope, i don’t know how to handle this. i’ve been crying for 3 days straight…im so heartbroken i can barely contain myself in public.
i texted him once since, for answers, and didn’t get much answers tbh. maybe i can post the screenshots below, idk. the conversation ended with me telling him to never speak to me again, not at work or outside of it. he replied he never said we were anything more than friends and that he told me this multiple times, but he understands why im hurt.
it’s true we had the friends conversation multiple times, and i knew we were friends. but i thought we were building to something, not just fucking.
i’m not saying he owed me a relationship. he didn’t. people are allowed to have preferences and they’re allowed to realize someone isn’t the right partner for them. what I’m struggling with is this… i had already told him I had feelings for him and eventually wanted more…that i wasn’t involved with him for no reason ( he said he wasn’t involved with me for no reason either). we became emotionally and physically involved. If my body was already something he wasn’t sure he could move past, I wish I had known before I became this invested. i feel like i wasn’t given the chance to decide whether I wanted to keep going knowing that.
but also…why was it okay for us to be sleeping together but yet i’m too big for him to be in a relationship with?
idk. i’m lost, confused, and hurt. i need someone to hear this. i need help.
if you made this this far, thank you for hearing me.