u/AuDHD_Aquarist

My mum had me at 19 and was a single mum with the help of my grandparents on both sides. I alternated weekends between both parents but my dad and I grew distant when he married his wife when I was 10. My mum went on to get married, had an affair with my now stepdad and had my brother at 36. She then went on to have my two sisters in her early 40s. Then in January, at 53, she left. Wanting to reclaim her youth and had fallen out of love with my stepdad.

I’m 36, brother 18, sisters 12 and 10. They live with my stepdad and she has them every other weekend. But here’s the kicker, the last time she saw me was the 1st October 2023. She’s had every opportunity to see me but instead of driving an hour to see me, she drives longer than that to visit her new boyfriend.

She talks about her kids referring to three of them but talks down to me like a child. When I found out she had a new boyfriend she got defensive and I didn’t bother entertaining her with a response. She likely thinks I’m sulking with her but quite frankly I’m just done. There are so many nasty things she’s said and done to me over the past 30 years and then to find out that rather than repairing our relationship and meeting for a coffee, she’s off knobbing someone else instead.

When you’re not even a priority to your parent, it doesn’t get much lower than that in my eyes. I’m chronically ill, back and forth with hospitals, doing my best and she couldn’t care less. Meanwhile, my stepdad came to ours with my siblings and I got to show them our house for the first time. It was lovely and everyone seemed to be having a good time.

My middle sister mentioned our mum and nobody responded. So I think everyone is feeling of a certain way about her but I don’t ask. My siblings need to make their own mind up about her and I’m not going to share my experiences unless they were to ask. I haven’t mentioned to any of them about the new boyfriend because it needs to come from her. But this woman cannot stand to be on her own.

Married for 2 years, leap frogs onto my stepdad, then after a 20 year relationship she’s immediately with someone else. It’s embarrassing. My therapist said I’m nothing like her and I’m so relieved. I didn’t realise until last year that one of my biggest fears is ending up like her.

Can anyone relate to this? How would you feel?

My friend and I are both turning 35 this year and her and her husband decided to have a baby who was born 3 weeks ago. She is the only person who has been more mindful about things around me because I can’t have kids and subsequently don’t want them.

I have 7 younger brothers and sisters between both parents (my folks were 19 and then had more kids from their 30s onwards to explain the large gap). So I’m a pro when it comes to baby stuff ironically.

My friend looks exhausted wearing a vest covered in breast milk. Then she left the room for 30 seconds and baby started to cry. So I picked her up and sang “”you’re such a grumpy baby” and she powered down and fell asleep on my chest 😂 I get my 32FF titties are pretty comfy. I was chuffed I got her to fall asleep but omg I was sooooo excited to get back to our peaceful home and our 8 cats. I love being an aunty but I also get to hand baby over when I’m done and that’s mint. Coming home to our fur babies is totally up my street and I don’t envy my friend whatsoever, but I still love her to bits and will help out where i can.