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Tentei retomar contato com uma pessoa q me afastei. Mas Desde terça que ele não me responde. Ele disse que iria ler e responder logo, que iria ajudar a mãe com a mudança e depois responderia mas não me respondeu mais, no dia seguinte só começou digitar e depois parava, digitava e parava mas não mandou nada. Será que não gostou do que leu?
Tentei retomar contato com uma pessoa q me afastei. Mas Desde terça que ele não me responde. Ele disse que iria ler e responder logo, que iria ajudar a mãe com a mudança e depois responderia mas não me respondeu mais, no dia seguinte só começou digitar e depois parava, digitava e parava mas não mandou nada. Será que não gostou do que leu?
Hi everyone, I need some honest perspective on a situation that is leaving me completely confused.
I (F25) used to work with this guy (M22) in the past, but we had never actually talked back then. He always seemed to be a very quiet guy, keeping to himself. Some time passed, I found his Instagram and decided to message him. He replied really well, seemed very excited, and confessed that he had always found me beautiful but was afraid to talk to me because I was always busy working or in the cafeteria.
We talked for a while and eventually set up our first date. During the date, he seemed kind of nervous. At the beginning, he didn't say anything, he was just quiet. He stuttered once while talking to me, seemed agitated, was fidgeting with his fingers, moving objects around on the table, and kept looking around. However, we stayed there for three hours, and he didn't exactly seem shy, just very quiet—I don't really know how to explain it. When we were outside waiting for the Uber, he didn't say anything, he didn't kiss me, and he didn't even sit next to me.
But right after, he sent me a message asking what I thought about the date. He said he was worried about whether I felt comfortable with him there and asked for my honest opinion. I told him I liked it.
After that, however, he never asked me out again, claiming he was having financial problems. But he kept talking to me everyday—sometimes he was cold, he wouldn't initiate conversations, and it was mostly just "good morning" and "good night" texts. During this time, I questioned him about whether he was actually interested, and he insisted he was, saying that if he wasn't, he would have been direct with me from the very beginning.
Some time passed, and he finally tried to ask me out again for something simple, mostly because I had called him out about it weeks prior. He said he was going to look for a place to go, but he kept stalling and procrastinating, so I eventually pulled away.
A month and a few weeks passed without any contact. I decided to add him on Facebook, and he accepted. A week later, I messaged him. He replied, but again, without initiating any actual conversation; he would only answer my questions but with a lot of details. Yesterday, I decided to message him again, but he hasn't replied at all.
What happened? Is it possible that he was never actually interested in me?
TL;DR: Messaged a former coworker (M22) who confessed he always found me (F25) beautiful. On our first date, he was extremely quiet, nervous, fidgeting, and didn't even try to kiss me. Afterward, he blamed financial issues for not asking me out again, became cold, and procrastinated when trying to schedule something simple. After a month of no contact, I reached out on Facebook. He answers my questions with details but has zero initiative, and now he hasn't replied to my last message since yesterday. Was he never interested?
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Hi everyone, I need some honest perspective on a situation that is leaving me completely confused.
I (F25) used to work with this guy (M22) in the past, but we had never actually talked back then. He always seemed to be a very quiet guy, keeping to himself. Some time passed, I found his Instagram and decided to message him. He replied really well, seemed very excited, and confessed that he had always found me beautiful but was afraid to talk to me because I was always busy working or in the cafeteria.
We talked for a while and eventually set up our first date. During the date, he seemed kind of nervous. At the beginning, he didn't say anything, he was just quiet. He stuttered once while talking to me, seemed agitated, was fidgeting with his fingers, moving objects around on the table, and kept looking around. However, we stayed there for three hours, and he didn't exactly seem shy, just very quiet—I don't really know how to explain it. When we were outside waiting for the Uber, he didn't say anything, he didn't kiss me, and he didn't even sit next to me.
But right after, he sent me a message asking what I thought about the date. He said he was worried about whether I felt comfortable with him there and asked for my honest opinion. I told him I liked it.
After that, however, he never asked me out again, claiming he was having financial problems. But he kept talking to me everyday—sometimes he was cold, he wouldn't initiate conversations, and it was mostly just "good morning" and "good night" texts. During this time, I questioned him about whether he was actually interested, and he insisted he was, saying that if he wasn't, he would have been direct with me from the very beginning.
Some time passed, and he finally tried to ask me out again for something simple, mostly because I had called him out about it weeks prior. He said he was going to look for a place to go, but he kept stalling and procrastinating, so I eventually pulled away.
A month and a few weeks passed without any contact. I decided to add him on Facebook, and he accepted. A week later, I messaged him. He replied, but again, without initiating any actual conversation; he would only answer my questions but with a lot of details. Yesterday, I decided to message him again, but he hasn't replied at all.
What happened? Is it possible that he was never actually interested in me?
TL;DR: Messaged a former coworker (M22) who confessed he always found me (F25) beautiful. On our first date, he was extremely quiet, nervous, fidgeting, and didn't even try to kiss me. Afterward, he blamed financial issues for not asking me out again, became cold, and procrastinated when trying to schedule something simple. After a month of no contact, I reached out on Facebook. He answers my questions with details but has zero initiative, and now he hasn't replied to my last message since yesterday. Was he never interested?
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Hi everyone, I need some outside perspective on a situation that’s leaving me completely confused.
I (F25) used to work at the same place as this guy (M22) in the past, but we never actually talked back then. Earlier this year, I decided to take the initiative and messaged him on WhatsApp. We started talking and eventually set up a date.
During our first date, he was an absolute nervous wreck. His hands were literally shaking, he was stuttering, moving objects around on the table, and completely froze at the end. Despite his extreme nerves, he told me he had a great time and asked me to be honest about my feelings. I told him I liked him too.
Right after that date, the dynamic changed. He kept texting daily, but his replies became super slow and he stopped asking anything about me. Our conversations turned into a monologue where I would ask about him, he’d reply in detail, but never ask "and you?".
When I asked him to go out again, he made excuses about a workplace accident and later confessed (after I posted a quote on my status about men with no initiative) that he was going through severe financial issues and that's why he couldn't take me out. I was super understanding and told him we could just do something simple and free, like a walk. He agreed, said he'd look for a place, but then procrastinated for 3 days when it was time to actually pick a spot. I got tired of the lack of effort and ended things. We didn't speak for over a month.
Recently, I added him on Facebook, he accepted, and I messaged him a casual "hi". He replied and we exchanged a few messages. I asked about his job, and he gave me a very detailed reply explaining he is now doing freelance graphic design and working with Shopee e-commerce. I replied to that message yesterday at 9:04 PM, and he hasn't said anything back yet.
I'm torn. He was genuinely nervous on our date (so I know there was some kind of interest), and he clearly feels comfortable enough to vent to me about his life and job. What makes a guy go from being that nervous around a girl to being this cold, slow, and completely passive? Did he lose interest, or is he just consumed by his financial problems and low self-esteem?
TL;DR: Messaged a former coworker (M22) earlier this year. He trembled with nerves on our first date, then went completely passive, hiding behind financial issues. I cut contact, but reached out again a month later. He responds to my questions but has zero initiative and has now left my last message unanswered since yesterday. What's going on in his mind?
Pedem meu número e quando a conversa vai para o whatsapp, não demonstram curiosidade em me conhecer melhor, a conversa gira em torno deles, não perguntam sobre os meus gostos, oque estou fazendo, sobre meu dia aí deixam a conversa morrer
já aconteceu de vocês acharem uma mulher bonita, boa e parecida com vocês no começo, que fazia de tudo, mas decidiram não levar adiante porque acabaram se interessando por outra?
Homens, já aconteceu de vocês deixarem de lado uma mulher bonita, boa parecida com vocês, que ia atrás, fazia de tudo por vocês, mas decidiram não levar adiante porque acabaram se interessando mais pela outra?
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Sou mais introvertida, na minha. Não tenho muita experiência em namoro, quase 30 anos. só namorei um vez depois de muitas tentativas achei alguém mas foi um namoro curto. Não é qualquer um que desperta meu interesse. Ele era bonito e estável financeiramente, foi ele quem se aproximou na época, fazia de tudo por mim mas não sei se ele foi mal caráter ou se o problema foi eu, ele sumiu após um desentendimento. namoro foi curto, isso já tem dois anos, vi q ele arrumou outra parece feliz e apaixonado nas redes sociais. desde esse namoro que tive com ele, não consigo arrumar ninguém, quando aparece n vai pra frente ou perdem interesse do nada, não se esforçam mesmo quando vou atrás e me esforço. Vejo tantas mulheres q chamam atenção, arrumam namoro fácil longos e duradouros. e nem são as mais belas. E quando gosto de alguém e não dá certo, fico num hiperfoco desgracado na pessoa que é difícil de esquecer
Sou mais introvertida, na minha. Não tenho muita experiência em namoro, só namorei um vez depois de muitas tentativas achei alguém mas foi um namoro curto. Não é qualquer um que desperta meu interesse. Ele era bonito e estável financeiramente, foi ele quem se aproximou na época, fazia de tudo por mim mas não sei se ele foi mal caráter ou se o problema foi eu, ele sumiu após um desentendimento. namoro foi curto, isso já tem dois anos, vi q ele arrumou outra parece feliz e apaixonado nas redes sociais. desde esse namoro que tive com ele, não consigo arrumar ninguém, quando aparece n vai pra frente ou perdem interesse do nada, não se esforçam mesmo quando vou atrás e me esforço. Vejo tantas mulheres q chamam atenção, arrumam namoro fácil longos e duradouros. e nem são as mais belas.