u/Aggressive-Hall-560

Looking for the voodoo vanilla specifically

My husband is currently stationed at fort Campbell. We’ve been together for 10 years, married for 6. We have 4 children. I go to school full time, I graduate in a few months, and have stayed home with our children since their births. This year all 4 will be in school, and I have a part time job lined up during the week. We’ve accumulated some credit card debt and have a car loan. We’ve agreed to separate and I don’t want to leave him all of the debt plus child support but I know I can’t afford both. He has orders to Hawaii for next June and me and the children will not be going with him. I can move back home to Ohio and stay with my parents until I can afford a place on my own. For the most part it’s been very amicable. But he’s a habitual cheater and helps with none of the parenting. Sounds terrible to admit but life truly is more peaceful when he’s gone. I can see the difference in my children. I offered to make the trip once or twice a year so he can see them but he doesnt have any intentions on fighting me for any custody or placement. My issue is, I have no income and terrible credit so how else am I to get a lawyer? Unfortunately we do live on the KY side of post, I’m not even sure that fully matters depending on where I can file. But I would like to start this process and see what my options are.

My husband is currently stationed at fort Campbell. We’ve been together for 10 years, married for 6. We have 4 children. I go to school full time, I graduate in a few months, and have stayed home with our children since their births. This year all 4 will be in school, and I have a part time job lined up during the week. We’ve accumulated some credit card debt and have a car loan. We’ve agreed to separate and I don’t want to leave him all of the debt plus child support but I know I can’t afford both. He has orders to Hawaii for next June and me and the children will not be going with him. I can move back home to Ohio and stay with my parents until I can afford a place on my own. For the most part it’s been very amicable. But he’s a habitual cheater and helps with none of the parenting. Sounds terrible to admit but life truly is more peaceful when he’s gone. I can see the difference in my children. I offered to make the trip once or twice a year so he can see them but he doesnt have any intentions on fighting me for any custody or placement. My issue is, I have no income and terrible credit so how else am I to get a lawyer? Unfortunately we do live on the KY side of post, I’m not even sure that fully matters depending on where I can file. But I would like to start this process and see what my options are.

I am female 27, and have 3 biological children with my ex husband. I am now about to be married to the love of my life, male 28, who has no child of his own. 5 years ago I had my daughter and had my tubes removed. Two of three of the children were conceived while I was on birth control and I couldn’t handle the mental load of another baby. All of my kids are less than 18 months apart. At the time of this decision I knew my marriage wouldn’t last much longer and needed to assure I wouldn’t have another baby with my ex. Our marriage was toxic and abusive. During our divorce proceedings I had 3 abnormal Pap smears and after more testing and scans, they found cancerous cells on my cervix and precancerous cells in my uterus. I had a long family history of uterine and cervical cancer. At the time I knew I wouldn’t want to risk anything, so I made the decision to get a partial hysterectomy. I’d rather be here and healthy for my children than risk my life for a potential future. I still have my ovaries and am healed and healthy. Fast forward 3 years and I am divorced but have a relit flame and amazing love with my fiancé. I truly am so lucky to have a love like this. But I regret my decisions everyday and so deeply wish I could give him a child of his own. He’s amazing with my children and deserves a love like no other. He’s the only son and the last of their last name. Fortunately he’s given me the privilege of being a stay at home parent while I maintain the home and homeschool my children. But that comes with the cost of 1 income. I know surrogacy could give us this wish. We know woman who would carry our child but I genuinely don’t believe we could afford the entire process. I know uterus transplants are possible now but unfortunately I am in a region where no one is preforming them. What are our options, costs, and process so I can give this man the baby he deserves?