r/MuslimNoFap

Background:
I am 26M. I was addicted to Porn and masterbation for 9 years, never thought of quitting it. I used to watch 4-5 hours of Porn regularly and masterbate at least once everyday. Instead of trying to masterbate on erected penis, I would do it on flaccid penis. I literally had no morning wood for the last 2-3 years, no wet dream, no random erection etc. The main reason of my addiction was to escape from reality, not extreme lust. I used porn and masterbation as coping mechanism.

However in the last year, I stopped for 3 months but then fell again into the pit. The frequency reduced to once per week, but the addiction remained.

This year I got married, and for the first month erection was very good but there were some problems. Like we did not have penetrative sex as wife was afraid, my precum would come very quickly, as day passed erection started to become weaker (maybe brain was seeking novelty). Remember for the first month, I saw porn only once, that too out of frustration. Then I thought of stopping porn totally.

Recovery:
As I realized I was having some problem due to porn & masterbation, I totally stopped these. But the main problem appeared then. I was going through a flatline for exactly 90 days. In these days, I had zero libido, erection. My wife used to blame herself thinking I have Performance Anxiety and cry many times. These made me feel guilty even more.

Near 70-80th day, I went to a doctor. He prescribed me Tadalafil which did not work actually. He said I was having performance anxiety.

After 90 days, I saw the light of hope for the first time. Had very good erection- that lasted only for two- three days. Then fell again on flatline.

The second flatline stayed for 1 month, after this erection and libido returned again. I went to the doctor for the second time ( he would listen my problems carefully and was very friendly). He prescribed me regular 2.5mg Tadalafil and Verdanafil while needed.

As time was going (5-7 days after the second flatline ended) erection became much more stable. I started getting regular morning wood. I knew I don't need regular medications, so I stopped these.

140 days after abstaining from PMO, finally I was able to have sex with verdanafil. The next day, the effect of medicine was no more but I was able to have sex again without any medicine.

Suggestions:
If you have PIED, no medicines work. There is only ond thing you can do- that is abstain from porn and masterbation. Flatline period is insanely hard to deal but trust on the process. Please if someone is involved in PMO, leave these.

If you have any questions, feel free to ask.

Assalam wa alaykom.

Just wanted to vent.

After suffering from porn addiction, I messed up my life. I don't have a job, I don't know how to drive, I don't want to learn, I lack motivation and aspirations. I see people in reddit wanting to get married, they're looking for specific types of people. They provide success which puts me in a position where I have nothing to offer. I say to myself "what's the point?" Why bother getting married if it's going to be difficult?

I blame myself first because I was wasting a lot of time due to laziness. I'm 35 and I'm just an embarrassment. I wish I could work towards the hereafter so I can hope for Allah's mercy and get wives there. Because I lost hope in getting married in this life. Compared to others, and compared to you guys, I'm worthless.

Part of me wants to relapse so I don't have a desire to get married. Because I don't deserve a wife, I don't deserve intimacy, and I don't deserve to be a husband. I'm not a good person, never have, never will be. Porn has ruined me, even if I try to avoid it, I'm still stuck living with my family. I'm stuck in laziness, I'm stuck on stupid that no women would want to marry me. And rightfully so.

For those who are not married and are trying to overcome their addiction, may Allah grant you good spouses. As for me, I don't deserve to get married.

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I feel like I spend hours every day just trying to get through what seems like normal life for everyone else. Things that appear simple for other people feel exhausting in my own head.

This addiction has become a kind of refuge. With the constant mood swings and emotional ups and downs, it feels like something that's always there to offer temporary comfort. When life wears me down, it's the hand I instinctively reach for.

The hardest part is that over the years I've felt my iman weaken, and this addiction only makes that worse. It makes me feel more distant from Allah, more hopeless, and somehow even the small responsibilities of daily life become heavier.

Sometimes the deepest pain isn't even the addiction itself. It's the feeling that there's something rotten or broken inside me for reasons I don't understand. I don't know why my mind works this way, and that uncertainty is painful.

It keeps me thinking, am I just a terrible, filthy person that enjoys this sin?

For those of you who have dealt with depression, chronic discontentment, or emotional struggles alongside this addiction, what actually helped you break the cycle? How did you stop using it as a source of comfort? I'm especially interested in hearing both Islamic advice and practical steps that genuinely made a difference.

May Allah grant us all healing, strengthen our iman, and help us leave behind whatever keeps us distant from Him. Ameen.

Hi All
I really want a genuine block that helps block all nude/semi nude content.
Previously i used Bulldog blocker on android (which is the best i would definitely recommend for android users )
I have now updated my phone and laptop to ios from windows

Now i need a working good blocker that is compatible with both iphone and mac and give the desired results. ( dont care about paid or free but do recommend)
Open to all opinions or suggestions (both paid/free)
Also do mentions its pros and cons

I wanted to share something that really changed my perspective in this struggle.

I recently learned about the five stages of how thoughts develop before they become actions, a concept discussed in the Islamic spiritual tradition and taught by many contemporary teachers. It made me realize something important that not every thought that enters our minds is who we are. A lot of us think we’ve already failed the moment a sexual thought appears. But that’s not true. The first thought can simply be waswasa.

We aren’t sinful for a passing whisper. The real danger is when we keep entertaining it until it grows into desire and eventually becomes an action. That changed how I deal with urges.

Now, when a thought comes, I try not to argue with it or analyze it. I recognize it for what it is and let it pass. The earlier I ignore it, the less power it has over me.

For anyone struggling with PMO, I highly recommend learning about the five stages of thoughts in the Islamic spiritual tradition. It helped me understand that there’s a point where we still have a choice before a thought becomes an action.

May Allah protect us from waswasa, purify our hearts, and grant us the strength to lower our gaze and remain steadfast. Ameen.

Astagfirullah I feel absolutely let down and shattered after trying to quit again and again. Every month it's either my periods or emotions or ovulation or anything that keeps breaking my streak I can't even go longer than 1 week in this entire year I'm falling behind in my academics and life no advise or help reaches me my brain is absolutely damaged my imaan is the lowest top and my rizq blocked it's like it'll never get better unless I i quite this even if I do it gets worse sometimes

After 153 days, I relapsed and feel depressed, with no desire to live or anything to motivate me. My surroundings aren't helpful. Imagine, I went to visit my uncle, and he said my time was up, and everyone says things that discourage me more and more.

I’m fairly young I’m 15 and I’m a Muslim. I’m trying to be more religious and pray more and read Quran. I have a friend who’s Muslim and always giving me advice about everything. I feel so shameful and the most I could go without it was 3 days. I came such a long away but the moment I got a chance I couldn’t hold back even after praying. I’m trying my best but this addiction is ruining my relationship with Allah. Anyone have advice for me?

Assalam alaykum.

I’m exhausted. I’ve reached the point where I don’t even know if I have the strength to keep fighting this anymore. The hardest part is that even as I’m writing this, I still feel the urge to watch porn and masturbate.

It’s like my mind keeps pulling me back no matter how much I want to walk away. I’m tired of making promises to myself, tired of relapsing, and tired of feeling like I’m never going to change. I honestly don’t know what it’s like to feel free from this. Right now, it feels like I’m losing hope, and I just needed to reach out for advice or anything

I am really tired with this, and that is the shame that stuff will be still going so what to do I don’t know what to do. I’m really scared with that, but I didn’t accept my repent ?

can someone tell me the place of adultery in the quran and how bad it is? i need more motivation and fear of Allah and the judgement day. i'm getting worse and worse.

i am 14 anf i cant stop relapsing. its a severe addiction now. people can hold themselves for 60 to 90 days straight, i cant even do 4. i once made 6 day streak, but i cant find that motivation and i dont even know how i did that. i need severe help.

Hi, I'm 27F. Looking for female accountability partners if there are any. I know it's not common as most of these spaces tend to be catered to men. I' ve suffered from significant past trauma which has led to compulsive PMO, there are days when it's all I do and it's affecting my work. This has led to some dark additions and fantasies. I have been told to seek professional therapy but I feel I'd rather try and deal with it myself before resorting to that. If there are any other females struggling with this, I'd appreciate it. I prefer not to have male partners as in the past it tended to make my struggles worse. Thank you for listening and for any support.

Every time i watch porn i think that allah can see me but mostly i do nothing sometimes i stop right at that moment but mostly i don't

Everytime i try to stop it i arribe to maybe 20 days then i relaps

Salam! I have been trying to quit for years now but im unable to quit atp. i have tried everything but stilli end up relapsing again and again. i try to stay busy with my gym and work but i still end up in this ditch. i am going crazy due to this. i am a women and i want to quit this and get married , any help is appreciated as i was feeling a really low when i made this post. thanks!

Assalamualaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu. I hope you are are doing well, I am a little bit uneducated when it comes to Islam. And unfortunately, there's a reason I am on this subreddit...May Allāh forgive me, and us all Ameen. I just wanted to ask, if it's okay to ask Allāh to shorten your life? Like, let's say I make a Dua along the lines of, "Ya Allāh, please take my life if this sin will be stuck with me." It's very on the nose, but it's there. I am pretty young, and I do not want to live anymore. Not because of Allāh, but just myself. Perhaps it's shaytan, and that I know, but it's also just me. I know taking your own life is Haram, it's something I would think about often, but I am scared. I want to make Allāh happy, but I can't change like this. I don't wanna live, I have no will to live anymore. Is there something I can do?

I'm on Day 9, and today has been one of the toughest days so far. The urges are hitting hard, and my brain keeps trying to convince me that "just one time" won't matter.

But deep down, I know that's exactly how every relapse starts.

So I'm asking the people who've made it to 30, 90, or even 365+ days:

What would you tell your Day 9 self?

What kept you from giving in when your mind was making excuses?

What changed in your life that made staying clean worth it?

I don't want temporary pleasure to destroy something I've been fighting to build. I want this streak to be different. If you've beaten this addiction or you're further along than me, please drop your best advice or motivation. I'll read every single comment before making any decision.

Thank you. ❤️

Guys reached day 10 of nofap the change is absolutely brilliant i can go more and i want to but the urge started to kick in and now it's getting confusing pls help

I feel like I don’t deserve anyone😭 even though I may be addicted in another way it’s still a form of p*rn. And I feel really guilty and bad for all this. And like I know I’m young but I still feel terrible. And I’m not saying anyone who has suffered with it is any less deserving and we all make mistakes but I just feel guilty still thinking for myself.

ADHD/ADD is a dopamine deficiency which would increase seaking dopamine in your life such as pornography I would recommend strettera as it builds up and once you stop taking it you will go back to normal and can increase brain plasticity in people with ADHD/ADD

Shaytan exploits human vulnerabilities, including emotional, physical, and psychological weaknesses against you

But I'm not a a scholar so go search for information and fact check stuff you see online

Inshallah everyone reading this will be safe and inshallah you will learn more about Islam and the prophet peace be upon him and his life and how he fought and delt with people and spys