I really need a part time job to fill my summer break. Has anyone worked in any of these stores? What was your experience if so, and do you recommend anywhere else to apply to? I want to make at-least 17/hr 🤞🏻 I have experience as a barista at Einstein Bros Bagels and worked part time in other places like AJs before.
I need advice about a friendship because I feel very irritated around her lately but I also don’t want to ruin the friendship or create drama. I have a close long-term friend since 1st grade and we’re very intertwined socially. same masjid/community, college, scholarship, our moms are friends, were invited to the same events, and see each other constantly. So this is why I’ve avoided turning something to a big deal.
The issue is that she tells her mom and sister EVERYTHING about me. And I mean EVERYTHING. Not just serious things. Literally random details too..
And then for some reason she reports back about how her and her mom were talking about me.
Sometimes I tell her a random story of something that happened and the next day she’ll say she told her mom about it. It doesn’t matter how irrelevant it is. Something about my brother, my cat, a professor I have, etc. This isn’t inheritly bad, but I guess I just didn’t expect such a little thing to be shared with her family?.. She doesn’t talk about me in a bad way per se, but the fact that she’s talking about me at all makes me feel weird. Maybe I overly value privacy and my body always recoils when someone makes it clear that they keep tabs on me.
Examples of things she’s told me:
“My mom and I were talking about how lucky your mom is that her marriage is good when her sisters marriages weren’t.”
“My mom and I were talking about your house is big and nice for hosting events.”
She asks if I like my sister in law and what I think about her. then telling me things like: “she’s so brave for moving to a new state for a man. I could never do that. But good thing she has a good mother in law like your mom.” I dont know if im reading into it but the way she said it irked me.
She sometimes makes weird comments that seem backhanded. We’re going on our first girls trip together next week and staying at her sisters apartment. Her sister asked her if she could stay with her longer to spend time together and I could go home alone. She immediately said I wouldn’t be able to make my way around the airport and back home alone since I’m so bad with directions. I said “um, no im sure I could ask people for help or use maps if im lost” but she insisted that I couldn’t.
And maybe these comments sound harmless individually, but it’s CONSTANT. It feels like my life and family are always being discussed/analyzed in another household. She just loves being nosy in everyone’s business and gossiping. She’s also very aware of it and doesn’t care. Her sister and her are in a gc with some other girl and all they do on there is “spill tea”. She was showing me their messages and the girl said something like “I have tea but you guys can’t tell anyone” and I’ve seen them screenshot a girl they knows instagram post and zoom in on her lips, saying it’s so obvious that she got filler. In my head I’m just like “genuinely who tf cares?” It just makes me so so uncomfortable because I know that her and her sister talk about me and I’m not immune to this gossip they do.
What makes it worse is that she openly admits she’s nosy. Whenever I react awkwardly and say things like:
“Wait, why did you tell your mom that?”
“Umm.. Why were you guys talking about me?”
“You tell your mom everything don’t you?”
she just laughs and says:
“Oh you know me, my mom and I are best friends!” or “That’s just how sisters are, trust me”
I don’t have a sister and I’m not super emotionally close with my mom in that way, so maybe I just don’t relate to that dynamic. But I genuinely cannot imagine discussing my friends’ lives with my family THIS much. Im getting really sick of this trait specifically. I DO care about her and we’ve had a close friendship for years. I don’t want to cut her off and I don’t want her thinking I secretly hate her. But I also know this isn’t something she’s going to change because her mom and sister are the exact same way and she has been like this her whole life. If I did directly tell her to stop, I think she’d keep telling her family things but maybe stop informing me that they were talking about me.
Her parents are divorced so I get thats why she’s super close with her mom, and I empathize with that, but I also just don’t care enough to keep putting up with it. It’s been bothering me so much for months so I brought it up to my therapist and she said that my friend is likely using my family/home situation as a reference point for what a “normal” family looks like where the parents are still together. I just feel uncomfortable when shes at my house because I know she’s analyzing all the family dynamics and reporting it back to her mom.
Now I’m about to go on my first girls trip with her and her sister and honestly I’m dreading it because I already know they’re both very nosy and a little too crazy for me. How do I survive this trip without becoming irritated the entire time? And if they ask me something I don’t wanna share, how do I respectfully tell them to mind their own business? And is this really a sisters thing that I just don’t get or are they doing too much?
Just finished my sophomore year of college, and I’ve been dreading summer break the last few months. I thrive off structured routines and I end up just rotting in bed almost every summer break. I also get so irritated from the heat since I live in a state that goes over 100° and I don’t like being home all day with my family. Usually I’d go to the library to do hw or a school event as an excuse but now I have nothing to study for. I’m applying to easy part time jobs like cashier/barista to meet new people and have more structure, but other than that I’m not sure what to do with my time.
I’ve always wanted to have a hobby, but nothing has ever clicked. I’ve spent to much money on things like a sewing machine+fabrics+patterns, yarn for knitting, polymer clay for making charms, paint and canvases, etc. I don’t really enjoy doing them since they don’t turn out well. Maybe my perspective on hobbies is all screwed but I just feel like I have no talents. It seems like people around me have something that they’re good at, like a sport they’ve been in since childhood or they’re very artistic and love to crochet. If I try a hobby at home I don’t end up practicing enough and get demotivated, so I should probably sign up for a payed class that will force me to go and learn the hobby from a teacher. I’m thinking archery, ceramics, jewelry making, or a culinary class. Another thing is I want to do is get into reading. I haven’t read a book in probably years... my attention span is fried. I usually only read manga and manhwas 😅 If anyone has easy recommendations I would love to try. I have a library card. I read most of Days at the Morisaki Bookshop which was a cute simple read.
I would love to hear some recommendations of how to make the most of my summer break. I won’t be traveling anywhere. Maybe volunteering at a cat shelter or a place with horses, not sure though!
My younger brother is turning 10 and we have no idea what to do for his bday. He’s sick of the jumping/trampoline places like KTR and slick city. His last bday was at the fountain hills park but we’re thinking something bigger for the double digits birthday. Is there anything unique around north Scottsdale or Tempe for boys to do? He loves Minecraft, cars (especially BMWs), and cats
I’m 19F 150lbs and my whole life I’ve just had such a hard time with water. It’s very embarrassing because I sound like a discord incel user so I don’t tell any of my friends but it’s getting to a point where I need to make a change. My problem is I DONT EVER feel thirsty. Ever. I live in Arizona which means I need to drink even more than the average person. I just never feel the need to drink it. My doctors always tell me I’m very dehydrated. Whenever I get my blood drawn my veins are too thin and they can tell I don’t drink water from just looking at my urine tests too. I’ll bring a water bottle with me to campus but I just carry it around all day and take two sips. I’m always light headed and my hair+skin are dry and I know drinking water will help a lot but I can’t. Idk if it’s an adhd thing where I forget or my body has adapted to not feel thirsty but I can go a whole day without drinking any water. I don’t drink sodas or sparkled water but I do drink the Lipton diet iced tea which is 5 cals bc i think it tastes good. I’ve tried fridge water, filtered tap water, bottled water, everything. I struggle with feeling naseous all the time and it gives me a weird throwing up feeling when I do drink it. I’ve tried different brands of electrolytes like LMNT or Gatorade liquid flavoring but I always forget to add it in my water + it tastes so artificial. Idk what to do bc summer is coming up and it’s going to be 100°+.. the only time I ever feel thirsty is when I go to the gym, I can chug a whole bottle in a minute. I don’t know what to do but I just can’t get myself to even drink 1L of water and my goal is 2+