A month ago, I sent him a lot of messages, but he never replied. Since then, we've had no contact. Should I just leave it up to him now, or is it okay for me to reach out at some point?
I keep checking his Spotify, Instagram, TikTok, WhatsApp, Steam, Discord... I just can't stop.
I also can't stop comparing myself to the girl I think he might be seeing. I keep checking her social media too, looking for any signs that she's with him or that something is going on between them.
I know it's unhealthy, but I feel like I can't help myself. Has anyone else been through this? How did you finally stop?
My ex and I had been together since we were 18. We're both 22 now, and he broke up with me on May 31st.
I won't say our relationship was perfect, but I will say he was the love of my life. We had a connection unlike anything I've ever experienced. He changed me, and I'd like to believe I changed him too.
We were always together—not because I forced him to, but because he genuinely wanted to be with me. Even after we got home, we'd call each other on Discord and play games together, again because we both wanted to. We were always affectionate and told each other almost everything, although he tended to hide some of his deeper feelings because he struggles with self-hatred.
He eventually decided to break up with me. We had problems, but nothing I thought was impossible to work through. He said we should stay friends.
We cried together when we broke up. He even left some of his belongings with me, saying he wanted me to remember him. At first, we kept talking, but eventually he stopped.
Now it feels like he's forgotten about me. He unfollowed me on Instagram and removed me from his Steam Family Library, even though he had previously begged me not to leave it. When I found out, I got upset and removed him from TikTok and from my Steam friends list.
All of this happened after my brother got into a fight with one of his friends. They blamed me because they thought I had told my brother to do it, but I honestly had nothing to do with it.
Since then, I've only seen him a couple of times. He seems to choose his friends over me, and he might even be seeing another girl now, although I don't know if it's serious.
When he broke up with me, he said he was hurting me and that I deserved better. He also told me I was the best thing that had ever happened to him.
During our four years together, I never doubted that he loved me. We spent almost all our time together because we genuinely wanted to. We were best friends as well as partners.
But now, because of the way he's acting—or at least the way it seems to me—I'm questioning everything. He even said he didn't want to see me anymore.
Can a man really stop loving someone that suddenly? Is he pretending to be okay? Is he hiding how he feels?
I truly believe the love we had was real. At least, I want to believe it was. Everyone around us knew how much we loved each other, and now he's gone.
Was it real love? 💔
It's been a month since he broke up with me. At first, we stayed friends, and I even cried in his arms (he cried too), but later he stopped talking to me. He unfollowed me on Instagram and TikTok, removed me from his Steam Family Library, and did all of that because my brother got into a fight with his friend. They blamed me, even though I didn't do anything. They think I told my brother to fight them, but in reality, I only told him I was sad because of what they had done. My brother acted on his own.
After that day, my heart broke even more. I removed him from my Steam friends list and unfollowed him on TikTok, but I didn't remove him on Discord, and he hasn't removed me there either.
I miss him, and I'm always looking for signs that he's coming back because he was my best friend. At first, he reposted TikToks that seemed to be about me, but yesterday he deleted them. I don't know if it was because I deleted the ones I had reposted about him (they literally had his face in them), but it still hurts.
The only things that still connect us are the little ghost emoji in our WhatsApp bios (we've both had it since 2022), Discord, and a few YouTube videos of him playing games.
The other day I saw him walking down the street. He looked at me, but I couldn't bring myself to look back.
What do you think? Do you think he's planning to break no contact?