u/Atausiq2

Have you noticed no matter how much advice, comfort and guidance you give it's never enough and the behavior hardly improves over time.

To add, it's also why I do not want to deal with people who have poorly managed mental illness, I have dealt with bpd people growing up because I wanted to help them but nothing I ever said was enough. Call me ableist or say mental illness is okay until you show symptoms.. I have tried to be supportive and I grew up needing extra help at school and needing therapy but I don't stay a victim

I'm lucky to have had a businessman grandfather who had money so when he died (way before I existed) my grandma bought two houses, one for my dad and the other for his brother. My mom married my dad and she got to live in a house. She has nagged me in the past about why don't I want to buy a house or why am I looking outside of the region, my parents or the grandma talked about were poor and they did manual labor even when they came to Canada, it's not their fault they had little vocational training though.. but I feel like not many people in my family who are gen X or boomers are financially literate or have entrepreneurial/leadership ambitions and they managed to get a house through marriage but they still act like village folks. My cousin recently bought a house with his brother, wife and his dad and I saw these people took and work long ass hours and my mom expects her only child (me) to do all this but has no advice or support, neither does my dad.. hard times make strong men, strong men make good times, good times make weak men, weak men make hard times

I thought they were just renovating but it's a completely new cafe now. Miss the old staff and the classic look..the 80s music is still there though.

I have been learning how to drive for several years and I finished my course recently but I really did not practice in between. My dad has a car but the one time I tried to ask for his help he stressed me so much we almost crashed and told me it's not safe for me to drive because I wear glasses and I don't know how to drive. My mom paid for my courses, she doesn't know how to drive btw and all she does is nag me when will I drive. It's the same with going to college or getting good grades growing up. Thet will pay but they will not support me otherwise. I could have benefited from a tutor growing up but my mom just yelled at me that I'm stupid. Asian parents want you to be accomplished but won't do the things to help you.

I'm going through a bad cold because of the weather change and my parents are concerned and that's normal but also I do not want to answer or come see them because I don't want to be forced to listen to unsolicited advice and I don't want to be blamed because I "ate junk food"

Makes me think when it's my time to have a baby I don't think I would want to tell them until a lot later. I don't think it's going to be good for me to endure that stress if I have a baby.

I know not every set of parents and children agree across all cultures but I feel growing up I had to support myself emotionally and constantly protect my peace from them. I moved out already but I could not exist without constant criticism