u/Beamangle

Hi all,
This may be a very strange question, but I assure you that it is a good one. I do product design at A-level, and I need to investigate what kind of problems people who do barbecuing as a hobby or business face on a day to day basis. This is merely just as an overview, as I’m quite stumped as to what I could write about. So, what kind of problems do you all face? It could be lack of storage etc. Thank you for taking the time to read this!

What should I do in this kind of situation?

For context, I am a female and I’m gaining advice on a male. We have two years between us.

I (f) have recently realised that I like my friend. A couple weeks back, I would occasionally sit with him and we would have long conversations about practically everything. However, we have been talking a lot more recently. I’ve always had a thing for him, if I’m being honest.

We’ve been talking pretty much daily IRL and online (I message first but sometimes he does too) and we have very long conversations about pretty much everything. I always catch him staring at me from across the room and when I look at him he doesn’t look away, and just continues giving me that intense eye contact. There’s definitely tension there, I can’t lie. Last week, we were sat opposite eachother and he was trying to play footsie with me (he eventually moved his feet back when I was struggling to get my words out because of how flustered I was). In addition to this, he kept on fidgeting in his seat (getting up and down once every 2 minutes), tried to flex him going to the gym and he was mirroring my behaviour.

However, here is the catch.

He keeps on bringing up this other girl he’s “talking to” online. They have been on and off for the last couple of months, have never met in person ( although they are 30 mins away from eachother ) and she is my age. I almost think he’s doing it to make me jealous but I’m not too sure.

After another long winded conversation last Saturday, I fully opened up about everything (which is crazy coming from someone as detached as me). He seemed to care and was very supportive about things, but since that conversation we haven’t spoken much since. I dont know what to do, as i dont want to come off as desperate and needy. Please help me and give me advice on what to do next, because i really like him and there’s definitely some chemistry there! Is he just being nice, or is there more to this? I kind of feel like ass as I’ve just opened myself up to somebody for once.

Update (as of today) : I tried to message him yesterday but he didn’t hold conversation, but he liked my birthday instagram post. I also believe he spoke about the girl again today. I am very confused lol.

What should I do about my feelings for him, or is he just not that into me?

For context, I am a female and I’m gaining advice on a male. We have two years between us.

I (f) have recently realised that I like my friend. A couple weeks back, I would occasionally sit with him and we would have long conversations about practically everything. However, we have been talking a lot more recently. I’ve always had a thing for him, if I’m being honest.

We’ve been talking pretty much daily IRL and online (I message first but sometimes he does too) and we have very long conversations about pretty much everything. I always catch him staring at me from across the room and when I look at him he doesn’t look away, and just continues giving me that intense eye contact. There’s definitely tension there, I can’t lie. Last week, we were sat opposite eachother and he was trying to play footsie with me (he eventually moved his feet back when I was struggling to get my words out because of how flustered I was). In addition to this, he kept on fidgeting in his seat (getting up and down once every 2 minutes), tried to flex him going to the gym and he was mirroring my behaviour.

However, here is the catch.

He keeps on bringing up this other girl he’s “talking to” online. They have been on and off for the last couple of months, have never met in person ( although they are 30 mins away from eachother ) and she is my age. I almost think he’s doing it to make me jealous but I’m not too sure.

After another long winded conversation last Saturday, I fully opened up about everything (which is crazy coming from someone as detached as me). He seemed to care and was very supportive about things, but since that conversation we haven’t spoken much since. I dont know what to do, as i dont want to come off as desperate and needy. Please help me and give me advice on what to do next, because i really like him and there’s definitely some chemistry there!