u/Automatic_Art1293

I [22m]have been dating my girlfriend [22f]for about seven months but we’ve been sleeping together for about 9. I love this girl more than anything like a type of love I didn’t know was possible. Before we started dating we discussed body counts and stuff like that mine is in the 10s and hers is somewhere in 20-30s. She told me this and I never really payed any mind to it. Recently we talked about it again and I already knew the stuff she told me which was that she was sexually assaulted at a young age and never had much respect for herself and lacked a male figure in her life so she looked for validation through sex. Shes also told me that being with me has changed her view on sex and how emotional and how meaningful it is. The thing is with us talking about this the number has been bothering me. It’s not so much I’m worried that she’s been with better it’s just I care about her so much it hurts to think about her past. Is this an insecurity that I need to work on? Is this something that I can even get over or get past?

I ‘22m’have been dating my girlfriend ‘22f’for about seven months but we’ve been sleeping together for about 9. I love this girl more than anything like a type of love I didn’t know was possible. Before we started dating we discussed body counts and stuff like that mine is in the 10s and hers is somewhere in 20-30s. She told me this and I never really payed any mind to it. Recently we talked about it again and I already knew the stuff she told me which was that she was sexually assaulted at a young age and never had much respect for herself and lacked a male figure in her life so she looked for validation through sex. Shes also told me that being with me has changed her view on sex and how emotional and how meaningful it is. The thing is with us talking about this the number has been bothering me. It’s not so much I’m worried that she’s been with better it’s just I care about her so much it hurts to think about her past. Is this an insecurity that I need to work on? Is this something that I can even get over or get past?

So I ‘22M’ have been with my girlfriend ‘22F’ for about 8 months and I love her more than I thought possible. I have never loved someone as much as I do her. That said about a month or two into us dating she told me that like a year before we met she hooked up with this guy who I know and who I don’t like very much. Like anyone who would find this out you wouldn’t be too happy but I got over it and every once in a while It would pop in my head and I would go oh that sucks but it happened and move on. But recently it’s become a recurring thought and it’s really destroying me and she is noticing as well. I don’t blame her and we have talked about it and she is so understanding and supportive. But no matter what I do it won’t stop the thought keeps coming back and it just becomes a loop I can’t stop thinking about and visualizing. It just hurts because i start comparing or asking questions or when we are doing something I’m like I wonder if he did this or she said this or something like that. My thinking is that I recently stopped taking my anxiety medicine which was lexapro and I’m not taking buspirone which is know to not work as well but has less side effects. I’m thinking of going back on lexapro and starting therapy but does anyone have any advice on how to get over this or stop spiraling. Does anyone know how to stop this or have any advice to help?

So I [22M] have been with my girlfriend [22F] for about 8 months and I love her more than I thought possible. I have never loved someone as much as I do her. That said about a month or two into us dating she told me that like a year before we met she hooked up with this guy who I know and who I don’t like very much. Like anyone who would find this out you wouldn’t be too happy but I got over it and every once in a while It would pop in my head and I would go oh that sucks but it happened and move on. But recently it’s become a recurring thought and it’s really destroying me and she is noticing as well. I don’t blame her and we have talked about it and she is so understanding and supportive. But no matter what I do it won’t stop the thought keeps coming back and it just becomes a loop I can’t stop thinking about and visualizing. It just hurts because i start comparing or asking questions or when we are doing something I’m like I wonder if he did this or she said this or something like that. My thinking is that I recently stopped taking my anxiety medicine which was lexapro and I’m not taking buspirone which is know to not work as well but has less side effects. I’m thinking of going back on lexapro and starting therapy but does anyone have any advice on how to get over this or stop spiraling. Any help is appreciated.