u/AnesConclusion05

Two jobs. Has been for the past 8 months. Day job 8-5, then I go straight to my second job until close, most nights I'm not home till after 10. Kids are already asleep by the time I walk in.

She left last week. Took the kids to her mom's. Said I "chose work over my family," that the kids "barely know me anymore," that she's "done being a single parent while I'm still in the house."

Here's the thing that's eating me alive — I took the second job BECAUSE of the family. Rent went up. Daycare costs more than my car payment. I didn't take on 60+ hour weeks for fun, I did it so we wouldn't fall behind. And now I'm getting punished for the exact thing I thought was going to save us.

She says money isn't everything and the kids need a dad who's present, not just a dad who pays bills. And okay, I hear that, I do. But nobody explains how you're supposed to be present when you're also supposed to keep the lights on. Somebody has to work the extra hours. It just happened to be me.

Controversial opinion, downvote away: I think we've built a culture where working hard to provide gets treated like abandonment, and I don't think that's fair to guys who are genuinely trying to do right by their family the only way they know how.

Maybe I got the balance wrong. Maybe there was a version of this where I said no to the second job and we just struggled more but stayed together. I don't know anymore. I just know I worked myself into the ground for people who are gone now.

Any advice??

Anyone know if there are still any decent Minecraft servers running Hunger Games? I used to play it religiously as a kid and for the life of me I can't find it anywhere anymore. Feels like it just vanished off the face of the earth. Hitting me with some serious nostalgia lately and I'd love to relive it if it's still around somewhere, even on a smaller/less popular server tbh, I just want that old feeling back.

Genuine question for women around 30 — how much money do you think you should realistically have saved or invested by that age? Not necessarily just sitting in your bank account, but your total savings, investments, emergency fund, etc. I know everyone's situation is different depending on income, country, rent/mortgage, debt and so on, but I'm curious what people consider a genuinely comfortable financial position at 30.

Genuine question — how are people so naive that, despite knowing there are cycles and predictable market movements that determine the price, they still buy the top after something has already gone up 400% and someone is clearly taking profits?

It's crazy to me.