How do I approach my racist cousin, now that I have an Indian boyfriend?
Throw away account since I feel I am saying a lot of details. My extended family is large, I have 4 aunties, 5 uncles and 19 first cousins on my dads side alone. Since 2022, my cousin has gotten very anti-everyone. It has really weighed down on how I view her since then and it’s very common for my loud mouth dad and I to get into heated arguments with her over this. This is more common since my dad just walks up to her and starts on her over whatever bigotry she was spouting on instagram at the weekend. No one else in my family is like that yet no one will stand up to her, they will just tell her “that’s not nice” and then scream at my dad for causing trouble. She is 35 and depressed so that’s the main excuse everyone has for her actions. She can be confusing though, since she made multiple posts about how gay people are p3d0s and then greeted my gay cousin, asking him how his boyfriend is and that she’d love to go bring her kids to see them perform together (they are theatre actors). It’s like she’s a different person on the internet. Around the same time she started posting anti brown people content and how Muslims are gonna take over the world. She’s a Christian (has 3 kids out of wedlock and still isn’t married) but claims to be one anyways.
I meet my beautiful Indian boyfriend as we were both studying anthropology in America. We dated for 4 months before I brought him home to my European country (don’t really want to share too much since I am going into greats detail). My boyfriend is a walking sunshine, and I’m not just saying this because I love him, everyone can feel how effortlessly he connects with people. He is so civil and kind and charismatic that I shouldn’t have been surprised with how ok he was when I told him about my cousin. He met my cousin and she was all open arms over the top lovely to him and was asking about him about Islam. I don’t know if maybe because his accent was clearly American that made her like him more but she acts in person different than on the internet.
I asked “How do I approach my racist cousin, now that I have an Indian boyfriend?”
My interpretations
- 9 of cups-That she was wishing to get under my skin?
- 7 of cups-warning that I may be Letting myself be overwhelmed and emotional instead of logically explaining what she is doing wrong.
- 10 of swords- a fight that may end in being split from family
If anyone could help I would greatly appreciate it