its my first set of extensions ever and i dyed it way too dark, i managed to get some colour out with excessive shampooing (which i now know i shouldn’t have done) but its still way too dark for my hair. what can i do to lighten in? (for reference , that’s what the extensions look like vs the colour of my hair)
this has been going on for over a month now, it’s seriously stressing me out, making me lose sleep and no matter how much i talk about it with other people, i still feel conflicted. i’ll try to introduce the situation and people as briefly as possible.
people:
a - a friend i’ve known only since september, but we got really close on a trip to dresden and actually mutually like each other (as friends), but she doesn’t like friend b because b makes her uncomfortable and down, and isn’t exactly fond of c either
b - a ’friend’ i’ve known for 3 years now, but she’s not really my kind of person, i just put up with her (sometimes outrageous) because she admit she wouldn’t have friends if it weren’t for our group and i also feel bad for her. we’ve had pretty serious issues caused by her behaviour but i havent spoken up about it until recently. has pretty serious beef with friend a and has been hating c for the past 3 years ever since we all met
c - a classmate, the only one of them i actually speak to. doesnt have any other acquaintances than me. she’s really annoying and overwhelming for me and her presence exhausts me (lately it’s been better though, i can speak with her normally), i only talk to her because again, i feel bad for her.
situation: we’re going on a trip to italy next week, and we’re having issues with the room situation. i’m definitely sharing a room with friends a and b (b’s mom took out a loan so b could go on the trip with me so i feel extra bad bc of that), and c has asked around other people she knows, but they in close groups already (and if i had to guess, it’s also a bit of a cover up for not liking c that much). now, c has been bugging me about sharing a room with me, a and b for a month now. i’ve talked to a and b four times about it and they really don’t want that (which honestly, i completely understand. i’ve shared a room with c in london and i almost went crazy because her presence exhausted me so much). nevertheless, i wouldn’t have a problem with a sharing a room with c because i really feel sorry for her that she doesn’t have any friends, even though her heart is in the right place. (i don’t know where to add this but i think there’s a possibility the teachers will just add c to a’s, b’s and my room bc the organising teacher knows c and i are on good terms). today, she asked me again if i had spoken with a and b, and i told her it’s still a no, and c got mad at me??? the only person who actually wouldn’t mind sharing that damn room??? i’ve been stressed out about it for a long time, and i’m not the type of person to get angry, but this actually made me enraged, because again, why am i the one getting flamed for other people’s decision??? honestly if she cares so much about that fucking room, why am i the one speaking with a and b and not her???
it made me mad because i really want the best for c, but i won force a and b into a situation that they have been very clear about not wanting to be in for the past year when we signed up for that trip, and obviously it wouldn’t be good for c too because b never keeps things to herself, and there have been situations in the past where b has told see to c’s face that she doesn’t like her and she should go away(also, at the mention of the situation again, b said that i shouldn’t gaf about c during the trip, but she’s in the same situation as c, she just doesn’t know it because a and i haven’t been open about our thoughts and feelings on b, except for the time i was once again the messenger from a to b and obviously was the one getting flamed.) my point is, why am i the one in bad situations because of other people’s problems? especially when i’m the only one who doesn’t have a problem?
i’m honestly just so done with this entire thing and luckily, i have a and the two of us will be together for the entire trip no matter what happens, so i’m sure i’ll be able to have some fun even in this entire mess.
regarding c, i’ve spoken with some people about it and all of them (completely unrelated to each other, some know c personally, some don’t) have said that c is not my responsibility, and while understandable feel bad for her, it’s not my fault she doesn’t have anyone to spend the trip with and that i shouldn’t sacrifice anything for her sake. i know she wants well and is a good person, but i’m not her saviour
if you have read this entire thing, please share your perspective on this, because i really don’t know what the right thing to do is
in two weeks, i’m going on a school trip to italy. i’ve been both super excited about it for the past year, but also quite anxious bc of some troubles with the people i’m going with (their own drama with each other and room sharing drama), and obviously another issue had to stack on top of it lmao. today i found out my bullies are also going on that trip and in an instant, i stopped being excited, and tbh i don’t even want to go anymore because it’s stressing me out that much. i think it’s so depressing how those cruel people killed my spark and happiness with just the possibility of their presence. also none of my friends who i’m going with know about anything, matter fact even i don’t really know who those bullies are bc all white teenage boys look the same, not to mention they’re first graders and i’m in third, which is just embarrassing for me but whatever