u/DonAj20

29M matched 29F on Hinge a few days ago. She really liked my opener and we exchanged several long messages.

Yesterday, I thought that I need to ask her out otherwise we would just end up texting forever. I said to her (paraphrasing slightly):

"Hey I'm really enjoying talking to you and would like to take you out. I have some time off work, are you free on Friday/weekend?"

She replied later in the day saying its been a hectic day and the she would reply later on. I said no rush and hope shes doing ok.

Never heard back and woke up today to find I've been unmatched. I really dont get why. Surely exchanging several long messages indicates some sort of interest and I followed up on that by asking her out?

I've had similar situations on dating apps where I get unmatched shortly after asking her out and before people have said that sadly some women aren't looking to date and are on there for attention.

I'm just trying to understand what has happened.

I 29M matched with 28F on Hinge. Conversation was going well and she even dropped her number, saying she wanted to speak with me before we met up.

We've matched on the Sunday and the following day we've spoken on the phone. The conversation went really well and she explained that she is between jobs and was a bit concerned about not being able to contribute anything financially. We both reiterated how excited we were to meet up on the following Sunday.

I told her that I would cover everything and she said once she gets a job she is the type of person to also plan stuff as well. She was quite grateful for me offering to cover the date.

Fast forward to Wednesday (today), she messaged to say that she wants to put things on hold due to a doctor's appointment. I said that was cool. I asked her when she felt like she'd be ready and if I was expected to wait. She said she wouldn't expect anyone to wait for her. I asked her if she knew she wouldn't be able to date due to health, why match with someone and agree to a date, to which she said it was an "evolving situation".

I cant see anything to suggest I did something wrong. I wasn't offensive, didn't even swear on text, didn't ask too many deep/personal questions which I know can scare some people off this soon.

My question is why go through that knowing you cant date? Am I wrong in feeling like this person was a time waster, or am I just undatable?

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I went to go to listen to some tracks on my account but I couldn't see any of my playback playlists from 2021 - 2025. Gone without a trace. Has anyone else had this issue and if so did you get your playlists back?

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Hi guys

Struggling atm with actually getting dates. For context Im on Hinge, 29M.

I cam get a good conversation going but Ive had quite a few instances recently where I ask to take her out, but I always get a "really busy rn" or "not free for a few weeks".

Is it a case of they dont want to date me and are just being 'kind' or are people really going on dating apps, knowing they dont actually have time to date??

I know it may seem like a silly question, but the amount of woman whos lives are centered around or heavily involves travelling is crazy. I feel like I cant connect with anyone because the conversations always start with or lead into travelling. It leads me to feeling like I have nothing to contribute because I dont have as many travelling stories. Of course, I can always ask questions and make inferences but I feel the convo goes flat when I dont have as much to mention myself.

This isn't to say I dont travel at all, I have done but its just not as big a thing for me as it seems to be for most women I meet.

Has anyone else struggled with something similar? Regardless of gender involved ofc, I feel like its something someone else must have had an issue with.

Downloaded Breeze about a month ago. Short premise of the app is that there is no chat option prior to the date. If you both match, you both pay for a "date token" and the app books you a seat at a bar. The idea is it discourages flaking/cancelling due to already providing a small financial incentive of £9.50. The app also asks both people to "check in" 30hrs prior to the date to confirm its still going ahead.

Despite this, I've had 3 dates cancel on me recently. Its pretty draining to ready yourself for a date throughout the week, only for it to be cancelled. All the app does is apparently restrict their accounts for a while. I was wondering if anyone else had a similar experience and any possible recommendations?

Hey everyone

I'm 29M went on a few dates with a 29F. Vibe and energy was really good and we both clicked fairly well. I've become familiar with her texting patterns, so no worry from me that I dont hear from her throughout the day as she is working.

However its been 2 full days now and no reply from her. She even said she was willing to plan the next date. I'm just really confused as to why I think I have/close to being ghosted despite the fact we both got on and she was willing to plan something, which is surely a sign of some intent/attraction? Surely you wouldn't do that for someone you don't like?

For context we met on Breeze and exchanged numbers after the date. I really don't want to double message as that seems a bit desperate but considering she agreed to meet tomorrow, should I send a quick text to ask if we're still going ahead?