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Help! I bought a medium panthere Cartier today and I’m so torn. I went in looking for small and ended up with the medium. They’re out of stock in small and the SA convinced me it looked better on me.

I keep going back and forth - small is dantier and in my opinion feels more like a bracelet, a little more chic ? But then the medium feels like something I could wear a lot to work w a button down and jeans. Ugh I don’t know!!

My dad has passed. He was diagnosed with waldenstroms at 57 and lived a relatively healthy life for the past 15 years. He was one of the unlucky ones - in November he saw his oncologist for his six month check up and his immunity was unusually low. From there , his health declined..he fractured his back, became inconstinent and eventually was diagnosed with aggressive dbcbl. By the time the doctors caught it in the prostate, a location where lymphoma is incredibly uncommon, it was too late. My dad was too weak to fight. It’s incredible how fast this all happened. He was 73. From the latest diagnosis, he died within a month….he was an incredibly special person and father. I’m heartbroken.

Turns out my dad is too weak for chemo, and his doctors are recommending hospice. I don’t think I truly understood how little time I might have left with him until now.

I’m feeling lost, heartbroken, and honestly pretty traumatized by how quickly everything has happened. Part of me is angry that we didn’t catch this earlier. They suspected something but couldn’t find proof. We watched him decline over the past few months, but there were always explanations, delays, complications, and hope that we’d have more time. I keep wondering if things would be different if we’d known sooner and he had at least gotten the chance to fight it with chemo.

At the same time, I know there are no guarantees. Even with treatment, especially at his age, the outcome might have been the same. My mind just keeps replaying all the “what ifs.”

For those who have been through something similar, how did you cope with the guilt, anger, and anticipatory grief? I feel completely unprepared for this.

My 73-year-old dad has had Waldenström macroglobulinemia (WM) for years and was able to live with it without major issues. Earlier this year, his bloodwork showed it had become active, and he started Brukinsa.

Around the same time, he suffered a spinal fracture that doctors believe was related to the lymphoma and spent about a month in the hospital.

He also began having severe urinary issues and eventually couldn’t urinate on his own. He had a catheter for a prolonged period and developed multiple UTIs. After undergoing Aquablation surgery for what was thought to be a prostate issue, pathology revealed diffuse large B-cell lymphoma (DLBCL), and his doctors told us his WM had transformed into an aggressive lymphoma. The current plan is R-CHOP chemotherapy.

Right now, he’s in severe pain and has just been readmitted to the hospital with another UTI. Last night he became confused, didn’t know where he was, had urinary incontinence, and my mom called 911.

I’m struggling to understand what is from the lymphoma versus the infection versus the recent surgery. Has anyone experienced WM transforming into DLBCL? How did treatment go? Did anyone see improvement after starting R-CHOP, even if things looked pretty bleak beforehand?

Any experiences

My 73-year-old dad has had Waldenström macroglobulinemia (WM) for years and was able to live with it without major issues. Earlier this year, his bloodwork showed it had become active, and he started Brukinsa.

Around the same time, he suffered a spinal fracture that doctors believe was related to the lymphoma and spent about a month in the hospital.

He also began having severe urinary issues and eventually couldn’t urinate on his own. He had a catheter for a prolonged period and developed multiple UTIs. After undergoing Aquablation surgery for what was thought to be a prostate issue, pathology revealed diffuse large B-cell lymphoma (DLBCL), and his doctors told us his WM had transformed into an aggressive lymphoma. The current plan is R-CHOP chemotherapy.

Right now, he’s in severe pain and has just been readmitted to the hospital with another UTI. Last night he became confused, didn’t know where he was, had urinary incontinence, and my mom called 911.

I’m struggling to understand what is from the lymphoma versus the infection versus the recent surgery. Has anyone experienced WM transforming into DLBCL? How did treatment go? Did anyone see improvement after starting R-CHOP, even if things looked pretty bleak beforehand?

Any experiences or thoughts would be greatly appreciated.