u/Ancient_Mammoth8358

I stupidly thought ‘oh it’s a nice day I’ll have a wine in the hot tub’ well no cos now I am hysterically crying about my avoidant discarding me 4 weeks ago. Everything reminds me of him - the hot weather, the hot tub he went in every night, I miss him I miss his smell I miss his company, his voice. Even though he mistreated me I am still hurting so much but being strong and not texting him.

Is anyone else going through this? I need to sleep off this glass of wine because that was a bad idea and has put me in a dark place. I’ve not had an alcoholic beverage in 6 months and Jesus it has really set me back.

I got discarded by my avoidant 3 weeks ago. I’ve remained strong and not reached out but had to yesterday as I needed to know when he was collecting his cat. He responded very cold, said next week, and randomly removed the background photo (picture of my dog and his cat) I then said ‘are you okay?’ And he’s not responded.

He left with only a few bin bags of clothes to stay in an air b&b. We had a lovely life together (I thought!) and I did just about everything for him, showered him with love and affection every day, I loved and cared for him deeply. He said sorry at the end and even said it wasn’t anything I done, he just knew he had to leave and be on his own.

So why is he so cold towards me now? What does the removal of the photo mean?

I have been doing really well, healing every day but now this has set me back and I’m spiralling 🌀