u/IndependentPaint2108

I just started online dating and found a great guy on my 7th date, who is now my boyfriend.

I'm very good at being charming, funny and interesting in short bursts. especially if I've had a drink.

the problem is spending lots of time together sober... I have realised how boring I've become in the past few years. I only really read stuff relating to my career and 1 or 2 other subjects that neither he nor anyone I know cares about. I also only work, listen to music and watch comedy. I don't do cool interesting things. so I'm actually having to WORK hard to stay interesting and fascinating over long stretches of time.

it's really hitting me how un-exercised my social muscle has been in the past few years as I've been single, have barely seen my friends (my fault, I've been depressed) and haven't really been outside much full stop lol.

I'm almost starting to panic because I have no idea how I'm going to keep up being interesting lol. I also remember having this thought at the start of my last relationship, where I'd been single for a while before that. maybe I just have to work on myself! has anyone else dealt with this?

I just started supplementing iron for my 11.5 ferritin and could feel maybe a trickle of improvement after a few days but my period just arrived and I'm feeling wiped, as I've been bleeding hard and filled 10 pads in the first day like usual.

I avoided taking birth control my whole life (avoided pregnancy via pullout method in LTRs or nothing at all during my period) because I don't like the idea of messing around with my hormones like that & the side effects scare me.

But is it just a necessity? Trying to painstakingly build ferritin then losing rivers of blood each month just doesn't seem to make sense.

I have a date with someone I really like in 2 days

I'm at a place with my acne that if I eat the right things, work out a lot, clean my face in the right way and (most importantly) drink a particular herbal tea daily I can usually keep my skin pretty clear

I indulged and let myself have a wedge of Port Salut cheese and some salted butter on roast spuds, figuring that as my date was in 2 weeks any couple breakouts would have faded by then

But there is one cyst which is still active, it's so annoying! I even bought hydrocolloid patches in desperation and they aren't fixing it... I also have a few scars from the other breakouts that have now faded but it's going to require make-up wizardry to conceal them and I have been enjoying not having to do so much recently with the concealer for blemishes that I'd picked at

Just a vent!

I'm looking for a menstrual cup. I know I can just look up the info myself but I'm seriously overwhelmed with options and figured someone here might use or know about what I'm looking for. I'm looking for:

- as small a girth as possible (I sometimes get vulvodynia)

- something as soft as possible. I don't mind some leaks if this is the risk of softness, as I'll wear it with a pad for backup

- ideally something with a loop at the end to help me grab it as I feel paranoid about it getting higher than I can easily grab

- something suitable for a high cervix I suppose as I've been told by doctors I have one

- in an ideal world something inexpensive but I can compromise on that of course

Thank you very much in advance.

I can see official stats from Google but I am looking for more colloquial experiences

I had a blood test done and this is my ferritin level. I wake up feeling refreshed every morning but I do have a sort of deep existential/spiritual/psychological lack of energy - could low ferritin be the culprit?

All my other vits/minerals are within official range other than Vitamin D which I am also deficient in

If you were/are in this range how did/do you feel?

Thank you!

I keep seeing competing claims online.

I have a 3 day nitrofurantoin prescription I got from the pharmacist but I'm quite scared to take it as I am prone to peripheral neuropathy since the covid vaccine (got it shortly after, mostly gone but sometimes comes back in some circs). And that's a common side-effect. As is nausea which I'm very prone to.

I think I have a UTI. I had one 10 years ago and took antibiotics which got rid of it but I can't remember which ones. This UTI doesn't hurt as badly as the one 10 years ago.

This UTI I've had for 7 days now and I felt it come on the day after unusually prolonged sex. It was stinging pretty badly on days 2 and 3 and the pain actually stopped me going back to sleep day 3/4. It kind of disappeared yesterday but I can kinda feel it slightly today.

I don't even know if it's a UTI but it's a stinging pain in the vagina area. I know nothing has split down there.

I'm a natural holistic typa gal and want to avoid potentially scary nitro side effects. But can I just wait it out or not? I see so many people saying they got rid of their UTI without antibiotics. Then I see others saying it's essential to take the antibiotics to avoid the infection spreading to your kidneys.

What do I do?

I let myself have this treat in the first place bc of a different pain from a UTI

Great now I have the pain of inflammation rearing up

FVCK THIS

I'll have some with some avocado and lime juice.

any other ideas? would love to hear.

I've just started online dating. men are always trying to hold hands, rub my leg like 45 min into the date then kiss me at the end of the 2 - 3 hr date. we are literal strangers we literally just met... why would I be holding your hand or letting you put your tongue in my mouth

it's probably relevant that I don't do much chatting over the app before meeting as I like to see whether there's any vibe in person asap. so it's really coming out of nowhere, there was no big flirtation before meeting, the vibe of the pre meet messages is just quite neutral and practical, friendly

I am grateful that people are into me but at the same time it's so weird. I know I have to compromise a bit from my past of irl dating where attraction mounted over 4 months of friendship / 2 years of working together respectively but surely there's a limit... at least wait until the end of the 2nd date?

to me I'm sorry but it does come across as so presumptuous to the point of being rude for you to think that I am okay with a random stranger stroking my knee a mere 45 segments of 60 seconds into knowing you. and if I back away and move my knee away stop doing it! omfg. what happened to bodily autonomy. don't just start stroking away. my body is my castle and I don't let any random fondle it even if I have agreed to a date with you. do not attempt to traverse the moat if the drawbridge has not been lowered to you

I'm sure some people will get mad at this but are there any kindred spirits who understand what I mean?

Used the just venting tag but people are welcome to comment

Found my old YouTube account where I obsessively saved and rewatched Sean Lew dance practices from 2016

I looked him up and in 2026 he somehow seems to have lost his mojo

Thoughts, for anyone who knows what I'm talking about?

And watch dance too?

Mark opens the door to kids looking for drugs and says "Jeremy, some kids are here and they wanna have lunch with you" (paraphrasing?)

Which episode is this from?

I'm new to it. I'm also a mid to above average woman, I can't imagine how soul-destroying it is for ugly men

Not getting a reply back or a guy cancelling before a date - damn it feels like it's not worth it let me just make more money and get a sperm donor as motherhood is a goal of mine

anyone else having to quit because of endometriosis?

caffeine but especially coffee is known to be a trigger and I can feel it myself

recently I said fk it and had 6 hours of sleep, coffee, diet coke, alcohol (margaritas) and junk food all in the same day. all endo triggers and my body is really paying for it a few days later

I also don't like being reliant on a drug to function every day it's a bit pathetic

there's also a cost factor, it stains your teeth, it's extra time and hassle to prepare

but I really don't want to give it up. I wouldn't be trying to if it weren't for the endo

fuck this, I am genuinely suicidal over this, life is hard enough to begin with

I've been stuck on the thought all day of these spicy shrimp pizza slices I had in Seoul. They were so delicious.

Now I'm back home I'm wondering if anyone has any recommendations for an equivalent here. For more context the pizza was quite stiff and almost crisp, the shrimp pieces were quite small.

I basically was in 2 back to back relationships, I met them at university then work. It's my fault it ended in both cases (I didn't cheat though) so this may be karma.

At university, then at work there were just lots of attractive men around. They were all socially normal and didn't do weird or offputting things. There was a lot of choice in terms of who to date among the ones who were single.

Going online I've been dismayed at there being something extremely weird or at best in one case slightly offputting about every man I've met up with. I don't know if it's just that after 25 most normal and passably attractive guys are already in a relationship? It feels like the absolute dregs, creeps and weirdos are on these apps. I wonder if there are some normal men out there who are just too shy to date and therefore not on any apps? Maybe I should think about how to meet them.

Has anyone else experienced this problem? I am new to online dating.

Posting it here as I think they read the comments on YT and I don't want to hurt their feelings.

Kyle's pre-SNL sketches are literally the funniest thing on YT. I thought they were both funny on SNL, especially Beck.

But the podcast is really not hitting for me at all no matter how much I keep re-trying. It's just not funny and the energy is flat. For context I pretty much only listen to podcasts where it's two funny friends bantering etc. like Jake & Amir, Trixie & Katya. I was expecting that from this but it's not hitting at all, they seem very unsure of themselves in this format for some reason.

I think maybe newborn tiredness (they both have young kids) might be a factor? It is pretty clear they did this pod as a cash grab (cue Tim Robinson "cash grab" sound effect) and I absolutely support that, get the wix dot com ad money, but the lack of passion comes through. The best parts have been when they did some improvising of characters.

I feel mean saying this so I'll probably delete it later but I just wanted to put it out there. I think it meets the rules of the sub.