u/Saint_Junipero

Hey everyone, I’m in a really stressful situation and could use some unbiased advice.

A bit of background: I recently accepted an offer for an 18-month contract role at a large corporate company ("Company A"). It's a solid position, but at the end of the day, it's a temporary contract.

Here is where it gets complicated. Right after I signed the paperwork for Company A, a completely different organization ("Company B") offered me a permanent, full-time position with a $90k salary. Obviously, from a financial and stability standpoint, the permanent role is a massive win and aligns much better with my long-term goals.

I know the standard Reddit advice is usually "take the permanent job, companies don't care about you," but I have a major concern.

The hiring team at Company A is in direct contact with my previous employer. Our local industry network can be pretty small, and I am terrified that if I back out of the contract now, the hiring manager at Company A will talk to my old boss. I’m really worried about my professional reputation taking a hit, or having my name dragged through the mud in my industry network.
Has anyone navigated a mess like this before?

Is taking the $90k permanent role worth the potential network damage?

If I do back out, what is the most professional way to handle the exit to minimize the fallout with Company A (and by extension, my old employer)?

Any advice or email scripts would be hugely appreciated!

TL;DR: Signed an 18-month contract. Just got a $90k permanent offer. Want to renege on the contract and take the permanent job, but the contract company is in direct contact with my previous employer and I'm scared of ruining my reputation.

Hi everyone,

I’m starting a new job soon in corporate communications. I’m at a senior strategist level, and it’s important to me to come out of the gate strong, establishing my expertise and authority with my new team and stakeholders.

I am also recently engaged. I love my ring, but I’ve been debating whether or not I should wear it to the office, at least for the first few months. It’s about 4.7 carats so not super small or discreet.

I might be overthinking this, but I worry about the unconscious bias that sometimes comes with being a newly engaged woman in the corporate world. I don't want people to immediately categorize me as "young and junior" or assume I’m going to be constantly distracted by wedding planning instead of focused on my new role.

Has anyone else navigated this? Did you wear your ring from day one, or did you wait until you were more established in your role? Do people actually judge this, or am I totally in my own head?

Any advice or shared experiences would be incredibly helpful!

TL;DR: Starting a senior communications role and wondering if wearing my engagement ring from day one will make coworkers unconsciously view me as more junior or distracted by wedding planning

Hey everyone, I could really use some perspective on what a fair division of household labor looks like in my current situation.

Right now, my fiancé works full-time remotely, and I am a full-time house fiancé. Between the daily cleaning, running errands, and managing the general chaos of our four cats, keeping up with the house is definitely a full-time job on its own.

My question is: how do couples usually split tasks in this dynamic? Is it the general expectation that the non-working partner does absolutely everything around the house?

TL;DR: I’m a full-time house fiancé and my partner works from home. Trying to figure out if I am expected to do 100% of the chores, or if it is fair to split the evening/weekend load 50/50 so we both get free time.

Do you guys ever use AI to find/donate to charities?

Hey everyone,

A few friends and I are working on a research project, and we're trying to understand if people use AI at all for these sorts of things, and if they do.. what's top of mind before donating? With AI on the rise (and misinformation) there's a lot to navigate when it comes to trust these days, specifically when it comes to giving money to good causes.

My friends and I have noticed that we use Gemini as our Google search now, so I'm wondering if when you see a cause on social media or when you're trying to find a local non-profit, do you ever ask a chatbot first? Which one? And what do you ask?

We're just trying to understand how humans and AI interact when it comes to social good.

Even if it's just a one-liner prompt, it'll help lots. Thanks 😄