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When I was talking to my psychiatrist, she pointed out my stimming (rocking to the sides) and made a joke about sea sickness. I laughed, because I found it pretty funny and didn't think much about it. Later she got serious and was trying to make me think that I'm selfish for not stopping my stimming for her, because I guess the joke was supposed to make me stop and was talking about how much I'm distracting her and making her uncomfortable and made me move my chair to the side, so she wouldnt have to look at me. It made me feel so disrespected. She also was rude about other things, but why whould she have a problem with my stimming? She literally later started to stim too by spinning slightly on her chair.

Is it better to keep my problems to myself rather than talking about it and opening up? Cuz I tried doing but one fault from my end is that I cannot describe what I am feeling properly or in details but I want to listen uplifting words to make
myself feel better but i don’t receive that..and i can’t ask for stuff like that right? so is it better to keep shit i am going through (mentally) to myself? even if it is causing for others actions?

im 18. my mom passed when i was around 12. the day it happened i got told a lot at once : stuff that happened to her when she was 15, that she got diagnosed bipolar later in life, that she was on pills and had convulsions, and that she eventually accidentally overdosed.

6 years later im still not okay with it. it shows up in my mood and how i think about who i am as a person. i also have real questions about whether bipolar runs in families and what that means for me.

the hard part is my dad doesnt believe she actually had a medical condition. so i cant bring any of it up at home without it turning into something. i mostly just tell my friends but i feel bad always dumping it on them.

how do you start dealing with something like this when the one parent you have left wont acknowledge half of it? has anyone been here? therapy advice, book recs, journaling, anything. im open.

I (18F) have a sister (10F) who I was genuinely the worst to. Up until she was 8, I was such a crappy sister. Never used to let her play with me, snapped at her, never took care of her, was so ignorant and avoidant all the while she used to look up to me, comfort me whenever I was sad and held such innocent love towards me. Im currently bawling writing this.
Another regret of mine is not documenting her enough, not taking enough photos and videos when in should have because I was too busy being a self centred ass to see how eager she was all the time around me. Not properly safekeeping or digitalising the notes and card she’d make for me saying she loved me and that I was the best sister ever. Not recording her toddler and baby voice and babbles as it evolved. She used to say the cutest things and sing made up songs or randomly tell me and my mom we looked beautiful. And on that note, I barely ever complimented her. She’d come up to me and ask me how’d she look after so cutely putting effort into getting ready by herself and all I’d no was grunt and mutter out a nice. I never used to share things with her, never played with her. I left her to play all by herself and even then never bothered to observe and appreciate how cutely she used to play.

This isn’t even everything, but you get the picture. I also do wanna say that im trying my best not to be too hard on myself, considering I was a young teen and still trying to navigate my life. I also had some depressive episodes at around 15. But man, I can never get back her young years and be the sister I want to be. Never appreciate the things she used to do because unfortunately back then I was too occupied with my own things.

I love her, I love her so much and all I ever wanted to do was give her a better childhood than I did, but unfortunately that realisation came a lot later. My parents are awesome, but they do have some toxic traits which impacted me. I didn’t want that for her but I never used to do anything when my mom scolded or hit(not harshly) her, and instead just watched her crying. (That’s a whole other story). It’s killing me, this guilt, and to make things better, (or worse) my sister never resented me. Always so forgiving and understanding.
Since the last 2 years, however, I have done everything I never did. Took care of her, took so many photos and videos of her, showed up for her, helped her wit whatever she needed, did activities with her and spent every possible moment I could with her, involved and active without shutting her away.
Please share some words of encouragement, because no matter what, it feels like I failed as a sister and I would honestly do anything to get a second chance.

So recently I have been feeling that I do not want anything to do with my two best friends anymore because one of them keeps on switching up on me, like at one time they were nice and then at another time they were mean. My other best friend keeps on saying that they are not going to be my friend anymore and then after they leave me, they will come back. Then after they will come back they will say that they are not going to be my friend anymore, and it is just a consent loop of that. At this point I do not want anything to do with my two best friends.

Picture of me gaining weight let me look pregnant needs the money for getting me more fat and focused feeding

Long story short, broke no contact with my ex about a week ago to check up on him. It was a lot of emotions, as he still misses and loves me. My heart dropped (hes avoidant, gave mixed signals etc..you can see who ended things, him)

We tried being open to a friendship and I gave him some boundaries. Then, he said he couldn't be friends with me since he needs to move on. Completely valid but I felt so stupid by reaching out to him and caring about him. ​

I also had a dream about him after I blocked him. I wonder if he's still stalking me rn..hmm....

I just need encouragement. I just want to be in a long term relationship with my forever partner and im tired of dating, tired of dating apps and mixed signals, tired of inconsistencies and burnout☹️

(Not native English speaker)
I hate myself so much that I can't handle loneliness.
Yes I accept that, and maybe I should have stayed lonely to finally pass the lesson that life is trying to give me. But I am weak and need someone who will listen to me and say whatever they want to say.
I have people around I have my family and friends thank God. But lately I have to filter my words, my tone and all so they don't worry too much about me. And that makes me feel that constant unpleasant loneliness deep inside.
The thing is I am the cause of all the sh.. life and people around me are good.
If you are ready for a person with inner mess and fighting a victim mentality pls do me

How to stop overthinking so much. It is too draining for me now my heart literally tells to stop but my brain is literally thinking about all the unrealistic outcomes and scenarios 24/7. I am pretty much confident about myself but still this lingering thought of being replaceable eats me alive what the hell should I do to make it stop..

I don’t know what to do anymore, I’m so scared of everything in life. Being in public, being online, even around my family and close friends. I’m always on edge and paranoid. I feel like I’m always being judged and that people only think the worst of me. I’m afraid of being online due to all the virus and malware paranoia I hear. I’m afraid to do anything, I don’t feel safe anywhere and I’m so tired of it. I wanna be able to do things with the people I care about but I can’t. I feel like I’m not close to anyone and I’m isolated. I’ve tried so hard and nothing works. I don’t know what to do.

So life has been changing on a daily basis need some advices or just want to talk with whoever is reading this. Entering my last year of college, been thinking alot about my next career plan and i am trying to lock in. I also joined gym today to get better physically aswell. I have not met my parents for more than 4months and also went back to ldr with my bf all these things make me feel sorta lonely even when i am surrounded with people here

Btw I am living in Shillong rn. I am so stressed about my future. I have been feeling a bit disconnected with both my family and my partner i dont know why I feel so insecure and anxious all the time. The way we decided to keep communicating everyday when we were together and were going to be in this ldr were all planned we cried so much together but its not getting fulfilled that much. Note: he got a job and went to a different state. He does call me and text whenever he can touchwood.

How can I stop overthinking so much and keep myself focused and calm? Whoever read this pls kindly drop your piece of advice or maybe a kind comment?

hi reddit i've never posted on here and am just desperate, im f19, i work at a normal small retail store in a mall about 40 minutes away, its a chill job, i dont do much, ive been working there for about 3 months and dont at all hate the job and it pays well so i want to go and make my money, but for some reason the past 3 shifts/ days i've just gotten so nauseous and throw up for like 5 hours and have to call out, as soon as my time to go in passes the nausea goes away and im pretty much fine other than just being in pain from the nausea, i wake up turn to the side, and feel the impending doom and get the worst stomach pains and cant do anything but sit on the floor for hours dry heaving. some other notes, i do drive but its not my favorite and dont take the highway which makes my drive longer but chilling with my music i dont mind the drive tbh, i do smoke weedpens but i've ruled that out as its the only thing that calms me (but i obviously cant do it before i drive and go to work), my mom says im to dependent on my man and thats why i fear going to work but thats never been a problem and we've been together 4 years) i will answer any follow ups i just dont want to feel this way every morningHELP ME PLEASE😭

Hi, I’m 16F and honestly, I’m just feeling super overwhelmed right now and really need some help or advice. My family’s financial situation has been getting really heavy lately, and it breaks my heart to see my parents stress out about bills and expenses all the time. I feel so guilty just sitting here doing nothing, so I’m desperately trying to find some kind of job, sideline, or online gig that a 16-year-old can actually do. I don't even care if it's small or doesn't pay a ton at first, I just want to contribute something to lessen the burden on them. The problem is, I don’t even know where to start, what’s safe for someone my age, or if anyone would even hire me since I’m still in school and don't have a degree yet. If anyone has any tips, legitimate platforms, or literally any leads on what I can do to earn some extra money, please let me know. I’m a really fast learner and willing to put in the work, I just really need some guidance right now.

Hi, this is a throw away account, I just want opinions regarding some of my thoughts. Which sounds a bit weird but I’ll explain.

I have trouble empathising with people when I think their problems are stupid or if I’ve gone through the same thing but I’ve complained less or worked hard to get through it.

I don’t like people who complain and have cries about things. I hate that part of myself because I think there’s something wrong with me, I won’t tell anyone I don’t care. I’ll pretend that I do care, even offer help but the truth is that it pisses me off so much.

My sister has medical trauma, she doesn’t have many “good” or “visible” veins, in the hospital they kept sticking needles in her to get bloods done. Now she has issues with needles and blood tests in general. I was with her during a medical thing and she was getting bloods and she started crying, I was so embarrassed and was annoyed that she made a big deal out of it. I know she has trauma but my brain is just like “get over it”.

My other sister got something in her eye once and was upset cause she was having trouble opening her eye. She was asking people to make her a sandwich and to bring her eye drops etc. the whole thing just made me mad. I feel like a lot of the time I’m refraining from rolling my eyes.

I do a lot for my family, I’ve been treated as third parent/counsellor/friend/lawyer etc. our dynamic isn’t normal. I’m expected to always do everything and help everyone (which is rarely reciprocated). I’m unsure if this is how I developed this annoyance and apathy towards them when it’s small stuff.

I was just wondering if anyone has had similar thoughts?

Thanks

Trigger warning: >!Physical abuse, bullying, eating disorder, emotional abuse.!<

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Hi everyone. This is my first post, and I just need to get this off my chest.

I'm 18 (almost 19). I haven't played volleyball in 3.5 years, but the aftermath of my coach will probably stay with me forever.

At 10, my parents made me pick a sport. There was only one volleyball club in my town. I never missed a practice — 6 days a week. My coach was hot‑headed and aggressive. I was scared of her, but I actually liked the sport.

Because I was persistent, she took me to an out‑of‑town tournament six months later (10 hours away). I was over the moon — but not for long.

At the tournament, she kept yelling that we had no discipline. We lost game after game, and she got angrier every day.

On day three, I made a stupid mistake. She called a timeout, started screaming, then punched me as hard as she could in the solar plexus. It was incredibly painful. They sent us back out — my stomach hurt, and the yelling continued.

That's when my personal hell began. It lasted 5 years.

I didn't tell my parents after the tournament (I don't know why). My coach realized I wouldn't fight back — that she could do whatever she wanted. She beat me at every practice: with her hands, fists, jump rope, belt, even soccer cleats. And she constantly called me a fat, clumsy elephant.

After two years, my teammates and I decided to file a complaint. I told my dad, but he said it was stupid and not to do it. He didn't know about the beatings — I hadn't told him.

Still, I became the main striker. But the better I played, the more she beat and humiliated me. Especially after I gained 10 kg during COVID and couldn't lose it. Around the same time, my dad lost his job (he's a narcissist, but I was used to it). Money was tight. I switched schools and failed 8th grade.

We went to the biggest competition of my life — national level. We lost again and again. My coach humiliated me even more and hit me hard in the stomach several times.

I decided to quit. No support, bad grades. My dad was completely against it. So I finally told him I was being physically and verbally abused. No one believed me.

I quit anyway. My whole family judged me. They made me pick another sport, but I didn't want any. By then, I had been volunteering for two years — and I actually loved it. But my family didn't support me. They just hinted that I needed to lose weight (even though my weight stayed the same after quitting sports).

Then I had a huge fight with my dad, and my weight started skyrocketing. I've gained 40 kg in three years. I hate what I see in the mirror. I hate my life. I'm ashamed of myself.

Thank you for reading. Feel free to ask questions — I'll answer what I can. This was the short version. If anything needs clarifying, just ask. I just needed to let out the pain.

Take care, everyone ❤️