u/NoRealCranes

I know it may seem like a silly question, but the amount of woman whos lives are centered around or heavily involves travelling is crazy. I feel like I cant connect with anyone because the conversations always start with or lead into travelling. It leads me to feeling like I have nothing to contribute because I dont have as many travelling stories. Of course, I can always ask questions and make inferences but I feel the convo goes flat when I dont have as much to mention myself.

This isn't to say I dont travel at all, I have done but its just not as big a thing for me as it seems to be for most women I meet.

Has anyone else struggled with something similar? Regardless of gender involved ofc, I feel like its something someone else must have had an issue with.

Basically, I dated a woman for a very short time (three dates), and I found out she had an fwb while dating me. I wasn't upset, as I get some people do this, but I was not interested. I don't date people who are having or looking for casual sex, as I am looking for something serious, something she said she wanted too. I told her this.

She took it well.

But a few days later, she texted me, and told me she broke things off with her fwb, and asked if we could try again. I told her I appreciate it, but I still wasn't interested. While I didn't tell her this, it was kind of a case of dama

She chewed me the fuck out. Like damn, I got like 10 texts before I blocked her.

So I'm a 33 yo male. I like to think I look decent. I'm in decent shape (I do a ton of exercise), my hairline is holding up nicely, and I've developed my wardrobe and style to a certain degree. I've actually been complimented on it a few times (usually from gay men though lmao). Decent job, worst features is can be shy at times + quite short (5'8'')

I continuously heard about how in your 30s things flip around and everything becomes so much easier for men. Well I can't say I'm seeing it. And no, I'm not pining for 25 yo girls, I just want to date within 3 or so years of my age, ideally somebody early 30s as well.

Absolutely every cool woman I meet that I have good rapport with has a boyfriend. Hell I haven't seen a single woman in her 30s in the wild in probably actual years. Every single one is taken. You look at the dating apps and sure enough they're full but I'm not the kind of guy to do well in dating apps.

So this is an absolute lie in my experience. I just want to warn younger men that are doing the whole "I'm just on my grindset rn" that it may not become any better later on. Date with intention now if dating is something important for you, don't think you're going to pupate like a butterfly and suddenly everything will be ten times easier.

I 25F have been single for many many years. The only real relationship I’ve had only lasted a few months. I’m very in love with love and really want a relationship but never seem to get one. I put myself out there but I always just see to attract men that only want one thing from me and I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I got a great career, I don’t dress in a way that screams I’m only looking for hookups (even tho you can dress that way and not look for that) and I’m very upfront that I do want a relationship.

I recently dated two guys and one ended up getting a gf and only wanted to hookup with me and the other one ghosted me when it got to serious after months of talking. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong and fear it will stay like this forever. I only sleep with guys I’m serious with which I tell these men to but they don’t think that rule applies to them.

As the title states - I feel like people with tattoos of an ex get a bad reputation (maybe fairly so), but I feel like having a kid with an ex is almost the same concept, but in a slightly different way? Curious to hear how others view or think about these two things in comparison.

Hey it was cool meeting you last night. Sorry my friend did that lol 😝 she asked me who I thought was the most beautiful girl in the bar and I said “the woman in the floral dress looks stunning” and then she just made a beeline to you. I’m glad she did though now

(I told her I’d text her the next day) should I add a question to continue the conversation or should I make it shorter?

28F. went on a second date with a guy (31M) last night I met. he picked the place, a kind of upscale small plates spot, his choice entirely, i would've been happy with anything.

bill comes, it's like $140 because HE ordered most of the plates and two cocktails for himself, i had one drink. he slides the check to the middle and goes "wanna just split it?"

and look. i am not against splitting. i split all the time. i make good money. that is not the issue. the issue is he chose an expensive place, he ordered most of it, and then defaulted to 50/50 like that was obviously fair when i consumed maybe a third of that bill.

i paid my half without making it weird but i left feeling kind of icked and now i feel shallow for being icked.

is this a red flag or am i being a princess about $70? genuinely asking because my friends are split down the middle on this.

My boyfriend and I had sex for the first time about two weeks ago. We had a failed attempt before that because he couldn’t stay hard enough to get it in, but then we were successful the next time. It was both of our first times, as we are each others firsts for everything since neither of us has dated before. The next time we tried, he was hardly able to get it up, and when he was, it would go down the second he put on the condom. I could tell it was really frustrating for him, and I have to admit, I was also quite upset even though I didn’t show it. I love being intimate with him, and seeing him not be able to get hard makes me feel all types of negative emotions (guilt, self consciousness, anxiety, etc). He couldn’t stop thinking about it all of that night even though I tried to convince him it was okay. I think thats what really started this whole thing. Ever since that second attempt, he has been so nervous and self conscious and all he can do is worry about whether or not he can get hard. It bothers me to see him this way and it makes me feel so bad that he’s so upset. He’s getting into his own head about it way too much which I think is what’s causing him to struggle getting hard. Like it’s all he can think about when we get intimate, and he gets really upset when he can’t get it up.

If any of you have had this experience, please help me in any way you can. I have no idea how to help him, and I think if I don’t do anything, he’ll only get worse because he thinks about it way too much. I’m at such a loss right now and I really need help.

27F, decently attractive? (i model freelance on top of a healthcare job) and am neurodivergent asf. ive heard tips about eye contact, smiling etc but haven’t had much luck.

also, where do i even meet nice men? my hobbies include crafting and ballet dancing 🥲

i tried online dating but lasted 2 business days because of the amount of creeps on there.

i wish there was a neon sign floating above my head or something.

any advice is appreciated!

I'm not body shaming anybody, I promise. If you are in a higher weight category, it is what it is and if it works for you it works for you. I'm just whining about the fact that theres no way to filter these options one way or the other and then there seems to be a large practice in the dating pool of either using older photos or trying to play the angles. Again, if it works for you it works for you. The deceptive "marketing" of it is so tiresome.

Basically I’m talking to someone currently but I know a hook up with someone 2 months before we met. I know who the person is and I see him around and apparently it was a 3 time hookup. How would you feel in this situation? I don’t think I’m bothered because I value sex so much but more so because I know or at least I see the person it was with semi regularly and quite frankly feel I’ll be terribly judged that I cuffed someone that was just a fling to another guy.

What makes a guy instantly unattractive, like you just avoid him without talking or knowing him well

I knew this day was coming, I just wish I made the decision sooner. After years of being humiliated, and emotionally exhausted by my online dating experience, I have finally thrown the towel in.

I’m (32F), live in Dallas and thought that being in a metropolitan city, I would have a decent dating experience, BUT nope.

It’s unfortunate because I have a lot of love to give, and I am now looking to redirect it to something else.

I’m thinking a small pet, a child (through mentorship) or even the women in my life (friends).