I’m 20 and I feel like trich has completely taken over my eyebrows and eyelashes
Hi, I don’t think I’ve ever posted here before but I’ve been wanting to for a while because I just need to talk to people who understand this. I’m 20 and I technically started pulling my eyelashes when I was really anxious in middle school but it went away for years and wasn’t really a problem. Then around junior year of high school I started dating my most recent ex-boyfriend, and that was when it became a completely different thing. I started pulling/plucking my eyelashes, eyebrows and pubic hair constantly.
I haven’t been with him for years now but the trich never went away when the relationship did. At this point I basically have no natural eyebrows or eyelashes and it’s so fucking hard. The mirror is probably one of my biggest triggers. I can look at myself and immediately notice one hair that feels “wrong” or looks out of place and suddenly I need to get it. Then it turns into more than one. I know exactly what I’m doing and still can’t make myself stop. I’m already being treated for my mental health and I take Prozac, Wellbutrin, Adderall and clonidine. I’m also in therapy and I genuinely have an amazing therapist who has helped me through so much, but trich isn’t something she specializes in. I’ve actually never really had someone in my life who specializes in trichotillomania or who I can talk to specifically about what pulling is like. And now I’m having to say goodbye to my therapist because my family is moving from Ohio to California while I’m going into my junior year of college. There’s just a lot of change happening at once and I want to be clear that I’m really lucky to have a good support system and people I can talk to. I’m not alone in that sense at all. But I still feel very weirdly alone with the trich because I don’t think anyone around me fully understands what it feels like to want to stop doing something to your own body and then feel like you cannot leave a hair alone. There are definitely bigger things going on in my life than my eyebrows and eyelashes which almost makes me feel stupid for being this upset about them but I am. It makes me feel so insecure. Every time I see my face without makeup I’m reminded of what I’ve done to it and then somehow seeing the damage makes me want to pull more instead of making me stop. I want my eyebrows and eyelashes back so badly. I’m exhausted from feeling like I’m constantly fighting my own hands, and I’m tired from telling myself that this time I am going to let everything grow back and then ending up in the exact same place I’ve been in forever. I don’t even really know what I’m asking for with this post. I think I just want to hear from people who actually understand what this feels like. I’ve never really had that experience. If you’ve ever gotten to the point where you had basically no brows/lashes left and managed to get better or grow them back, I would really love to hear about it. Or honestly even if you’re still struggling too, I’d love to hear from you. I think I just need to know there are other people who understand how fucking hard this is