u/AvenirRadieux

In adulthood I feel these two types are very similar.

I've had my One Plus 7 pro since its release, so around 7 years, and it just died today (Qualcomm Crash Dump mode).

This is the best phone I ever had. Never repaired, never tweaked, and the battery could still hold the entire day, or most of it anyway. Everything was fine until this morning.

For those who owned this phone, do you have any suggestion that could serve as a good replacement/upgrade?

Which types, based on your understanding of cognitive functions, are most likely to feel angry, powerless, frustrated, and generally in a bad mood when they feel they lack control over a situation (one's emotions, environment, relationships, etc.)?

Additionally, how do the aforementioned types tend to act in such a state?

Standing on the outer edges, so to speak. Obviously taking things in while being cognitively withdrawn ; somewhat disconnected from bodily sensations, like a ghost watching reality unfold through a glass window.

Examples :

Being able to retrace your steps after walking for hours with nothing but vague notions of the moments that lead you to the current one.

Living the moment while simultaneously observing it, thus having trouble simply "enjoying it."

Losing yourself in the quiet contemplation of the things around you, with nothing but vague impressions forming in your mind.

>This is NOT a 'type me' post, I do not doubt my type. I just want to hear about people's insights by sharing my own story.

I've been thinking about it recently.

Though I can't really say that I remember precisely who I was beyond yesterday, I seem to always have had a logical approach throughout my life. I can recall my own mother, basically one of the few people I've ever allowed myself to be truly vulnerable with, calling me 'cartesian' in the past.

In french (don't know if it's used in spoken english) this refers to a very rational and logical personality.

The first time specifically, she made that statement matter-of-factly, with no particular intent. I was confused. Everyone seemed to agree with her, which turned my confusion into surprise because, despite my seemingly innate need to make sense of things through what I can only describe as a subjective logical framework (i.e., Ti), and my constant emphasis on things having to be at least somewhat logical, I had always viewed myself as a big feeler, someone far too moody and emotional to constantly act in ways that are sensible, appropriate, and rationally prescribed.

Here’s the thing: I love harmony. Harmony makes me happy. I like the very feeling of harmony, of cohesion, and camaraderie. Simple displays of trust and closeness, whether in real life or in media such as books or movies, are enough to give me powerful rushes of dopamine. I like the idea of a common purpose, the silent communion of both minds and hearts. I like it when the emotional landscape is both clear and in order. I've also observed that when I'm in a group where I feel I truly belong (when I sense real fellowship, I mean), that I'm very inclined to enter some peculiar state of subtle monitoring and attunement to everyone present, a state during which I can feel my sense of self slowly receding as I start thinking solely in terms of 'us.'

I've always been sensitive to the way I was perceived, trying hard to be viewed in a positive light no matter who I was with, which translated to me essentially trying to adopt the appropriate personality for each encounter in an attempt to please my interlocutor and ultimately achieve some kind of connection.

This processes are entirely automatic. I couldn't give a clear answer as to why I do this. It never felt fake (not to me, at least). Regardless, all of it has led me to believe that I was a high-Fe user.

However, reading some descriptions here and there about how INFJs are supposed to be like makes me doubt some of my conclusions.

I know I may be biased because most of the things I can remember somewhat clearly about my life are my mistakes, but I wouldn't exactly consider myself as someone who's warm and who gets along with many people.

Quite the contrary, in fact. I can remember myself acting quite selfish, unconsiderate, and confrontational. I can remember some people going as far as to call me cold and heartless. I can remember myself being childish, completely clueless socially, scorned, or, in retrospect, caring about 'people' but not so much about the individuals themselves, or at least not as genuinely as I thought.

Even to this day, I actively try not to mingle. In a social environment, I usually just exchange pleasantries and go on my merry way, so while people agree that I am polite and somewhat friendly, they also agree that I am ultimately unapproachable.

I don't know if those are just regular signs of unhealthiness, but I seem to be way less pleasant than regular INFJs. It's like my Fe is incessantly in conflict with something else inside; it is not in the least proactive. At least, not anymore. Again, it's to the point that my feeler nature is overlooked even by my relatives.

At first, I entertained the idea of being a mistyped Ti dom with decent Fe, specifically an ISTP, given that I'm quite sure of being on the Ni-Se axis.

But I'm not spontaneous in the slightest, my Ni definitely outrank my Ti, and, while I crave new experiences, they mainly serve as catalysts and more time is spent ruminating on those than actually living them. In fact, most of my time is spent in contemplation.

So I considered Fi dom, but I seem to display only the stereotypical bad sides and none of the good ones.

Not only that, but I don't really care much about my identity. I wouldn't know how to define it. Nothing really feels personal, aside from my impressions. My emotions are messy, blurry and confusing. I do not mind speaking about them because they don't feel special to me in any way. It seems that I simply lack the density of Fi.

Anybody who can relate?