u/Appropriate_Split658

So i would like to keep it short and simple to understand.
I am in my early teens and i am pursing Mbbs.
Since the past few months. The dynamics of my relation with my father has changed a lot. Which genuinely made me question me why did it deteriorate so much in such a short span of my time.
So a little background i was always very average in studies i didn't score that high i was always in the average students of my class. But with time my parents especially my father started to mount pressure on me regarding studying more harder and more better. He was never of any help in terms of guidance or helping me understand my deficiencies he would just pop up with a tuition teacher and the rest would just be his job. So in fsc i scored pretty well but in fsc i got a dip so my father did the worst he could. He took me every relatives house insulted me in every possible way. And so on but i never took it to heart because the bond we had before all of this was so pure and wholesome. But it did make me question a lot is all about the marks, is it all about his dreams. I never wanted to be a doctor i never liked the field but just to keep his dream alive i did. After my fsc my score was good and his behaviour become polite towards me and then i cleared my mcat and got admission in the medical college
I passed my first and second year with above 80+% marks and i did everything just to make him proud. But his behaviour became so cold towards me after all of this. He wont greet me, he wont take me anywhere, like it is all he wanted was that i just became a doctor and all of his love was a drama or a way to get me jnto this field.
Just to clear we have no financial issue, we have not have an arguement. I can swear on my life i have never in my life talked back to my father, whatever he said i iust said "jee" that is all.

He refused me from a thing i said done. My entire wardrobe, my every wish i completed it on my own mind you my mother and younger brother never had to worry about any of this in terms that if they wanted something they could just ask him and he would get it for them.
But whenever i would ask for something it would always be i just throw money around or something else. So i thought maybe thats why he despises me so i stopped asking for money from him except the factor he pays for my fuel or whenever i go out with friends maybe once a week. Remainder of everything i do on my own.
It is not about how i am doing something super special or something it is just about how i pour everything i had in me to just fulfill his dream and he doesnt have the slightest feel for that. How i gave up on everything my friends, dreams, social life just for him because i loved him In comparison his relation with my mother or younger brother is completely opposite of what he has with me.
My brother pursed his own dream, changed careers, and everything i was tormented about he did it. And on god i am so happy for him i dont envy or get jealous for him.
But at the end of the day i do feel bad because for everything i did i got nothing. It is not about the money it is more about being recognised, shown affection but i really got none of it.

I just want someone to give their honest opinion about all of this.
Like why doesnt he talk that much, why am i never invited to go along with him (for example he is buying a new car and he didnt even take me to a single showroom my brother, his accountant and the marketing guy from our company went), he goes on dinner and he never asks me except the one time when he was not going and just wanted me to take one of my friends and attend it, why is it always a refusal when i ask (i asked to get permission for trip it was a straight refusal).
Like i dont want to victimise myself because i do agree that i didnt focus in fsc but i did make amends i changed everything and still somehow i am treated like this.

So i would like to keep it short and simple to understand.
1 am in my early teens and i am pursing Mbbs.
Since the past few months. The dynamics of my relation with my father has changed a lot. Which genuinely made me question me why did it deteriorate so much in such a short span of my time.
So a little background i was always very average in studies i didn't score that high i was always in the average students of my class. But with time my parents especially my father started to mount pressure on me regarding studying more harder and more better. He was never of any help in terms of guidance or helping me understand my deficiencies he would just pop up with a tuition teacher and the rest would just be his job. So in fsc i scored pretty well but in fsc i got a dip so my father did the worst he could. He took me every relatives house insulted me in every possible way. And so on but i never took it to heart because the bond we had before all of this was so pure and wholesome. But it did make me question a lot is all about the marks, is it all about his dreams. I never wanted to be a doctor i never liked the field but just to keep his dream alive i did. After my fsc my score was good and his behaviour become polite towards me and then i cleared my mcat and got admission in the medical college
I passed my first and second year with above 80+% marks and i did everything just to make him proud. But his behaviour became so cold towards me after all of this. He wont greet me, he wont take me anywhere, like it is all he wanted was that i just became a doctor and all of his love was a drama or a way to get me jnto this field.
Just to clear we have no financial issue, we have not have an arguement. I can swear on my life i have never in my life talked back to my father, whatever he said i iust said "jee" that is all.

He refused me from a thing i said done. My entire wardrobe, my every wish i completed it on my own mind you my mother and younger brother never had to worry about any of this in terms that if they wanted something they could just ask him and he would get it for them.
But whenever i would ask for something it would always be i just throw money around or something else. So i thought maybe thats why he despises me so i stopped asking for money from him except the factor he pays for my fuel or whenever i go out with friends maybe once a week. Remainder of everything i do on my own.
It is not about how i am doing something super special or something it is just about how i pour everything i had in me to just fulfill his dream and he doesnt have the slightest feel for that. How i gave up on everything my friends, dreams, social life just for him because i loved him In comparison his relation with my mother or younger brother is completely opposite of what he has with me.
My brother pursed his own dream, changed careers, and everything i was tormented about he did it. And on god i am so happy for him i dont envy or get jealous for him.
But at the end of the day i do feel bad because for everything i did i got nothing. It is not about the money it is more about being recognised, shown affection but i really got none of it.

I just want someone to give their honest opinion about all of this.
Like why doesnt he talk that much, why am i never invited to go along with him (for example he is buying a new car and he didnt even take me to a single showroom my brother, his accountant and the marketing guy from our company went), he goes on dinner and he never asks me except the one time when he was not going and just wanted me to take one of my friends and attend it, why is it always a refusal when i ask (i asked to get permission for trip it was a straight refusal).
Like i dont want to victimise myself because i do agree that i didnt focus in fsc but i did make amends i changed everything and still somehow i am treated like this.

So i would like to keep it short and simple to understand.
1 am in my early teens and i am pursing Mbbs.
Since the past few months. The dynamics of my relation with my father has changed a lot. Which genuinely made me question me why did it deteriorate so much in such a short span of my time.
So a little background i was always very average in studies i didn't score that high i was always in the average students of my class. But with time my parents especially my father started to mount pressure on me regarding studying more harder and more better. He was never of any help in terms of guidance or helping me understand my deficiencies he would just pop up with a tuition teacher and the rest would just be his job. So in fsc i scored pretty well but in fsc i got a dip so my father did the worst he could. He took me every relatives house insulted me in every possible way. And so on but i never took it to heart because the bond we had before all of this was so pure and wholesome. But it did make me question a lot is all about the marks, is it all about his dreams. I never wanted to be a doctor i never liked the field but just to keep his dream alive i did. After my fsc my score was good and his behaviour become polite towards me and then i cleared my mcat and got admission in the medical college
I passed my first and second year with above 80+% marks and i did everything just to make him proud. But his behaviour became so cold towards me after all of this. He wont greet me, he wont take me anywhere, like it is all he wanted was that i just became a doctor and all of his love was a drama or a way to get me jnto this field.
Just to clear we have no financial issue, we have not have an arguement. I can swear on my life i have never in my life talked back to my father, whatever he said i iust said "jee" that is all.

He refused me from a thing i said done. My entire wardrobe, my every wish i completed it on my own mind you my mother and younger brother never had to worry about any of this in terms that if they wanted something they could just ask him and he would get it for them.
But whenever i would ask for something it would always be i just throw money around or something else. So i thought maybe thats why he despises me so i stopped asking for money from him except the factor he pays for my fuel or whenever i go out with friends maybe once a week. Remainder of everything i do on my own.
It is not about how i am doing something super special or something it is just about how i pour everything i had in me to just fulfill his dream and he doesnt have the slightest feel for that. How i gave up on everything my friends, dreams, social life just for him because i loved him In comparison his relation with my mother or younger brother is completely opposite of what he has with me.
My brother pursed his own dream, changed careers, and everything i was tormented about he did it. And on god i am so happy for him i dont envy or get jealous for him.
But at the end of the day i do feel bad because for everything i did i got nothing. It is not about the money it is more about being recognised, shown affection but i really got none of it.

I just want someone to give their honest opinion about all of this.
Like why doesnt he talk that much, why am i never invited to go along with him (for example he is buying a new car and he didnt even take me to a single showroom my brother, his accountant and the marketing guy from our company went), he goes on dinner and he never asks me except the one time when he was not going and just wanted me to take one of my friends and attend it, why is it always a refusal when i ask (i asked to get permission for trip it was a straight refusal).
Like i dont want to victimise myself because i do agree that i didnt focus in fsc but i did make amends i changed everything and still somehow i am treated like this.

So i would like to keep it short and simple to understand.
1 am in my early teens and i am pursing Mbbs.
Since the past few months. The dynamics of my relation with my father has changed a lot. Which genuinely made me question me why did it deteriorate so much in such a short span of my time.
So a little background i was always very average in studies i didn't score that high i was always in the average students of my class. But with time my parents especially my father started to mount pressure on me regarding studying more harder and more better. He was never of any help in terms of guidance or helping me understand my deficiencies he would just pop up with a tuition teacher and the rest would just be his job. So in fsc i scored pretty well but in fsc i got a dip so my father did the worst he could. He took me every relatives house insulted me in every possible way. And so on but i never took it to heart because the bond we had before all of this was so pure and wholesome. But it did make me question a lot is all about the marks, is it all about his dreams. I never wanted to be a doctor i never liked the field but just to keep his dream alive i did. After my fsc my score was good and his behaviour become polite towards me and then i cleared my mcat and got admission in the medical college
I passed my first and second year with above 80+% marks and i did everything just to make him proud. But his behaviour became so cold towards me after all of this. He wont greet me, he wont take me anywhere, like it is all he wanted was that i just became a doctor and all of his love was a drama or a way to get me jnto this field.
Just to clear we have no financial issue, we have not have an arguement. I can swear on my life i have never in my life talked back to my father, whatever he said i iust said "jee" that is all.

He refused me from a thing i said done. My entire wardrobe, my every wish i completed it on my own mind you my mother and younger brother never had to worry about any of this in terms that if they wanted something they could just ask him and he would get it for them.
But whenever i would ask for something it would always be i just throw money around or something else. So i thought maybe thats why he despises me so i stopped asking for money from him except the factor he pays for my fuel or whenever i go out with friends maybe once a week. Remainder of everything i do on my own.
It is not about how i am doing something super special or something it is just about how i pour everything i had in me to just fulfill his dream and he doesnt have the slightest feel for that. How i gave up on everything my friends, dreams, social life just for him because i loved him In comparison his relation with my mother or younger brother is completely opposite of what he has with me.
My brother pursed his own dream, changed careers, and everything i was tormented about he did it. And on god i am so happy for him i dont envy or get jealous for him.
But at the end of the day i do feel bad because for everything i did i got nothing. It is not about the money it is more about being recognised, shown affection but i really got none of it.

I just want someone to give their honest opinion about all of this.
Like why doesnt he talk that much, why am i never invited to go along with him (for example he is buying a new car and he didnt even take me to a single showroom my brother, his accountant and the marketing guy from our company went), he goes on dinner and he never asks me except the one time when he was not going and just wanted me to take one of my friends and attend it, why is it always a refusal when i ask (i asked to get permission for trip it was a straight refusal).
Like i dont want to victimise myself because i do agree that i didnt focus in fsc but i did make amends i changed everything and still somehow i am treated like this.

So i would like to keep it short and simple to understand.
I am in my early teens and i am pursing Mbbs. Since the past few months. The dynamics of my relation with my father has changed a lot. Which genuinely made me question me why did it deteriorate so much in such a short span of my time.
So a little background i was always very average in studies i didn’t score that high i was always in the average students of my class. But with time my parents especially my father started to mount pressure on me regarding studying more harder and more better. He was never of any help in terms of guidance or helping me understand my deficiencies he would just pop up with a tuition teacher and the rest would just be his job. So in fsc i scored pretty well but in fsc i got a dip so my father did the worst he could. He took me every relatives house insulted me in every possible way. And so on but i never took it to heart because the bond we had before all of this was so pure and wholesome. But it did make me question a lot is all about the marks, is it all about his dreams. I never wanted to be a doctor i never liked the field but just to keep his dream alive i did. After my fsc my score was good and his behaviour become polite towards me and then i cleared my mdcat and got admission in the medical college
I passed my first and second year with above 80+% marks and i did everything just to make him proud. But his behaviour became so cold towards me after all of this. He wont greet me, he wont take me anywhere, like it is all he wanted was that i just became a doctor and all of his love was a drama or a way to get me jnto this field.
Just to clear we have no financial issue, we have not have an arguement. I can swear on my life i have never in my life talked back to my father, whatever he said i just said “jee” that is all. He refused me from a thing i said done. My entire wardrobe, my every wish i completed it on my own mind you my mother and younger brother never had to worry about any of this in terms that if they wanted something they could just ask him and he would get it for them.
But whenever i would ask for something it would always be i just throw money around or something else. So i thought maybe thats why he despises me so i stopped asking for money from him except the factor he pays for my fuel or whenever i go out with friends maybe once a week. Remainder of everything i do on my own.
It is not about how i am doing something super special or something it is just about how i pour everything i had in me to just fulfill his dream and he doesnt have the slightest feel for that. How i gave up on everything my friends, dreams, social life just for him because i loved him
In comparison his relation with my mother or younger brother is completely opposite of what he has with me.
My brother pursed his own dream, changed careers, and everything i was tormented about he did it. And on god i am so happy for him i dont envy or get jealous for him.
But at the end of the day i do feel bad because for everything i did i got nothing. It is not about the money it is more about being recognised,shown affection but i really got none of it.
I just want someone to give their honest opinion about all of this.
Like why doesnt he talk that much, why am i never invited to go along with him (for example he is buying a new car and he didnt even take me to a single showroom my brother,his accountant and the marketing guy from our company went), he goes on dinner and he never asks me except the one time when he was not going and just wanted me to take one of my friends and attend it, why is it always a refusal when i ask ( i asked to get permission for trip it was a straight refusal ).
Like i dont want to victimise myself because i do agree that i didnt focus in fsc but i did make amends i changed everything and still somehow i am treated like this.