Like how exactly do certain guys actually pull this off, what's the process? Because as a conventionally attractive mid 20s guy in this situation, it still feels like a very hard sell.
Basically as above. All dating advice given to men is to improve themselves and climb up some sort of social heirarchy, but literally the people mentioned above who are at the bottom of that hierarchy are finding partners.
Something tells me it's not about climbing up heirarchies and improving yourself but more about luck in finding someone who appreciates your current self.
This is what the woman I've been seeing wants. We've had six dates so far. I don't know if I can handle the uncertainty and feeling of competition on mental/emotional levels. Has anyone tried this? Any advice? I don't want to end it but this just seems so likely to end badly for me.
As many men in life, I have problems to find love in my life, especially now that I am 30 years old. In the amidst of racing thoughts to justify my bad predicament and misfortune, two complementing yet conflicting thoughts came to mind.
On one side, the idea that if you are unsuccessful at attracting the opposite sex it is because you are unconfident and not physically attractive yet you can cope with it and willing to work around it.
On the other hand, you know you are attractive, you have everything that could make you a good sport on paper, yet you are unsuccessful on attracting the opposite sex and you have hard time coping with it because you do not know what is wrong.
Which of the two thoughts plant a worse scenario to be in?
would you date a girl who’s a 10/10 but can’t bend one of her knees at all? would that be a dealbreaker for you?
she had her knee joint removed during surgery after cancer treatment, so she permanently can’t bend that knee, would you consider that a dealbreaker when it comes to intimacy in a relationship?