u/BMM511

Why exactly do i tend to hear the most outrageous insults towards them?

Pliz i nid to know🥺

I swear to god, i start to like someone, i try to type them because that's fun, and POOF, ENFJ, again and again. Even fictional characters, even my flipping ex who i still adore a lot (she barely even did anything severely bad, i just couldn't be in an inconsistent relationship). And then one of my transfeminine friends who i like and I don't know why, turns out to be ENFJ as well

(You don't have to share anything private). I've heard that Fe users support people emotionally but rarely receive anything in return, like attention or even love. I have been going through the same thing for over a year now and I'm really curious how often this happens to other people and why. What struggles do other types have?

Fe is about social harmony and what other people feel; they may do something because it makes at least some people feel better. Fi users focus on their own internal feelings and what seems right to them; they make morals and they will say the truth because otherwise it would feel like they're betraying themselves. Fe users on the other hand would do something that makes someone else feel better, even if it comes to saying a lie or sugarcoating something. Which is likely why the stereotypes of this function appear to be "fakers". That they're manipulators or something. But i just want to flip these stereotypes for a moment because I don't want my pookies NFs to be judged like that, what if i told you that Fi users may come across as egocentric about their own feelings with their "they've hurt *me*". I don't mean all Fi users have an unhealthy or a huge ego, I'm trying to say that we don't always see people's true intentions, or that we fully understand who people are. Sometimes seeing people judge others solely because of a stereotype sickens me

Does that mean i can walk up to one once there's a crowd, and disengage the first to look like i already have solved everything so they'll think I'm smarter than them?