u/Beautiful_Ant2627

I’ve been dealing with a lot of lethargy lately and recently went to my doctor to discuss some intense bone pain I was experiencing. My doctor wasn’t much help and just decided to test me for autoimmune issues and all came back negative. She did also order a metabolic test, which came back normal but my calcium was on the high end of normal (10.1mg/dL). A few months have passed with no resolution and I decided to just order myself a bone health screening. This time my calcium was 9.0mg/dL my PTH was 28pg/mL, and my vitamin D was 24ng/mL AKA insufficient. These results confused me because I didn’t know you could have high calcium and low vitamin D. And now, all three markers are on the lower end so I’m not sure if this could point to hyperparathyroidism. If anyone has any insight I would be grateful!

I work in a small office of 6 ppl total. For peoples birthday we have a tradition of going out to a restaurant at lunch to celebrate. Usually, I’ve been able to find one safe option wherever we went, despite still being stressed about cross contamination. Well, this time the restaurant my boss wants to go to has nothing for me to eat, half because of celiac and half because I’m also vegetarian. It’s tomorrow and I don’t know what to do. Because my office is so small, people make a big fuss if you miss things, and if I tell them I can’t eat anything there they’ll just be weird about it (one time on my birthday they took me to a different restaurant and insisted I get dessert and when I told them I couldn’t eat any of the desserts, they kept insisting anyway and kept asking the waitress if any of it was gluten free even when it obviously wasn’t.) I’m terrible at coming up with excuses because I’m autistic and lying is hard for me. I hate when people feel the need to pressure you to go to social events even when it’s at the detriment of your health :/.

I like going to trivia nights. However, I am pretty bad at trivia. I’ve never gone with a group and that was super serious about it, more so just as a social outing. When I would go a few years ago, it was with a small group of female friends. I have never had a super close friendship with anyone before, so these were more baseline friends. Well, one of the friends would always make fun of my answers if I ever decided to put my two cents in. It was always the vibe of “well obviously OP can’t be right, let’s go with this answer instead.” Long story short I’m not friends with any of the women in this group anymore.

Recently, I met a new person that I’m interested in being friends with, and we decided to go to trivia with my boyfriend. None of us are particularly good at trivia so I didn’t think the stakes were very high or anything. Throughout the night, if I thought I knew the answer to something I would write it down, but multiple times the new friend disagreed and thought it was a different answer. Sometimes I would acquiesce, and sometimes I would try to stick with my answer if I was confident with it. But if they thought the answer was something I KNEW wasn’t the answer, I never made fun of them or acted like I knew better.

Later into the evening we were going through a picture round where we had to write down the names of the famous people in the images. We were stumped on one of them, and because of something I saw in the background I blurted out that I might be X person. In hindsight it was a stupid guess and it definitely wouldn’t have been that person. However, the new friend and my boyfriend just started cracking up, and started saying “it’s not *him*! Haha!” It just made me feel so stupid. Then, I went to delete the answer and my boyfriend just kept insisting I keep it, even though I was agreeing with them that it definitely wasn’t who I thought it was. In the end I just had to submit it like that because he kept insisting that I keep in written down. I just felt so looked down on.

I brought it up to my boyfriend today and asked why he did that, and he responded basically saying that he wasn’t making fun of me and that he was just laughing at the thought of them putting in that person as a question. I just said I didn’t understand really, and then he responded with “I’m sorry I laughed 😭”. Now I really can’t tell if I was just overreacting and *thinking* that they were making fun of me.

I feel like any time I make new friends, I’m somehow singled out time and time again as the one to make fun of, and it hurts that it feels like my boyfriend plays into it as well. I’d love some kind feedback from other people’s point of view to see if I might just be misconstruing things.