u/Antique-Garbage-5888

My mother always said stuff like “don’t be like me” or “do better” or “learn from my mistakes” when i was a child while also abusing me. Now Im 20 and I cut her off for my peace and so I don’t become comfortable to her abuse as an adult, like I was forced to be as a child. She has not changed and when we took a 3 month break recently and she had not learned a single thing and still proved to be selfish and narcissistic. Am I wrong for cutting her out completely, I spent so long waiting for her be reliable/stable/comforting but it will NEVER happen. And if im not wrong, how can I go about her spreading rumors about me to other family members(real life examples : pregnancy/partner abusing me/very mentally ill) or family members trying to shame me for cutting her off. Like how do I even handle the “but thats your mother!!” conversation because i feel it coming im just not sure from whom it will come from.

So i just moved and my plan was to have them in their own room, did not go as planned and my younger cat ran to my bedroom and is now situated under the bed. So i didnt want to even attempt to get him out knowing how stressed he could be. So now cat 2 is here and I decided to just let him also go under the bed, I believe there was initial hissing at each other when introduced but not positive. But i am now hearing meows like play fighting meows but how can they play if they are terrified??? I haven’t heard any hissing or hurting sounding meows but is this normal? Are they playing or attacking each other out of stress? I dont want to continuously check on them and scare them. What do I do cat experts. Every time I try to see what they are doing they go back to hiding.