Hello! I'm from Bacolod and my bestfriend will be taking the CPALE this May 24-26 and gusto ko sana magpa-deliver ng flowers sa kanya to congratulate her. Her dorm is around España (U-belt) area lang and I'm wondering what flower shops can you recommend and what is the best way to deliver it? (Lalamove or flash?) Tyia!
hi does anyone have an idea kung pila ang estimated tuition each sem for bs entertainment and multimedia computing? (from public school) i already emailed asao pero kadugay sa ila mag reply :(
Trigger warning: Suicidal attempts
My boyfriend was supposed to graduate this year, but I recently found out that he had been lying to both me and his family for years about still being in college.
Last year, he admitted to me that he stopped studying during his second year of college. Based on the way he explained it, I thought he was simply delayed and only had around two semesters left before graduating. I encouraged him to tell his family the truth, but he only confessed to them this month. His sister already knew, but his mother did not because she works abroad. During that time, I was also put in a position where I had to lie to his mother because she believed he was still studying.
Recently, I suggested that he transfer to my former university so I could help him restart and process his enrollment. I genuinely believed he only had a few remaining subjects left. However, when he requested his TOR for transfer, the full truth finally came out:
He had actually only completed his first year of college.
At that point, I realized he had lied to me again. Even I did not know the entire truth until now, and I no longer know what to believe.
The entire situation has been emotionally exhausting for me. It started affecting my mental health and even my job hunting because I became too focused on helping him fix his problems. I ended up becoming the “messenger” between him and his mother because he would sometimes ignore her messages and avoid giving updates. His mother kept asking me to guide him because she is abroad. I even reached out to his siblings for help because their family is not particularly close, although they are trying.
We are all trying to support him, but I’m becoming emotionally drained. What hurts me most is not the fact that he stopped studying. I understand that people struggle and that life does not always go as planned. What hurts me is the constant lying and avoidance of responsibility. If he was capable of hiding something this serious for years, it makes me afraid of what our future would look like if we stayed together long-term.
I’ve also started realizing that we may not be emotionally compatible. Our love languages are very different, and lately I feel like part of the reason I’m staying is because I’m attached to the length of our relationship.
Things became even more complicated recently when he finally admitted that he has been struggling with severe self-hatred, suicidal thoughts and attempts since he was young, guilt, compulsive lying connected to fear of abandonment, and ongoing mental instability. He admitted that he isolated himself and kept digging himself deeper into lies instead of asking for help.
I’m still angry, hurt, and emotionally exhausted. His confession does not erase the pain, broken trust, confusion, and emotional damage caused by years of dishonesty. At the same time, I also no longer see this as a simple “bad boyfriend” situation. It’s clear that he has been mentally struggling for a very long time.
Now I feel conflicted. Part of me wants to leave because I feel emotionally exhausted and no longer know how to rebuild trust after years of lying. Another part of me feels guilty because he is clearly in a very dark mental state.
I know I cannot fix him on my own, and I also know that this relationship has been negatively affecting me for a long time.
For people who have experienced relationships affected by long-term dishonesty and mental health struggles, how did you decide whether to continue supporting your partner or step away for your own well-being?
TL;DR: I’m [F23] and my boyfriend is [M21]. I recently discovered that he lied for years about still being in college, and I eventually found out he had actually only completed his first year, not second year like he originally claimed. The situation became emotionally exhausting because I got heavily involved in helping him and communicating with his family. Recently, he admitted to struggling with severe self-hatred, suicidal thoughts/attempts, and compulsive lying tied to fear of abandonment and long-term mental health issues. I’m still deeply hurt by the lies, but now I feel conflicted because the situation feels far more serious and complicated than I first believed.
hello! i wanna ask if anyone here transferred or shifted sa BS Entertainment and Multimedia Computing and what are the pros and cons of this program and what to expect? im a psych student from another school and i want to transfer kay i feel like mas aligned sya sa skills ko. tyia! :))