u/BallerinaCappuchinaa

I’ve struggled with SO-OCD for years and one of the hardest parts has been how it affects intimacy and arousal. Before this OCD theme started, I felt very certain about my attraction to men, but over time I started hyperanalyzing every feeling and physical reaction. Today I was intimate with my boyfriend and needed lube because I couldn’t get wet, and afterward I spiraled badly. My brain keeps telling me this means I’m secretly lesbian or in denial, even though I love my boyfriend deeply and want to be with him. I’ve also done compulsive “testing” in my head before with imagening women during sex and getting sensations down there and then spiral even more. I guess I’m asking if anyone else with SO-OCD has experienced anxiety affecting arousal/lubrication or making intimacy feel like a test instead of something natural. How do you stop obsessively monitoring yourself during intimacy? Also what can I do regarding my arousal? Thank you 💗

I’m 20 and I’ve been struggling with something that’s making me really anxious. I still have sexual desire, I love my boyfriend, and I enjoy intimacy/foreplay with him, but I don’t get very wet consistently anymore and it’s stressing me out a lot. I can still get aroused mentally and sometimes physically too, but it feels much less automatic than it used to. I also notice I tense up a lot during intimacy, and this all seemed to get worse around the time my anxiety became really intense. This is causing me even more stress because before, I could imagine sexual stuff and get wet instantly. Now I can’t and some days even with foreplay I can’t get wet enough:( I feel so broken.

Sometimes I worry something is permanently wrong with me even though I still have desire and enjoy sexual things. Has anyone else experienced anxiety/pelvic tension affecting lubrication or sensation like this, and if so, how can I deal with this? What can I do and should I visit a gyno? Thank you 🩷

I’m 20 and I’ve been struggling with something that’s making me really anxious. I still have sexual desire, I love my boyfriend, and I enjoy intimacy/foreplay with him, but I don’t get very wet consistently anymore and it’s stressing me out a lot. I can still get aroused mentally and sometimes physically too, but it feels much less automatic than it used to. I also notice I tense up a lot during intimacy, and this all seemed to get worse around the time my anxiety became really intense. This is causing me even more stress because before, I could imagine sexual stuff and get wet instantly. Now I can’t and some days even with foreplay I can’t get wet enough:( I feel so broken.

Sometimes I worry something is permanently wrong with me even though I still have desire and enjoy sexual things. Has anyone else experienced anxiety/pelvic tension affecting lubrication or sensation like this, and if so, how can I deal with this? What can I do and should I visit a gyno? Thank you 🩷