AITA for wanting out of my 11 year relationship
Sorry in advance as this is long but I feel it have to go into detail to paint a better picture. I (32 F) have been with my SO (47 M) for 11 years now. To be honest our relationship has never been great. We had kids super early in the relationship. He was never there for me through my pregnancies, I have never felt more alone than when I was with him through those pregnancies. I had emergency c sections with both and he also wasn't there for me through that. He didn't help with the baby because he needed sleep for work. So I did everything alone right after major surgery. Taking care of the baby and older kids, the house, all me. He didnt hold my hand while I was in labor or getting cut open. Fast forward and when our youngest was around 1 he had a febrile seizure in the middle of the night in my arms, I was hysterical, as most parents would be. I didnt have a car at the time and he said he couldn't drive us to the hospital as he only had enough gas to get to work. I called my mom crying and she came and got us and took us. He slept the whole time, never called to check, didn't even check on his baby after we got home, just continued to sleep. I haven't trusted him with my kids since and really they dont trust him either, they know mommy has their back but really that's all. Fast forward to the present day and hes without a car. Let me first say that every car hes ever had since we've been together, I've paid half on and the last car he had I gave him. The truck was supposed to be a gift to me for taking care of my grandmother for years for my mom. Anyways my car was having trouble, and I was tired of leaving my kids home alone every night to go get him 30 minutes away so I stopped taking him, basically forcing him to get a transfer to a closer store. He messaged his mom, basically whining he didnt have a way. His mom went on and on about how I'm a spoilt brat because I wouldn't let him take my car (the car I use to get our kids back and forth that belongs to me). And how bad hes treated. He just said "yeah" and went along with what she said. She messaged me too cussing me out. Even after saying how bad it hurt my feeling's it was "I just thought cutting her off would be best, if I say something she'll go to my brother and he'll cause a scene at my work". I dont really believe that but even if it was true it just shows how absolutely crazy and pathetic that family is. This isn't the first time he hasn't defended me, he wouldn't even defend his kids when she talked bad about them, and to add insult to injury he hasnt cut her off, hes still messaging her telling her he loves and misses her. She's not in our lives by choice, though I dont mind because after all she's done, I don't want trash in my life. I'm starting to really see what my parents see and understand why they want so desperately for me to get with someone who loves and respects me and I'm so close to the point of saying "ok, get out of my house and go live with mommy because I'm done".