My bridesmaids hate each other.

Posting here to vent because I want to scream. 4 of my 5 bridesmaids were part of the same friend group with me. There has been some minor "drama" in the past between them, but we were still a very close friend group.

Fast forward to now two months before my wedding, 2 of them are no longer friends with the other 2 of them. I'm talking "won't attend events the others are attending" level. They're all still friends with ME, but not with each other.

My bachelorette party was this past weekend and I managed to invite a bunch of other people as a "buffer", but to be honest I still felt depressed most of the time. Trying to divide my attention between them equally, knowing they were all uncomfortable, hearing whispers and weird looks, etc.

Now... the first 6-ish hours of my wedding day is supposed to be "getting ready with the crew!" This is supposed to be fun. But in my situation, it's going to be me stuck in a small room with people who don't want to be around each other. Then they all get to fake smiles in the bridesmaid photos and pretend they're happy standing next to each other, sit in a small car on the way to the venue, etc. And the best part is, I can't even tell them how angry I am at the situation. I can't force people to be friends. And I know they'll be cordial. But I will know the entire time what they're really thinking, and I don't know how to not let that ruin my morning and put me in a bad headspace going into the wedding.

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u/Beautiful-Rough9761 — 17 hours ago

Help me choose "upstage the bride" black tie attire

I'm attending a black tie wedding where the bride wants us to try to upstage her, meaning it's black tie, but she specifically wants color or sparkle, unique and glamorous outfits, "try to outdo me" energy.

I'm torn between these two gowns and need to return one soon. Let me know which one you feel fits the theme best...or tell me to keep looking!?

UPDATE: Thank you all for your feedback!! Special shout out to the person who told me my body was shaped like an asparagus hahaha I'm going to be using that descriptor a lot now. I ended up going with the GOLD because it seemed to have more upvotes and more passionate supporters!

u/Beautiful-Rough9761 — 1 month ago

Anyone else's dress arrive small?

I ordered a stunning wedding dress and they measured every part of me so they could get me a proper size. Six months later, the dress arrives. I weigh the EXACT same as the day I did when I was measured. The dress was SO fucking tight. I could get it on, but it was so tight on my ribcage that it was difficult to take a deep breath and there's nooo way I'd be able to sit down. It was also tight in my hips to where it was bunching the second I moved.

Has anyone else had this experience...and did it turn out okay? I'm spiraling because I've always heard they try to order them bigger because it's way easier to alter them down vs. let them out?

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u/Beautiful-Rough9761 — 3 months ago