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update: had the conversation, he said i am in charge of my own fun money, gas, bills etc. and he covers the house bills and ‘roof over my head’ i don’t know where to go from here but i’m spending the week at my parents and absolutely relishing in my ‘tantrum’ as he calls it. maybe i’m a brat but honestly i’m frustrated

I recently became a SAHM after having our second, however now that we’ve ‘combined’ finances I’m feeling a bit.. well child-like.

previously we had things split 50/50 as we each had our own bills and then split the house and kid’s necessities together. now that I don’t have a job I need him to help me pay my bills (i’m talking like gas, co pay for therapy, etc.)

he regularly will go out to buy things for his hobbies (expensive hobbies mind you) but then i find myself trying to pull pennie’s together from the leftover $$$ from grocery shopping to buy fabric or something to make baby clothes out of. he seems slightly annoyed when i ask for money for gas because well yes we are tight on funds and he dips into his savings to buy extra things he wants or we need.. but what am I allowed to do? am i selfish for thinking his money is mine as well? i’m so confused and this is new territory for both of us and there are a lot for confusing things that come up than we had the chance to discuss when preparing for this

i’m 7w pp and since i’ve been pregnant i have had the worst apathy. i have zero emotion aside from irritability and crying from it. i don’t feel anxious anymore or depressed, i constantly speak in a flat monotone voice and it internally feels like pulling teeth to add any sort of inflection or emotion to it, it’s become extremely noticeable especially with my 5 year old and i feel horrible about it. i can barely get myself to smile, it feels like it physically hurts my face to do so.

tonight i sobbed in bed because my husband said i needed to put baby in the bassinet and stop cosleeping, it’s the first solid emotion ive had in almost a year and im worried i just kick started PPD.

i’ve previously tried many many medications for anxiety and OCD in the past, the only one that works is of course on that my insurance no longer covers so i’m trapped there. any advice is appreciated or how you got apathy to go away. maybe i’m just lazy and need to fake it better. idk

EBF, Co-sleeping (safe 7) and owlet, 6 weeks old, won’t take bottle or pacifier

for reference our current schedule is this: 11:30pm- 3:30am: bedtime sleep 3:30-3:40am: wakes on own to feed 3:40-6:30am: sleep 6:30-6:40am: feed 6:40-9:30: sleep 9:30-9:40: feed 9:40-11am: awake and feed 11am-12pm: sleep 12-2: awake and feed 2-5: sleep 5-8: awake and cluster feeding 8-9: sleep 9-11:30: awake and cluster feeding

are there any tips for moving a bedtime earlier, is she awake for too long if stretches? tonight she has been up from 9:30-1am, will fall asleep for 10 minutes once an hour.

she is a difficult sleeper, takes a while to get her down unless it bedtime and she wakes to every noise or light change