u/Aromatic-Lobster1750

It was fall 2022 and I was on the peloton. It was early evening and I was congratulating myself for actually getting on the bike, given my love-hate relationship with exercise. I had music playing and was singing along when my husband walked through the door. Now, my husband had purchased the bike for my birthday and often encouraged me to ride it. He laughed when I sang along and seemed to get a kick out of it. Not that night. "Why are you on the bike NOW?" he snarled. "You've had all day to ride it, dammit." But it wasn't his words-it was the look in his eyes. Hatred. Like actual hatred. "I'm sorry," I stammered, "I only have five minutes left and by the time you change your clothes, I'll be done." He stormed upstairs. Later I found out (from my friend who is married to his friend) that he was getting in shape for his girlfriend. That hurt. But I will never, ever forget the look in his eyes that night. There was no coming back from that, I thought. I was correct.

I volunteer as a college advisor and work with first-gen, low income students. One of my students sent me 4 PIQs in one day, all polished and ready to go. I ran them through an AI checker and they came back as 100% AI. I ran my other student's PIQs through the same AI checker and they were deemed 0% AI.

I'm not sure what to do. I don't want to accuse the student of using AI or even asking her if she did because I don't want to impact our relationship. She's a great kid, very active in all sorts of ECs, internship at a major medical center, etc. She's also up for a national scholarship and I am worried that if they run her Common App essay (not yet written) through an AI detector, it might get flagged.

What should I do?

So, if your therapist said to you (after 3 years in therapy) "I didn't know you had a master's degree" when you had mentioned it more than once and stated "I didn't remember that" when you (again) brought up your sister who died in infancy, what would you think?

I'm a Gen-Xer who grew up in the central valley of California. When I was in fourth grade, I moved to a new town and school district in a pretty rural part of the area. My teacher was Mrs. Dosanjh and she introduced us to "Reality Land". We had our own checkbooks and on Fridays, the students ran a marketplace. My "business" was a bakery, my friend's was a craft store, etc. And some students had jobs like running the school supply store or cleaning after the marketplace. They would be paid by check and could convert it to reality land dollars (I can't remember what those were called) which they could use at the marketplace. And at the end of the year, we had an auction where we could use our Reality Land dollars. It was so impactful. She's still my favorite teacher to this day! Have any teachers out there heard of this?

Are there any laws regarding this situation? Is it on a case-by-case basis?

My soon-to-be ex (a litigator for 28 years) and I exchanged proposals and agreed on everything, but something he put in the latest proposal raised red flags. It said I would receive X% of his income "for as long as he works." This was a new addition and means he can quit his job the month after the divorce is final and I would have no recourse. So, I said I wanted some kind of guarantee he won't just quit. He became angry and said he wouldn't provide that. Our mediator (in a meeting with just me and her) said "well, it certainly sounds like he's going to quit." Also, I understand no one can make him stay at that particular job; I am worried about the amount of support, not what job provides it.

But now I am wondering if he said that for leverage because now he is talking about lowering the percentage of income in return for some kind of guarantee. And the mediator is pressuring me to take it, telling me that I may only get 25% in long-term support from the court (for a 33-year marriage!), which seems really low considering what I gave up to take care of our child while he built his legal career.

And yes, I do have an attorney, but frankly she's not that great.

Edit: and yes, I've been looking for a job but as a 56-year-old woman with a 15-year gap on her resume, I've had no luck so far.