u/Banana-Upload

Ive (30F) been with my bf(35M) for over a year now. We met on a dating app. We live about 1.5 hrs away from each other but visit one another almost every weekend and stay the whole weekend. Sometimes we will take time off work and stay together for 4-5 days at a time.

The first time we met in person he got us a hotel room and we had sex about 7ish times within a 12 hour period. We went out for drinks and dinner and once we made it back to the room we very demurely did our own bed time routines, got in our pajamas to watch a movie, and then didn’t make it a single minute in.

And that’s been more or less our entire relationship. We just now were able to make it through a movie a week ago but not without pausing for sex breaks. A 2 hr movie turned into a 8 hr one. It just never gets old. It just keeps getting better.

We’re both flabbergasted at how compatible we are. We’re both high energy goofballs that love joking around and being affectionate. And apparently these silly goose vibes translate into really good, hair pulling, light choking, bent over the sink sex. There’s something about seeing the “class clown, golden retriever, everyone’s fav party animal and sweetheart friend” turn into this primal, dominant sex god that just makes me absolutely melt.

We’re gonna close the gap soon and I KNOW things won’t be this fun anymore and I’m dreading it. Any tips from anyone w a similar situation?

I’ve never desired being came in until my boyfriend. We didn’t use a condom once I think during my period? Once we opened that can of worms it was hard to get either of us to put one on. He’d ask me not to, I’d not REALLY want to, he’d ask me again and say he’s gonna pull out, I’d say fine but you know that’s not a reliable pregnancy prevention method. He’d fail to pull out soon enough like half the time and some would get inside anyways. This happened like 2-3 times to the point where condom usage was sporadic.

It was hard for us to go back to condoms after that one time. They put drugs in that shit I don’t know. I don’t know if condoms like compress the head of change the texture but condoms are like sex lite or something and I’m saying this as the woman. I got on birth control I few weeks later because we both have adhd and I don’t trust either of us to keep using that condom. We were doing good before, I asked to not use it when I knew I couldn’t get pregnant and then we really stopped caring. I swear we did it one time when I might’ve been ovulating and I had a small pregnacy scare so I started pills my next period.

I like when he finishes in a condom. I LOVE when he finishes without one. Especially when it’s been a minute and he’s hydrated. Remembering the towel is a pain in the ass because you don’t remember you didn’t grab one until you’re leaking out onto the blankets. But it’s so warm and like I have some of him in me. I like the little pulsing sensation and feeling it go inside me. I like the concept that if I wasn’t on the pill he could get me pregnant like that. Like wow he could really put a baby in me. And in the moment for a second I genuinely want him to. Then I snap back to reality where I don’t want kids for atleast another 6-8 years and I make sure I take my pill on time everyday.

I used to think I’d find it messy and gross. Like I thought I’d want him to pull out most times or that it would feel violating. I can’t see him for another 5 days and it crosses my mind everyday

Is this a breeding kink? Do I have a sex addiction? This can’t be normal and it’s objectively kind of nasty. Like it’s a snot like texture and it just randomly shoots out of his junk. I don’t think I’d enjoy swallowing, but I love having it inside of me. I’m putting so much trust into this pill it’s insane because sometimes I keep it in me for a bit. I don’t even run to wash it off right away but he doesn’t really either. I guess I just kinda wanna know if I’m normal or it’s a kink for me

​My partner (30F) and I (32M) have been together since high school, we are married, and we have 3 kids, so life is definitely busy. The good news is that our sex life is already fantastic and the chemistry is still there, but I am at a point where I want to level up. ​We have always been great together, but I am looking to make myself even better at pleasing her and finding that next level of intensity. I am not looking for relationship advice because we are solid. I am strictly looking for your favorite techniques for a partner who you already know really well. ​What is that one move, rhythm, or secret trick that you have found absolutely drives a long term partner over the edge? Whether it is a specific way of building anticipation that you think is underrated, a specific way to handle a position, or just a little tweak to your usual routine that makes everything hit different, I want to hear what works for you. ​I am looking to expand my toolkit. What is your best advice for taking things from great to unforgettable?