u/Barragens

Editar: depois de rearranjar tudo que foi possível, o peso ficou em 11kg. 5,5 da mochila com o notebook é documentos e 5,4 da mala de mão. A despachada está com 22kg.

Preciso de ajuda urgente com a Air Europa: vou ser operado e tive de comprar um bilhete de última hora, mas só agora vi as críticas terríveis sobre a companhia e estou em pânico com o peso da minha bagagem. Tenho uma mala de 22 kg para despachar, uma de mão com 8 kg e uma mochila com o meu computador, documentos, ipad etc que é muito pesado; o meu medo é que somem o peso da mochila ao da bagagem de mão para verificar se ultrapassa os 10 kg, o que me levaria a pagar uma taxa de 240 euros que não tenho possibilidade de suportar. Por favor, alguém que já tenha voado com eles pode confirmar se realmente somam o peso do item pessoal à mala de mão e se existe alguma estratégia, como separar o notebook para evitar este pesadelo financeiro? Eu estou passando muito mal. Não tenho como tirar coisas da mala agora. Eu estou muito mal.

This is it. Sending it off. Going through lots of health problems. I will have surgery soon. I did what I could for now.

Thank you all for your support

Hi! I need your input again if for nothing else, at least to give me some perspective.

Edit 1 Field: Humanities Actual length: 65pp Normal length of chapters in my field: no limits, but modern dissertations have around 40 to 48 pages length. I know a few that have 150pp chapters, but mine won't be one of those. I will stop working early: travel will take 2 days. I need to pack and I am already too weak so it would be unreasonable to expect to work during these activities.

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I have written the draft for the second chapter of my dissertation. I am going through a few health problems and I will get surgery in about 10 days. I need to deliver my draft before I do this. I have only 5 days free before preparing for surgery.

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I have the pages, but I am stuck in editing. I am not making any progress.

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I try to read the whole text at once, but I cannot even do that in a day.

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The major problems I see with the text are: too long. Paragraphs are also too long. Introduction and conclusion unclear. Use of secondary literature okay but barely since I did my own analysis and did not use much of what I read. It was mostly unrelated for one reason or another. General language is not the best, it has no flow and sounds inconsistent.

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65 pages - 4 sections + intro and conclusion

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I am panicking already.

This will sound incredibly stupid, but I need some help/perspective/motivation. I am in an existential crisis.

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Comparation is the thief of joy. This is my motto, but unfortunately I fell prey to it.

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I went to a conference and there I met someone half my age that speaks natively the 3 languages I need for my project which I am struggling with as it takes time and it is almost impossible to get to a native level. And this person lived in the same country as me as a child. So I thought, he worked harder than me and I am a piece of shit.

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During a conversation, everyone only focused on this guy. Only asked questions to him and only answered him. Two of the presenters made a point of interacting only with him.

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I have had a really rough childhood. I lived below the poverty line. So below that another line could be drawn.

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Anyway, I am now super depressed because I think I did not do enough. I think I could have worked harder. I could have done more.

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Yet, I searched for the guy and he comes from an aristocrat family and went to a school that teaches you those languages since you are 3 years old and it costs 25x times what a common worker earns a month. I did not even know this school existed.

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I know this is stupid. But I am now super depressed. I think my depression only wanted a way to come out and it found a perfect one. I cannot fight this. No amount of work can help me overcome the fact that many days my parents and I went to bed hungry.

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I am sorry for this post.

During the drafting phase of the writing, I usually feel very discouraged and frustrated since the quality, flow and shape of the work is not yet readable. I think terrible things about myself. I feel depressed and powerless over my lack of talent.

I am working despite those feelings, but I was also wondering how it is for you? What do you do to keep yourself working? How do you keep from giving up altogether?

I moved out of Denmark. At the time I had the card with the codes to enter the eboks. It changed since I left, and now the MitID is an app. I cannot login to it.

I still have my code card. Yet, it is no help having it at all.

I need to retrieve my eboks email, tax returns, vacation payment (I guess there is money there) and medical data.

I have tried to call MitID number, sent an email, opened a ticket, but it has been more than a year trying and I can't figure this out.

I would appreciate any help.

My project has 4 chapters + intro + conclusion + notes and all the typographic parts.

I am just writing and working and I have not yet received feedback for the first chapter.

Am I doing the right thing? Done is better than perfect, right?

1. This is an emergency. No pre-existing conditions.
2. The insurance does not cover the costs for emergency situations.
3. No one seems to believe me here. But this happens all the time.

I am a DAAD scholarship holder. I need to have surgery, a serious one. It is a life threatening situation. I will have surgery in my country since there I am covered and here I am not. And I have no family or friends here. I need 3 months to recover.

There is nothing on the guide lines about this. Do I have the right to keep the scholarship for these 3 months? Can they just cancel my scholarship because I became sick?

Give me your best advice and I will do the hard work, promise!

Languages: German and Danish

I cannot find a set of exercises that work well for studying both languages everyday. While German is improving since there are many sources of material, Danish is deteriorating faster and faster. No material, no book to follow, no Grammatik Aktiv Style Manual. I need a sense of improvement. This is making me depressed. I got to B2 in Danish and now I cannot say simple things, though I still understand input, I can no longer produce it. My pronunciation also is so German now when I speak any Danish.

In German, the most important thing is to speak well and understand what other people say. I need to have meetings in German.

In Danish, the most important thing is to speak and read well. I will try to get a job in Denmark soon and I will be interviewing in Danish if I can. This would make my chances well better.

For German, I use comprehensive input, grammar exercises and speaking as much as possible.

For Danish, I try different exercises, but nothing works: reading news, listening to podcasts etc because I am not speaking and reading out loud does not help because my pronunciation is lost. Would shadowing what I read improve anything? Once I go back to B2 in speaking I will improve my writing. For now, speaking and reading well in Danish is what matters to me.

I find my writing terrible. I am in the humanities, so it matters. Sometimes, it is the only thing that matters. I have sent my first chapter to my supervisor but have not yet received any feedback.

I wanted to know what he thinks is good enough writing. However, if I read past dissertations he supervised, wouldn't this add to my anxiety, impostor syndrome and kill the joy I have doing my work?

Is working everyday, keeping at it enough to get to the finish line? Do I need any innate special talent or anything like that? In sum, would you say that everything needed to finish a PhD can be learned and improved over time?

Thank you. I am going through a period of very serious illness and I cannot afford to not graduate.

Edit: 900 euro before getting the real treatment. At the moment I am in pain, bleeding and I was not prescribed anything at all. I am afraid to get the surgery. How much it will be? It is such a mess at the moment in my mind. I am so afraid.

I am a PhD student. I am on a DAAD scholarship. So I earn less than most PhD students. We have insurance they provide, but it has been a pain. I have a hemorrhagic bleeding and I need surgery for it to stop. Needless to say, I am very weak. DAAD does allow sick leaves. Only without the scholarship and you lose the months you were out. So I need the bleeding to stop to be able to graduate. I did everything and I am now writing the dissertation.

My Hausarzt sent me to the hospital because it was urgent.

Where I need your help:

At the hospital, I showed them my insurance papers and called the insurance company to talk to them. They made me sign papers and said they would send the bill to the insurance. The insurance said it does not cover senior doctors (chefarzt). The hospital said I not getting one. Okay. I said, are you sure I won't be billed? Yes, sure.

I was speaking in German the whole time and a young doctor came in and said, do you want to speak in English? I said, sure. Well, now I got a bill for both the hospital and the chefarzt totalling of 900 euros. And the chefarzt is charging me for speaking English. But I did not speak to him in English (I did not even know he was chefarzt because the hospital said I was not getting one) and I could speak in German. I should said German was fine. I am feeling stupid.

This is my insurance paragraph for hospitals:

die Kosten bei stationärer Heilbehandlung in Deutschland für allgemeine Krankenhausleistungen ohne privatärztliche Behandlung und ohne Zuschlag für bessere Unterkunft.

The hospital lied to me on multiple occasions. And so did the insurance on the phone.

Are there free and cheap lawyers I can consult if my insurance does not pay? I am having a panic attack and bleeding at the same time.

I am sorry to ask here. I have nobody to ask for help.

Hi, I hope this is okay.

I am super nervous with the feedback on my first chapter. I have had very difficult situations in the past involving abuse but also my writing.

I am afraid it won't be good enough. I am really having a hard time with these feelings.

I am so terrified all my work has been for nothing and I will not graduate after all.

I wrote earlier. But I am dying inside.