u/AlarmingElection9999

Bhai jis gali mein main hoon waha toh paani bhar chuka ab kaise jaun aur upar se pehla din hai as a fresher

Will the new signature be a problem cuz the document verification is done and the teacher did not objected.

Guys my application form have my 1st signature and for document verification in the bar counsel undertaking I gave another signature of mine. Will this be a problem?

And I am using my 2nd signature from now ownwards but the one in application/admission form is the former (1st) one

pls help

especially the law department one?please answer

MUJHE E MAIL AAYI HAI KE SEAT SECURE KAR DU BY PAYING ADMISSION FEE AND COUNSELLING PORTAL PAR KUCH SHOW NAHI HO RAHA

I HAVE PAID THE FEES AND MY STUDENT PORTAL IS ALSO MADE, FROM WHERE CAN I KNOW ABOUT THE COMMENCEMENT OF CLASSES AND OTHER UPDATES

Today after my relapse, I think I finally found the reason why for most of the times I relapse, although it took me like years to finally contemplate today and understand these issues, my main goal from now will be to work on them.

Inaction- this is basically the pre and post relapse problem, I get urges because I am not doing anything so I peek and eventually relapse, and it does not mean to be actively do something 24/7 but to avoid social media for when I feel the boredom kicking in. Just do something which makes you move towards your goal or career or anything you want to achieve.

Peeking- for me it can be of all type, from my imagination to just going to the site to see if I am still addicted or not to any dumb reason. If I can control the initial thought about my fantasies I get, the loop won't even start.

If you are reading this can you tell me your ways to avoid the peek you take for them dumb reasons?

I cannot afford coaching atp so I have to totally rely on online material (iykyk) for this, please help a fellow aspirant out.

For the past few days I am in this dilemma, if everything is happening according to the will of allah, then how can I give my 100% there will always be a possibility of something bad happening or something good which depends only on the qadr of allah.

I have noticed that when I try to put things on to the will of allah they usually end up worse on the contrary when I take full responsibility, it happens without any problem and eventually things get solved.

Think of it in this way, I give you some food and tell you there is poison in it and after two or three bites you will die. Would you even want to sit near that food? Absolutely not.

And that is quite the same with porn, deep down you do believe that porn actually provide something meaningful to you, something of value that you reach out to it again and again. And it could be anything maybe you "believe" that it relieves your stress or comfort or a place of belonging or a sense of comfort, it could be anything.

You need to genuinely believe that it provides nothing for you, majority of your problems stem from it and it "acts" as a solution to those very problem that it created in the first place, and to do that just understand and do as I say.

Whenever you get an urge, pause for a moment and say to yourself that, you are horny and you need sex.

And do not let the chain of thought start before it becomes a loop, because the loop is something your mind creates to go back in to the comfort zone.

Let the urge, the discomfort pass, it always does and pay no attention to it and put your mind in manual mode instead of automatic where thought comes to you but this time instead you create them thoughts for yourself. It does not need your attention, it does not need to prioritised to the point where you believe porn provides any value to you because, "you are horny because you need sex" (see how I did not even mentioned porn in this statement)

Other important points to take in to consideration-

1. find something which you can focus on, it could be anything, maybe the project you have been avoiding or the exam you need to prepare for, anything.

"If you want to meet the devil, sit idle for a moment"

2. DO NOT PEEK IN WAY (I cannot stress this enough but do not peek and yes even creating scenarios in your head also counts because they make you remind of porn)

for the past few years I was addicted and now that I am trying to quit, this sudden wave of regret of wasting time and all that potential is killing me from inside. I wouldn't say porn was the sole cause for my inaction and inability to utilise the time and resources and understand the seriousness of the situation but I do firmly believe that, it did impaired me from reality to the point where doing anything which takes effort, to be impossible.

I am unable to focus on my work, my future feels uncertain and my regrets are through the roof. I see people of my age living their life to the fullest while I am still stuck on the past.

I am not a good muslim, I only remember allah only when I need something, so in spiritual terms I don't think I want advice and it would be really good if you talked to me not as a muslim but as in general.

It's been a week since the last time I watched porn and I know it is not a huge number but for a person like me it is.