u/Asbestos_Enjoyer98

I’m a metal guitarist and I’ve been playing just around 1 year(September was when I started) and in that time period I have learned a lot, mainly when it comes to playing riffs. I now feel fairly confident covering most metal rhythm guitar sections without much difficulty, some of the harder songs I’ve learned in full are laid to rest, tornado of souls, Mop, holy wars. I can play all the riffs, but I can’t play any leads no matter how much I practice them. Even a simple guitar solo like paranoid gives me a lot of trouble. When I try to learn how to play a guitar solo, I pretty much use the same method I do for learning riffs. I use a tab, try to play it slow and increase speed until I get it right but for some reason it always feels like I’m doing something wrong and it doesn’t sound anything like it. I feel like I make no progress everytime I try to learn a solo, am I doing something wrong?

I recently just found out I’ve been cheated on and lied to by my gf for 7 months and I’m feeling the hardest emotional pain I’ve ever been through. The story is a lot more detailed and painful than that but I’d prefer to share in DMs if that’s okay.

I recently just found out I’ve been cheated on and lied to by my gf for 7 months and I’m feeling the hardest emotional pain I’ve ever been through. The story is a lot more detailed and painful than that but I’d prefer to share in DMs if that’s okay.

Relationship of 7 months and we both agreed porn is cheating, I made it very clear at the start of the relationship that it is cheating and it is not acceptable. I thought she was really committed to me, she said she was extremely against porn. She was so against it she’d even cover her eyes when we’d watch movies together with a sex scene. But as history repeats itself, I found all the porn on her phone and in her search history, so much every single day she must have been watching at least 30 videos a day I mean I was shocked at just how much there was especially since we have sex so often almost every single day multiple times a day and that still isn’t enough for her she needs to spend hours watching porn. She didn’t even delete her search history after all of that?? She ofc denied at first until confessing to it like 10 minutes later. I calmly just made her leave my house with her stuff.

This is at least the 4th relationship I’ve had where this has happened I’m beginning to lose count. I was so disappointed that I couldn’t even cry for a while, the reality just would not sink in. I’ve been through this same scenario so many times, and it’d always just ends the same way. I felt like nothing matters anymore, while we were arguing about this I just started saying maybe I should just accept it, I don’t think I’ll ever find a woman who won’t watch it. She was shocked and we tried talking about it, I tried so hard to just accept it and accept her watching it because I love her and I didn’t want to let her go. It hurts but I feel like I’ll never find a woman who doesn’t watch it so I thought I may as well just say fuck it and give up. She started describing to me all the porn she’d watch and what she liked etc. All those other men she’d fantasize about, all the crazy kinks she has and just never told me about. I tried to like it and be into it, however during the conversation the reality hit and I started sobbing. I spent 3 hours on my porch just crying. It almost felt like a form of self harm, I wanted her to keep telling me these things, I wanted her to just keep hurting me with the painful truth. I felt like I had to know every single detail, just to not feel gaslighted and lied to for once in my life. It was humiliating and so painful, I think trying to be apart of it made me feel like I was at least in control of the pain by fetishing it but all that did was hurt me so much more. I feel like I will never be enough for any girl I fall in love with. No matter how much attention I give her, or how much sex we have it won’t matter because porn will always be there. Here I come back again to post my same repeated failure. Time is a flat circle.