r/MuslimNoFap

I don’t know how to stop, I’ve got trauma and I got two girls on whatsapp who always lure me in and 3 other girls who are nromal. the WhatsApp girls are Muslim and let me take out my truama on them, i feel like I’m being used. I never finish I just use them to take out my anger and I let out so much anger that’s suprressed with them. I’ve got no male friends and I’ve got no friends to talk about normal life with. all I have is them and I don’t know how to get out of hole.

after they finish they will ghost me for a couple of days, say it was because they felt regret and we will do it again and then they will ghost me again.

im so lonely and I’m not a bad guy fr but im a monster , I’ve had to reject meeting 3 of the girls 4 times irl as they want me to do things that veer into violence which i dont want to do irl.( I’ve not done zina in a year also and dont want to break my streak)

before anyone says marriage no one wants to marry me they just want to use me to fulfil their needs.

Can't belive it's day 5, yesterday had some struggle, but posted here. Used the suggested tip, it's working so so happyyyyyy. Without this platform not sure if I had won. Also, for the first time ever felt like I was actually fighting back and not giving in!

Tried everything possible to quit fapping but I just can't ...

The longest I have gone without relapse is 1 month.

I feel like zina is the solution..

Feeling lost and need advice

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

I am addicted to corn for 7 years, tried every possible thing but i do it again and again.

I have become a loser in my life, i have lied to my parents about my academic life. I am not able to focus on anything.

I tried being consistent in Salah and after sometime i find myself far away from it.

I don't feel energy and feel lazy all the times, my brain is filled with fog.

I am not progressing in my life at all, and i can't think of a future with this addiction. I'm very certain it will lead me to a point where i have to sucide.

I’ve been struggling with PMO for around 10 years now. I started watching when I was around 12. I tried many times to stop, but recently when I attempted to reduce it, things got worse instead of better. For the past 2-3 weeks I’ve been relapsing 3-4 times a day.

Now I feel mentally and physically exhausted. My erections feel weak, sometimes I don’t get one at all, and because of years of rough grip/masturbation I’ve started feeling pain and noticed some curvature too. It has made me anxious and scared about my future.

PMO is honestly my biggest concern in life right now. I want to take recovery seriously this time. I’m planning to start fasting Mondays and Thursdays from this Thursday, inshaAllah, and focus on rebuilding myself mentally, physically, and spiritually.

Please keep me in your duas. May Allah forgive us and help us overcome our struggles.

Now first of all I must make two things clear:

I am not a muslim myself but I saw a few posts from this community and decided to chime in if that is okay.

Also I am not making excuses for anyone, in the end every man is responsible for his own actions!

Now to my point. I think that life in western countries is hard for many muslim men as they are still seen as outsiders. They do not have generations of roots in the countries they reside in and they do not have a high socioeconomic status due to that.

They are also expected to follow traditional religious terms when it comes to marriage yet they have to deal with young westernized muslim women who may not always really qualify as a traditional muslim wife.

And among todays more liberal western muslims they have to compete with non muslim men for their own women.

All this I assume must be hard to process and maybe even depressing if you are a genuinely religious muslim young man. And what to people who cannot have premarital sex or do drugs do to cope when they are down on their luck? You guessed it: porn and mastubation.

Once in the porn fries their dopamine and before they realize it they have a proper addiction.

hello,im an underage boy,ive been m*st*rbat*ng ever since i was 12 and i have took a month or week breaks sometimes and i beg for forgiveness 7 times a day.I have a important exam coming up in a month and i want to stop for a better result. is it a sin for me??? i always believed that at any day i havent m*st*rb*ted,i have a clearer mind and get better results so i NEED to stop but i also wonder if its a minor or a major sin for me

I know most people are familiar with the terrible spiral of watching more weird stuff to achieve stimulation, but I feel like I've watched a few things which are just disgusting now. But, when I'm the the mood I just seem to go down that path uncontrollably. Has anyone got any advice to avoid this, re-sensitise myself to normal stuff and hopefully distract me at the moment?

Day 4 and was in the familiar environment. Having felt the begining of that same loop, the thoughts, Decided to ask here for help. I know i have to win and I will make it. Next hard part be coming in June when I come home tired. Do help me about when I am in the same environment and loop begins what should I do, leave the room?

I'm doing good on a long streak (haven't tracked). I've had long streaks before year+. Just don't want to get complacent. I think what I'm focusing on currently is trying to be more intentional in the things I do. As in login Reddit, check this subreddit, not scroll Reddit check random subreddits. Another example YouTube, don't look at random things, I want to watch xyz so I will watch xyz. I think that's been my current focus to not fall for random things.

As with P especially it's fuelled by that dopamine cycle of new new new, scroll find new video, the next one will be better but that doesn't end there is no video that is worth it. I find that cycle is similar to the things I've mentioned with scrolling so trying to be more intentional with the things I do.

Any advice from anyone with a long streak, who's been in that similar position of possibly understanding that complacency. Seen a post of a brother saying he was good before marriage and fall back into it later. He didn't mentioned what he considered good, might have been 1 week 1 month 3 or 6. Guess that has me worried to an extent since looking at marriage, I think I'm safe wondering what traps to look out for, for someone who seems to have urges under control and doesn't feel the grips of this sin anymore.

Assalamualaikum warahmatullah wabarakatuh brothers and sisters.

My question is about masturbation. I'm 18 and my desires have peaked especially in this age. It didn't used to be this challenging before. And my addiction is not too old, just 3-4 months but I fear of it turning into years.

The thing I'm trying to avoid at all costs is watching dirty content and MO. though I haven't slipped in watching something bad since 3-4 days (which feels huge at this point) but I have a problem with masturbation. I am very clear that it's a sin and a haram act but sometimes when it's free time with nobody around and desire coming, M happens by me for a very few amount of time. I stop early. but it's still a sin. My question is how can I avoid even doing that? Because it increases the desire and will eventually lead me to watching filth someday astaghfirullah. I don't want that to happen.

Also I have ocd in Salah so advice me something other than it as even fardh prayers are a bit challenging.

Salam,

alhamdulilah yesterday marks the first day in long I stayed completely clean and it feels amazing.

I don't want to let go of that feeling. Wish me success.

Through and through. I think hypocrites are the ugliest people around because they behave mighty, and spew stuff. And yet do the same damn thing.

It’s my fault for messaging. It’s my fault for verifying. It’s my fault for accessing NSFW. I’ve never used Reddit as a means and now that I have. I feel so dirty.
😭😭😭

What was the point? Couple of minutes off “pleasure” and for what?!?!!

I am so disappointed in myself. It would’ve been 3 weeks today. Ffs. I feel so low. Not in the sense of my life is over, but in the sense of how do I move my two feet back to my prayer mat after what I have seen and done.

I take 1 step forward, and 10 back. Genuinely. I can not be in a place where I am blocking my rizq. Forget marriage. I mean work, family relationships, health etc etc.

I am such a hypocrite. I will play ruqya on YouTube to go to sleep now.

May Allah swt forgive me 😭😭 and us all. And make it easy on this path. I couldn’t even last 10 days 🫩. Astaghfirullah

As bad as this is. This is my first relapse this year where I’m not being pushed into self hatred, or misery or helplessness. This is the first relapse where I am taking control and responsibility for my actions 😩. I am not failing here. I will still fast iA on day of arafah and I will make the most of the remaining hours and days.

It's easy rn, but ik the urge peak is when it's the most difficult. Took a bath, fresh lemon body wash and got a good sleep schedule, going good so far 🎉

Let's hope we win, TARGET 1 : NO FA** till June 23rd.

I am 24f. When I was little (under 10), I had a sleepover at a family friend’s house. I was very young and didn’t know when play turned to the man who was supposed to be watching us, molesting me. I never talked about it, I felt like it was my fault and pushed it to the back of my mind. Unfortunately growing up I developed a kink to be dominated, taken against my will. I know it is not good, I feel like I’m broken. I always fantasize about older men, married men getting their way with me. I honestly don’t know how to stop, how to reset my brain. How to not fantasize about the same thing over and over. I don’t sleep around, but I get so turned on thinking these awful things. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, maybe I’m hoping to find someone who understands or can relate. I’m open to suggestions, but please understand most of it is not in my control.

I even reached out to people in another community who were clinically diagnosed with HS to check myself..I am so tired of my own bs... But every single day I start back from square 1 and have to hold on to the rope with my bare teeth..
I hate being an this easy target of my lower nafs, I hate having my capacity this much restricted to an animalistic level, I hate that my environment triggers me (welcome to fricking europe where public nakedness is celebrated) wihtout a chance of having a casual day, I hate shutting myself in although I usually love being social. I lost 6kg/13lb in the last 2 months because I can't even get myself to eat normal meals since I am always burned out from the loneliness and distractions.
I'd love to pick sports and activites back up again but I know it will bring another challenge if so..I am so tired and seeing myself tired in the mirror all the time is just a final dagger...

Woke up half an hour ago highly triggered, made it out of bed but I am still not fully clear minded. Do you have any morning routines that worked for you? How do you as a man get past the massive urges in the morning? During the day it's managable mostly easily but when I fail it happens in the morning. Helping advices, insights and a cup of hot coffee are more than welcomed (:

I have noticed w*men here trying to s*xt with men.

They post on this sub pretending to need help, knowing they will get the attention that they want to to fulfill their desires

Im not saying all of them but most of them

There have been cases of them posing as someone depressed in desperate help…when I tried helping but denied to s*xt…. I get shut off because they start se*ting with the creeps in their inbox that want to take advantage of them… I know this because they confessed

a rant lol

Yes they were women. I verified.

Hi I masturbate and watch porn daily briefly for over 10 years. Need help and I’m sad to admit that I have a hijabi fetish and can’t stop thinking about beautiful girls in hijab in tight clothes.

Hello.
I am here to express myself, something I have never done.
I have been stuck in a constant loop for 1 year now, weekly masturbating and watching porn. And I don't know how to get out of it.

I think I am doing some progress recently: I have stopped denying the truth, I have accepted what I do, and try to avoid the pattern where it happens. But the thing is that for me I masturbate really randomly (but watching porn goes with masturbating, so if I stop masturbating I will stop porn with it). Like it's not the night, it is mostly the day. But from what I have seen, I think it happens when: I am bored, I am stressed, and I haven't token the time for Allah.

I feel ashamed, don't speak to anyone about it, don't know where to go.
And to be honest, I am deeply pious aside doing it, I try to be better and better every time. But I feel like if I remove that, I will definitely unlock more. I know it blocks me from something better behind it.

Please help me, advices, I will take everything in consideration.
Thanks a lot.