r/housewifery

I think I want to be a housewife for the right reasons I believe I'm a generally compassionate and a caring person that wants to give and do right to others and by others, yet I do so currently in such an intense manner that it hurts me in a lot of ways. I do advocacy work and it is very overwhelming and is very stressful and I get very harmed in doing my work physically and mentally because it's so much and it is just a lot. I still want to do what I can because it's the right thing to do, it's what I owe to those that I'm helping support, and because I do want to be that person that is generous and compassion and such.

I think being a housewife is that for me, but on a much more manageable scale. I'm still doing and giving them to others that I care for in some way/shape/form yet it's simpler for me to do. It's something that can help others and help myself and I like the idea of being able to care for those that I love, my own family, in a way that I feel like I can actually do and succeed in.

I like the idea of being a pretty and gothic housewife (think Morticia Addams or Lily Munster) I like the idea of taking care of the house while my wife/soulmate is away. I like the idea of cooking, baking and planning things for the house for the week and next week to come. I like taking care of the house, taking care of simple chores, I like the idea of doing those things for my wife, our partners, and myself. I like the idea of being a homemaker on my own terms doing things my way without immediately being told to do this, that and the third like that.

Thus far in my life being a pretty and gothic housewife has been one of the few things that gets me up and going to do things and is motivated to do things and it has been one of the few things that has kind of given me some sense of joy as of late. Doing things like cleaning the bathroom every Friday is one of the few things that has given me joy and has made me happy and I think I see myself doing that (and more) for a good chunk of my life in the future. I don't really see myself finding any other joys in the moment outside of being a housewife or homemaker and doing things like that.

Can any other housewives and homemakers relate to what I have said? What made you want to be a housewife? Are these relatable reasons to want to be a housewife? Are these even valid reasons to be a housewife or am I living or fantasy? Am I living a fantasy that should just be a fantasy played out in some other way?

I'm just worried I'm doing all this for the wrong reasons or no reason even.

I haven't been able to truly do or feel anything much for days now. I feel emotionally empty, numb, and overwhelmed. I sometimes get joy out of cleaning and such around the house I still stay at with my parents. Yet I haven't been able to do much of anything because of these feelings void of feeling.

I feel frustrated with it all and with life in general. I barely get joy out of anything that matters. I regret waking up and getting out of bed, I even struggle to eat enough which sucks because I enjoy eating and especially eating to my hearts content. All I do is sleep and curl up in blankets and watch YouTube videos. When I don't do that I do what advocacy work when I can, even though I'm supposed to be on break because I'm in need of support and am also unwell mentally, emotionally and even physically.

I, for some time in a few days, have felt my chest be heavy, tense, tight and it feels like I am having a heart attack.

What do you all do when you feel like this or worse and still have your responsibilities in life, not just being a housewife, but mainly as a housewife cause well that's the subreddit and that's what I lead with.

Edit: I have OCD, GAD, Borderline Personality Disorder, and and suffer with some depression as my mental disorders.

Hi everyone, this isn’t a bash post or anything like that, I just need some support.

I recently found out I have PCOS (PMOS now) and that the likelihood of having children easily isn’t very high. I am pretty young and so is my partner. We have been together for a long time and we live together. But we aren’t in the perfect situation to have a baby right now.

He doesn’t want a baby right now because he want to be a present and happy father, which I totally understand and want too. However lately I’ve just been having so many feelings about having to wait a few more years, especially now I have my diagnosis. I don’t want to have children with anyone else and he does want children, just not anytime soon. I’m just having a hard time with this. (Not pressuring him or anything) I just don’t know what to do, I can’t stop thinking about being a mother and having a baby. I don’t think there is anything I can do right now but I don’t want to think about this every single second of the day.

Hi everyone! I’m super excited, because I officially only have 10 more days at work before I finally get my dream job as a homemaker/SAHM. My husband is officially an employed doctor, we are about a week and a half from closing on our new house that is everything we could possibly want, we have a perfect 7 month old son, and I’m 18 weeks pregnant with our little girl. Life is hectic and crazy, especially with the upcoming move and new career for my husband, but I’m so excited and have waited for this for so long! I’ve lurked and posted here for quite a while and I’m just so excited to finally be able to call myself a SAHM/homemaker/housewife. Y’all are such a great supportive group for anyone from any walk of life that calls themself a housewife. So excited to join you officially ❤️

I guess my first question is… does anyone have any tips for getting back on a day schedule after a decade of night shift and being a natural night owl?

I’m a SAHM of a 3 y/o, and I just can’t seem to find the motivation to do the cleaning like I should. I do the bare minimum as often as I absolutely have to, and it’s starting to get to not only me, but to my partner as well. He is used to me keeping it clean clean. But being a full time stay at home mom and housewife is freaking tiring. I’m exhausted all the time. I don’t want to do anything. If I’m not actively doing something for my partner or my child, I just sit here…staring…into the abyss.

I know I’m not the only one who is going through this, or has gone through it. Any advice on how to get out of this funk would be greatly appreciated. I hate being like this.

Good morning, homemakers! Let’s start the week off strong by sharing our goals and intentions. Whether it’s tackling a big project, finding a new recipe, or simply staying mindful, we’d love to hear what you’re working on this week.

Post your goals below, and let’s encourage each other to stay motivated! 🌟

Hey all. First of all, please excuse my bad English.🙃

Im dreaming of to become a housewife. So my husband decided to give us a test month, to see how it works and we feel. Luckily i got a month free from my work !!

So! Im so happy to do this! 🌸✨💕
So i really want to get this working and please my husband! Im wondering now if anyone have some tips and tricks how to pamper my husband. I know everyone is different but I think we maybe can share some Experiences, to get inspired!

So for example me. I know he loves coffee so i decided to stand up before him, do the best coffee i can! So he can drink his coffee in bed and i can prepare his breakfast in the kitchen!

I would love to hear your thoughts!

Thank you all so much already! 💖🌞🌸🌺

These can come from moms, grandmoms, aunts, cousins with kids, sisters with kids. It can come from neighbors and older people in your life and even strangers.

I'd love to know as much for myself and then later as a housewife.

I wish I had some but I can't think of any at the moment unfortunately, sorry.

where or what do you your housewife mothers do to socialise or go out for as an daily activity? my mom has been feeling a little depressed staying at home? what are your suggestions, she’s very introverty. tried sending her to parks, gym doesn’t work for a regularity.