u/Alarmed_Scholar_3549

I’m a 21-year-old guy, and I connected with a 19-year-old girl through Instagram. After a few months, we started talking casually, and slowly we became close. We began sharing our day-to-day events, teasing each other, flirting quite obviously, and all of that.
As time passed, she once asked me whether I had any crushes. I said no and asked her the same question. She told me about a crush she had in her college, and apparently both of them didn’t have the courage to confess their feelings to each other. I was like, “Cool,” because at that point I wasn’t looking for a relationship with her anyway. She lived very far away, and the probability of something working out between us felt almost zero.
But as time went on, she became deeply involved in my daily life. The harmless flirting became intense, she always cared about me, and slowly I started developing feelings for her. Eventually, I asked her if she was single, and she confirmed that she was. After that, our conversations became much deeper, and honestly, I even started imagining a future with her against all odds.
But yesterday, she asked for my opinion about something, and it completely crushed me. She told me she was still in constant contact with her crush, and that they had a fight. She wanted my advice on what she should do next. I honestly didn’t know what to say, so I just told her that I didn’t want to interfere in her life choices.
I never thought I would be the kind of idiot who would believe that an online connection could actually lead to something real. After all the flirting, care, and emotional connection she showed me, I suddenly felt like I had been pushed off a mountain. It hurts badly.
Now I don’t even know if I should keep in contact with her anymore. It’s really hurting me.
Meirrr 🥲

I’m a 21-year-old guy, and I connected with a 19-year-old girl through Instagram. After a few months, we started talking casually, and slowly we became close. We began sharing our day-to-day events, teasing each other, flirting quite obviously, and all of that.
As time passed, she once asked me whether I had any crushes. I said no and asked her the same question. She told me about a crush she had in her college, and apparently both of them didn’t have the courage to confess their feelings to each other. I was like, “Cool,” because at that point I wasn’t looking for a relationship with her anyway. She lived very far away, and the probability of something working out between us felt almost zero.
But as time went on, she became deeply involved in my daily life. The harmless flirting became intense, she always cared about me, and slowly I started developing feelings for her. Eventually, I asked her if she was single, and she confirmed that she was. After that, our conversations became much deeper, and honestly, I even started imagining a future with her against all odds.
But yesterday, she asked for my opinion about something, and it completely crushed me. She told me she was still in constant contact with her crush, and that they had a fight. She wanted my advice on what she should do next. I honestly didn’t know what to say, so I just told her that I didn’t want to interfere in her life choices.
I never thought I would be the kind of idiot who would believe that an online connection could actually lead to something real. After all the flirting, care, and emotional connection she showed me, I suddenly felt like I had been pushed off a mountain. It hurts badly.
Now I don’t even know if I should keep in contact with her anymore. It’s really hurting me.
Meirrr 🥲