Bear with me, this might be a long one.
I met my gf over Discord and we both realized we lived close to one another, after meeting up quite a few times, we both want to move in together and start a life. However, we both have horrible family situations, both of which stem from being lgbt, and having controlling parents.
For me, I came out at a younger age and my parents, unfortunately very religious people, decided to constrict their grasp on me, trying to "turn me straight again." I however was able to find a few ways to get around their rules and expectations until sophomore year of high school, when they took me out of public school and put me in an online school. I completed high school a semester early but never left the house except for work and church factions, so I didn't have a normal teenage life. After High School, I went to college after saving some money. However, I did have to take out a student loan to get through my second semester. I have decided to take a year off to earn more money so I don't have 20 student loans over my head after my college experience. That means going home for a year. After the freedom of college life and finally getting a gf, I am afraid to go home, everything is blocked there, YouTube, Twitter, Reddit, you name it, it is blocked. Even if I have my own phone, they will check it. If I leave the house without their express permission, they will call the police on me. I just want to get out and live my own life without them trying to control me as a constant background thought.
My gf is a closeted bisexual who is only out online. Her family is very bigoted and she is scared to come out to them due to how much manipulation they use.
She's always taking care of her siblings, even before her mom got sick. Her mom worked like 3 jobs while her step dad drank, smoked and ab*sed her and her siblings...and then sat on his ass and drank some more. Then her mom got sick, she was young, maybe 11 or 12 by the time she couldn't work anymore. Her step dad treated everyone like a burden. But wouldn't let them leave either, told her mom he would kill them all if she left him. So they've stayed. She started handling all housework. Cooking, cleaning, making sure everything was done and her siblings were taken care of. Then she could drive, and her stepfather wouldn't take her mom to appointments anymore so she had to. She dropped out Junior year of highschool to take care of her mom and siblings. She then started working. Every penny put gas in the car and got groceries for everyone. He refused to buy food once she started working cause they were once again burdens, more mouths to feed. She was only15 almost 16 atp. She was buying for a family of 5 so I had nothing after. The following year she got herself back in school (Online). Luckily they had a program that allowed her to cut out busy work and finish with the rest of her class and on time. She would wake up at 4 am to start her schoolwork, be done by 9 am, get her siblings ready and get them to school in between all that. Help her mom get ready cause at the time they didn't know what was wrong and she had appointments with specialist daily. Pick them up, make them dinner, go to work, come home at 12 sometimes 1 am and then repeat the next day. (Her dad found out about the ab*se from their step dad and tried to take her brother and her away from their mom. But she was sick and with her illnesses and the lack of help from the step dad she would have died.) Her family asked her to lie and say that we weren't being ab*sed so that she wouldn't be alone. Of course at the time it seemed like the right thing because she didn't want to lose her mom and step sis.
If she stops helping, she believes she would become the bad guy. Her uncle died last year and he was in the same spot as her and she realized that she'd miss out on living like he did.
We've looked at apartments near her home so she can still take care of her mom and look after her sister, but everything is so expensive and I still have to finish college. Unfortunately, the more time we wait, the more the price of living will go up and the less chance we will have of getting a place together.
Does anyone have any idea on how to help us?
u/Amazing_Donkey_6795
Bear with me, this might be a long one.
I met my gf over Discord and we both realized we lived close to one another, after meeting up quite a few times, we both want to move in together and start a life. However, we both have horrible family situations, both of which stem from being lgbt, and having controlling parents.
For me, I came out at a younger age and my parents, unfortunately very religious people, decided to constrict their grasp on me, trying to "turn me straight again." I however was able to find a few ways to get around their rules and expectations until sophomore year of high school, when they took me out of public school and put me in an online school. I completed high school a semester early but never left the house except for work and church factions, so I didn't have a normal teenage life. After High School, I went to college after saving some money. However, I did have to take out a student loan to get through my second semester. I have decided to take a year off to earn more money so I don't have 20 student loans over my head after my college experience. That means going home for a year. After the freedom of college life and finally getting a gf, I am afraid to go home, everything is blocked there, YouTube, Twitter, Reddit, you name it, it is blocked. Even if I have my own phone, they will check it. If I leave the house without their express permission, they will call the police on me. I just want to get out and live my own life without them trying to control me as a constant background thought.
My gf is a closeted bisexual who is only out online. Her family is very bigoted and she is scared to come out to them due to how much manipulation they use.
She's always taking care of her siblings, even before her mom got sick. Her mom worked like 3 jobs while her step dad drank, smoked and ab*sed her and her siblings...and then sat on his ass and drank some more. Then her mom got sick, she was young, maybe 11 or 12 by the time she couldn't work anymore. Her step dad treated everyone like a burden. But wouldn't let them leave either, told her mom he would kill them all if she left him. So they've stayed. She started handling all housework. Cooking, cleaning, making sure everything was done and her siblings were taken care of. Then she could drive, and her stepfather wouldn't take her mom to appointments anymore so she had to. She dropped out Junior year of highschool to take care of her mom and siblings. She then started working. Every penny put gas in the car and got groceries for everyone. He refused to buy food once she started working cause they were once again burdens, more mouths to feed. She was only15 almost 16 atp. She was buying for a family of 5 so I had nothing after. The following year she got herself back in school (Online). Luckily they had a program that allowed her to cut out busy work and finish with the rest of her class and on time. She would wake up at 4 am to start her schoolwork, be done by 9 am, get her siblings ready and get them to school in between all that. Help her mom get ready cause at the time they didn't know what was wrong and she had appointments with specialist daily. Pick them up, make them dinner, go to work, come home at 12 sometimes 1 am and then repeat the next day. (Her dad found out about the ab*se from their step dad and tried to take her brother and her away from their mom. But she was sick and with her illnesses and the lack of help from the step dad she would have died.) Her family asked her to lie and say that we weren't being ab*sed so that she wouldn't be alone. Of course at the time it seemed like the right thing because she didn't want to lose her mom and step sis.
If she stops helping, she believes she would become the bad guy. Her uncle died last year and he was in the same spot as her and she realized that she'd miss out on living like he did.
We've looked at apartments near her home so she can still take care of her mom and look after her sister, but everything is so expensive and I still have to finish college. Unfortunately, the more time we wait, the more the price of living will go up and the less chance we will have of getting a place together.
Does anyone have any idea on how to help us?
Bear with me, this might be a long one.
I met my gf over Discord and we both realized we lived close to one another, after meeting up quite a few times, we both want to move in together and start a life. However, we both have horrible family situations, both of which stem from being lgbt, and having controling parents.
For me, I came out at a younger age and my parents, unfortunatly very religious people, decided to constrict their grasp on me, trying to "turn me straight again." I however was able to find a few ways to get around their rules and expectations until sophmore year of high school, when they took me out of public school and put me in an online school. I completed high school a semester early but never left the house except for work and church factions, so I didn't have the normal teenage life. After High School, I went to college after saving some money. However, I did have to take out a student loan to get through my second semester. I have decided to take a year off to earn more money so I don't have 20 student loans over my head after my college experience. That means going home for a year. After the freedom of college life and finally getting a gf, I am afraid to go home, everything is blocked there, YouTube, Twitter, Reddit, you name it, it is blocked. Even if I have my own phone, they will check it. If I leave the house without their express permission, they will call the police on me. I just want to get out and live my own life without them trying to control me as a constant background thought.
My gf is a closeted bisexual who is only out online. Her family is very bigoted and she is scared to come out to them due to how much manipulation they use.
She's always taking care of her siblings, even before her mom got sick. Her mom worked like 3 jobs while her step dad drank, smoked and ab*sed her and her siblings...and then sat on his ass and drank some more. Then her mom got sick, she was young, maybe 11 or 12 by the time she couldn't work anymore. Her step dad treated everyone like a burden. But wouldn't let them leave either, told her mom he would kill them all if she left him. So they've stayed. She started handling all housework. Cooking, cleaning, making sure everything was done and her siblings were taken care of. Then she could drive, and her stepfather wouldn't take her mom to appointments anymore so she had to. She dropped out Junior year of highschool to take care of her mom and siblings. She then started working. Every penny put gas in the car and got groceries for everyone. He refused to buy food once she started working cause they were once again burdens, more mouths to feed. She was only15 almost 16 atp. She was buying for a family of 5 so I had nothing after. The following year she got herself back in school (Online). Luckily they had a program that allowed her to cut out busy work and finish with the rest of her class and on time. She would wake up at 4 am to start her schoolwork, be done by 9 am, get her siblings ready and get them to school in between all that. Help her mom get ready cause at the time they didn't know what was wrong and she had appointments with specialist daily. Pick them up, make them dinner, go to work, come home at 12 sometimes 1 am and then repeat the next day. (Her dad found out about the ab*se from their step dad and tried to take her brother and her away from their mom. But she was sick and with her illnesses and the lack of help from the step dad she would have died.) Her family asked her to lie and say that we werent being ab*sed so that she wouldnt be alone. Of course at the time it seemed like the right thing because she didn't want to lose her mom and step sis.
If she stops helping, she believes she would become the bad guy. Her uncle died last year and he was in the same spot as her and she realized that she'd miss out on living like he did.
We've looked at apartments near her home so she can still take care of her mom and look after her sister, but everything is so expensive and I still have to finish college. Unfortunatly, the more time we wait, the more the price of living will go up and the less chance we will have of getting a place together.
Does anyone have any idea on how to help us?