u/Alarmed_Estate5098

Me 20M and my girlfriend 19F found out we were having a child about 4 weeks ago. I mentioned an abortion which she did not agree with so I changed my mind and told her I’m going to do everything I can to raise our child. We were very happy and started planning out an entire future for us.

Fast forward 3 weeks later she tells her family about it and her family sort of didn’t agree with the child being born and did mention abortion but she did receive some support from others. We decided to have the abortion after thinking about it a lot.

A few days later after she takes the pill she starts treating me differently and distances herself. Affection is less shown, I have to initiate a hug or kiss and she just seems emotionally numbed then she says we should breakup so we can focus on ourselves.

The idea of her breaking up has affected me so much and I’m starting to fall into depression. I know abortions can destroy someone so I understand her feelings and why she wants it to be that way but it’s taken a huge toll on me. The breakup wasn’t a certain thing and she says she doesn’t know what to do.

We agreed to stay in the relationship and focus on ourselves more until we can reconcile. Our conversations are not the same we just talk about our day and things we did and want to do but it feels like we aren’t actually connected. This made be on the edge about the relationship ending and I’m trying to do better things for myself so it doesn’t hurt me as much if it does happen.

Is this due to a FPS difference? I swear I will peak and before I even have the chance to shoot I’m already dead I don’t understand it, are they just pre firing me to peaking or something?

So from what I’ve gathered throughout being an atheist, mostly all atheists have family’s who believe in a religion, but we were somehow exempt to thinking the same way our family and other people do.

We are on a completely different level of thinking and understanding compared to people who are in religions, and at some point we’ve all had the same thought of how can they believe in such things?

Majority of atheists believe in science and see the world for how it really is, and we are completely fine with knowing we don’t know everything because no human on the planet is intelligent enough to know.

Girlfriend tells me to at least try to go to church or do something to believe in god but I literally can’t believe in god, the way I think logically refuses to let me. Trust me I want to believe there is a god but I can’t. I’m not sure what to do at this point because I love her so much and it kinda means we are incompatible and obviously in the future this will affect things. We have been communicating and I told her relationships can work even they don’t have the same beliefs but she says me not believing affects her relationship with god and how she feels less close.

Girlfriend tells me to at least try to go to church or do something to believe in god but I literally can’t believe in god, the way I think logically refuses to let me. Trust me I want to believe there is a god but I can’t. I’m not sure what to do at this point because I love her so much and it kinda means we are incompatible and obviously in the future this will affect things. We have been communicating and I told her relationships can work even they don’t have the same beliefs but she says me not believing affects her relationship with god and how she feels less close.

I think religions were made of out fear and lost hope, it’s something for people to look forward too because realistically life has absolutely zero meaning besides reproducing and making sure your species never dies off just like any other living organism. There’s no real purpose at the end of life. This over time introduces the idea of something bigger than us that makes everything happen and controls everything which makes you believe there is a purpose. Animals aren’t worshipping gods out in the wild we are the only species that I know of that do this, so why would our species be superior enough to know it all? We are just trying to live like everything else is. There’s a reason why we are so controlled in today’s society and that’s because we would all be acting exactly like the animals in the wild and there would be absolutely no order in society. Some of what I stated might sound irrelevant to the topic to some but in the grand scheme of things I think it makes perfect sense. I grew up with my family going to church everyday and always worshipping god but there was one day in high school where I just thought god makes no sense to exist and from then my opinion can’t be changed based on many logical factors.