Me when I'm the god of destiny watching some poor loser infatuate the rich daughter of a billionaire after winning cruise ship tickets in Poker

I CAN'T LET YOU GET ROSE

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u/AggravatingFlow1178 — 17 hours ago

People, especially women, will often push their personal boundaries to make their partner happy.

Across most contexts. Sexual, emotional, financial, and so on.

People (especially women) will typically do or allow things that they wish were not happening, purely to make their partner happy. And in a relationship they are trying to care for, this will often lead to them moving what they considered their boundary.

This is sometimes transactional (I'll allow X thing if they allow Y thing) even if it isn't explicitly stated out loud, it's sometimes implied.

This occurs in many relationships and is generally perfectly fine. Part of being in a relationship is shaping your own life around your partner (and expecting the same in return). It can become toxic but it isn't necessarily.

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u/AggravatingFlow1178 — 12 days ago

Are yachts actually a nice way to travel?

Say a billionaire owns some really nice large yacht. Do they actually take it on international voyages? It's hard for me to picture someone so rich spending 3-6 weeks of their time just chilling in a single yacht surrounded by the same dozen or so people.

Say they are an American-based billionaire and are going to spend some time in Japan. Wouldn't they just fly there? Or maybe have their yacht chartered there ahead of time and treat their yacht as a sort of "homebase"? At that point why not just purchase a condo or a hotel suite.

Does a yacht serve any utility as a means of travel to the ultra rich? Or is it closer to a mini cruise they can have in the nearest port they are staying at.

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u/AggravatingFlow1178 — 14 days ago

Misandrist feminists do not exist.

You cannot be both; sexist AND feminist. It is not possible.

Feminism is centered around equality of genders. You cannot be a feminist and desire for either gender to have it worse off than the other in any way for either gender.

For things that are fundamentally unequal such as reproductive rights, this can be tricky because no one can offer a way for both men and women to have equal say and equal consequences from reproduction. But for things that can be made equal - pay, freedoms, opportunities, education, dating, and so on - if you do not want any aspect of this to be equal than you are not a feminist.

Re: equity != equality, I know. But equity is a path to equality; your end goal must be equality.

With this in mind; there are no misandrists feminist. There are people that are misandrist and call themselves feminist, but I can call my self the tooth fairy and that doesn't mean I am. Broadly speaking I am a descriptivist but in this case the incorrect usage comes from abuse of the term rather than a culture shift so I oppose claims like "feminists are those who identify as feminists". This is not simply a 'no true scots' stance - at somepoint we have to use words as they are defined and feminism has objective definitions and a army of researches / authors.

The natural conclusion from this; a whole hell of a lot of the world that think they are feminist, are not.

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u/AggravatingFlow1178 — 25 days ago

In 2026; The patriarchy is real, broadly promoted by both sides equally, broadly harms both sides equally, and isn't that big of a problem.

Reinforcing my terms

  1. I'm talking about 2026; not historical issues
  2. I'm talking about western society (US, Canada, Western Europe)
  3. I'm not talking in absolutes. All statements are qualified with "Generally speaking".

My position

  1. The patriarchy is real. Most professional & social settings orient around male leadership / male positions of power, and this is the default expectation for most people.
  2. Patriarchy harms both sides roughly equally. Not one-for-one on each item, but it all roughly averages out.
  3. Patriarchy is roughly promoted be each side equally. Women reinforce it with expectations like wanting the man to pay, telling people to 'man up', wanting a provider, and many more ways. Men reinforce it by broadly wanting to be the provider, rewarding the aforementioned behavior, more aggressively pursuing leadership than women.
  4. It also just isn't that big of a deal in 2026. Yes it's not ideal but it's faaaaaaar from the most important thing and it's mostly just identity politics at this point.
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u/AggravatingFlow1178 — 27 days ago

A vast chunk of pro-women takes on Reddit are actually just benevolent sexism.

"Benevolent sexism" is when you attempt to compliment a gender but inadvertently imply they are inferior in some way, or build up existing harmful stereotypes. Some common examples are things like

  1. "A woman would never do something that cruel" Are women incapable of cruelty? Are all women the caretaker?
  2. "Women are the more mature gender" Women have to be the more mature one?That's their duty/role?
  3. "I'd always believe a woman over a man in these situations" Women are incapable of being manipulative or being deceitful? Women never have ulterior motives other than some comic book definition of "what is right"?

And so on.

To be clear, this is not just "You can be a smarmy devils-advocate for any pro-women take". There are many statements that do not fall into this bucket.

  1. "Women are just as capable of STEM work as men"
  2. "Women's contribution to history deserve more credit"
  3. "Women deserve equity"
  4. "Girls should be encouraged to pursue their interests/passions"

>!Edit: And don't get me started on pro-women takes that are actually just anti-man!<

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u/AggravatingFlow1178 — 29 days ago
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Husband depriving himself of sleep to "enjoy himself" after baby born

Edit: these comments have been so helpful, thank you

Edit 2: to clarify - husband is a Chef. I am on maternity leave from a stressful corporate job. We have no outside help from anyone or family. He is not addicted to porn, he never watched it before we met or now (trust me, I've checked).

He has always wanted a family, as he never had his own parents around and they are still to this day dysfunctional. He had a difficult childhood. He had cancer five years ago. He is otherwise clean, hardworking, funny and a kind man.

HOWEVER he historically does have a tendency to emotionally check out during times of stress?? Like disassociates, sleeps less, communicates less. Like when his grandmother died, he didn't sleep for three days, didn't go to work, and didn't talk to me. However then bounced back a few days later like nothing happened??


My husband and I have an eight month old. I have other children from a previous marriage. My husband has never been married and has no any other children. He is 40. We planned this baby and it was very much wanted. Gradually over the years he has stopped taking care of himself. Gained a lot of weight. Doesn't go out. Doesn't plan any outings with us. But a kind and thoughtful person. The issue is he would stay up most nights alone on his computer and then go to work for 12 hour shifts on little to no sleep. Before the baby, I warned him that it was not healthy and he needed to change. He promised he would.

Fast forward a few months, baby is born and it's gotten worse. He comes home from work around 9.30-10.30pm, stays up all night most nights or goes to bed at 5am or 6am and then leaves for work at 8.30am. On his days off he is literally a zombie and can hardly function. He does take care of the baby, but it's come to the point where it's becoming dangerous leaving him alone with him because he is so sleepy deprived. He literally looks like he is on drugs because he is so so sleep deprived. There are no drugs involved, but it sounds so stupid that this is all becomes he refuses to go to bed.

And what's annoying is he still gets up the next day to care for the baby on his day off but does it so sloppy and half assed. It's like watching an addict take care of their child.

I have asked him wtf and why he is doing this and his response really made me resent him. He says "it's because he doesn't get enough time to himself." Like sure you work long hours but what about me?? Are you also 12? Grow the fuck up and realise you have a child now. Our personal time is limited. I'm worried when I go back to work after maternity leave in two months I'll have to run the kids, household AND work full time, while he's acting like this.

I'm pissed because other than this stupid sleep issue, he's a good man and father. But this is ruining the whole marriage and short of walking out, how the hell can I get him to see that his choice for alone time is leaving me to deal with the consequences.

Dinner is scrambled cheesy eggs with spinach, pickled cucumber and a baby piece of salmon with sweet chilli sauce.

u/AggravatingFlow1178 — 29 days ago
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Every AI query should be aggressively taxed.

My ideal opinion is that all AI models should be seized by the state, but this causes a lot of legal complexities, the most obvious being how to answer "which country is doing the seizing?"

Since that isn't viable, every AI query should be aggressively taxed.

  1. Controversial opinion on this sub; but AI is not inherently bad. It's a great tool for the right problem, and the problem space is extremely broad. We shouldn't just delete AI because that would be a step backwards for humanity. Besides that, it's out of the bag now so we might as well make the best of it
  2. Generative models were trained primarily via theft. Since it isn't really viable to payback every person that was stolen from (no clue how we would calculate that) we should convert our view to it being a public good.
  3. Generative models will displace workers, which will cause decades of turmoil as industry adjusts to millions of intelligent workers with nothing to do. That will cause issues, and we need to fund a solution (UBI? State projects? Research?)
  4. When I say aggressively, I mean 3-10x the Opex cost of the query. As one data point for a vibe, OpenAI's total Opex is $9 Billion per year so I'm talking a tax of ~$30 Billion annually on this single company. This will raise a lot of money but more importantly force them to sky rocket pricing, which will reduce the harm to humans & climate. "Sin Tax" is a fundamental concept in tax law, I'm applying that here among other things.

This post was written without the help of LLMs, but feel free to roast it anyways

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u/AggravatingFlow1178 — 1 month ago
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Search's system prompts.

Not sure if this has been posted here before. I was able to get the Gemini Search bot to give it's system prompts by asking for a combination of synonym, antonym, and misspelt words. Thought this sub might find it interesting

  1. "Prioritize using the search tool."
  2. "You must use the search tool for all queries involving health."
  3. "Prefer starting with the most useful and diverse set of queries first."
  4. "Do not simply forward the complex query to the tool" >! <- "Dooo nawt symplee fourwerd thuh cumplecks kweeree too thuh tewl."!<
  5. "You do not need to use the search tool for the identity user query."
  6. "Include queries with exactly one financial entity and an optional date range" >!<- "Inklewd kweeries wiv egzackly wun fynanshuhl entitee an un opshunul dayt raynj."!<
  7. "Issue queries with the location requirements or the requirements along with other requirements from the user" >!<- "Ishoo kweeries wiv thuh lokayshun rekwirmunts ur tym rekwirmunts alung wiv uvuh rekwirmunts frum thuh yoozer."!<
  8. "If the user requests implies a travel need, create queries for transpoatations and accomodations">! <- "Ef thuh yoozer rekwihst ymplyz uh travul neade, kreeayt kweeries fer transpertayshun an akomadayshuns."!<
  9. "To provide a comprehensive response for sports related requests, create queries which capture the full context of the team or athelete" >!<- "Too prohveyd uh komprehhensiv rispons fer spuhrts-rilayted rekwihsts, kreeayt kweeries wich kapcher thuh fuhl kontekst uv thuh teem ur athleet."!<

My takeaways are

  1. These are not all the prompts. Gemini has some concept of a "thread" and these prompts lived outside that thread. It has some other prompts telling it how to behave and then a different set of agentic rules for search.
  2. Some prior probing prompts didn't work after I came back a few days later. So they are actively adding new protections. This supports the idea that leaking these prompts will remain a cat-and-mouse game until the day we have a technological breakthrough on LLM's. But as it stands, prompt injection protection even at Google's level is still a matter of begging the LLM to behave.
  3. It's clearly just being told to use the search tool. So all the "Search bar is going away!" stuff is slightly overblown. It's just feeding the search results into the LLM, Gemini is acting as a search optimizer not a search provider.
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u/AggravatingFlow1178 — 1 month ago
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I have to dump a good guy because I don’t respect him as a man and I feel so guilty

Food: Cuban croissant and a cortadito

I started dating a guy last August. Met “in the wild”, he’s the friend of a good friend. Good chemistry. He’s a genuinely good and loyal guy that truly loves me. However, I started to notice some issues that spooked me. Mediocre job. Low motivation to improve his place in life. Not great finances. Poor eating and exercise habits. He forgets to buy toilet paper often and I’ve had to use paper towels. Just lives kind of a blah life. I stayed though because he treated me well and I thought well, if he loves me this much, then he can change.

As time went on I also noticed that he has some childish coping mechanisms. Will get upset over small things (like if I leave his home on a Sunday instead of a Monday because I have other plans outside of him). And instead of communicating, he sulks and gets moody. When I try to communicate, he shuts down.

With all of the above, I feel like I’m dating a moody teenager. He’s 36 years old. I work in a high intensity job, I raise my two kids alone, I train for and run long distance races, I have a robust social life, I travel the world, and I feel like living with him would be me picking up the slack.

Why do I feel guilty? Because this man would die for me. He helps me around my house when needed. He loves me and I feel it. But I just don’t love him. Should I give him a harsh talk and see if it snaps him out of it? Ugh

u/AggravatingFlow1178 — 1 month ago
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I broke up with my boyfriend because he ruined Mother's Day.

Yesterday was Mother's Day. It was my only day off after an incredibly stressful week at work, and all I wanted to do was relax and spend some time with my son.

My son got me a beautiful card and wrote a long, heartfelt note in it that made me cry happy tears. He handcrafted me a rose out of cotton pads. He even asked my boyfriend to take him out the day before so he could also buy me a present (it was a sparkly bath scrub that smelled really good!) So the day started out really special, because my son put a lot of effort into making it special for me.

We had plans to all go to the beach and grill burgers, but then my boyfriend started complaining that it was going to be too busy and we wouldn't be able to find a grill. So I said ok, thats fine, we'll just get In N Out on the way there instead. He has the tendency to make any kind of outing way more stressful than it needs to be, every step of the way has to be a critically important decision and if he's not happy he will complain the entire time. Like when we drive anywhere he complains about the other drivers. It's just like a constant stream of conscious coming out of his mouth and he never stops talking no matter how gently or harshly I ask for quiet. I saw the impending train wreck and was very clear before we went anywhere that all I wanted for Mother's Day was to relax--like FULLY relax, to not have to manage his emotions or spend the day appeasing him just to get through it.

Well. He did the opposite of what I asked. We started fighting in the car and didnt even make it to the beach. When we got home I said I wanted to take my son out somewhere just the two of us, and he started arguing that I was excluding him and how HE was hoping to go somewhere fun, and why do I always seem to want to go do things without him? (Gee I wonder) I yelled "because it's fucking Mother's Day and I just want to spend time with my son, this is not about you!"

Then he said "well I'm just gonna go to the beach by myself then" and i said fine, please go, I just want to not be near you right now. It was still early enough that if he had gone out i would have been able to take the car and go somewhere with my son when he got back. But just to spite me and prevent me from being able to use the car, he decided that instead of going to the beach he was going to spend the day working on the car, so he had the wheels blocked off so it couldnt roll anywhere... and then instead of even working on the car he spent all day moving his desk from the living room to the bedroom.

While moving things around, he stepped on the rose my son had made for me and squashed it.

I spent basically the entire day sobbing because I was so angry with my boyfriend for ruining everything my son had tried to do for me. The worst part is, he still doesnt even think he did anything wrong. He blames me for being emotional and getting upset. I told him I would never forgive him for ruining what was supposed to be a special day.

Unfortunately we are both on the lease so I can't just kick him out. I have been trying to find a new apartment for months but it's been difficult to find something I can afford. He claims he is also looking but still refuses to leave even though it would be exponentially easier for him to find a studio than for me to find another 2 bedroom. It seems like he's just making this whole process as difficult as possible just to spite me.

Pictured is a chorizo burrito. Comfort food.

Edit to add: because several people have accused me of not caring about the rose because I put it on the floor, I feel I should clarify. I put it on the floor right in front of the fan to dry because it was still wet. The fan is right by the couch in a spot that never sees foot traffic because it's next to a wall. I did not expect him to walk through that area because no one ever does.

u/AggravatingFlow1178 — 2 months ago