Used to love turkey subs before being pregnant and recently really craving but scared for listeria risks etc. was thinking if anyone else has had them and been fine? More likely to order the cooked meat and have it done hot
My husband grew up in a financially stable household, but emotionally it was deeply dysfunctional. He’s the youngest of six siblings, and his entire life he’s been under constant pressure from his family pressure to succeed, to maintain a certain image, and even to marry someone they approved of.
Their approval always came with conditions.
His sisters, in particular, have been incredibly toxic throughout our relationship. From the moment I came into his life, they seemed threatened by the fact that he had found a genuinely loving and supportive relationship. Over the years they repeatedly tried to create problems between us, subtly manipulating situations, spreading negativity, and doing whatever they could to undermine our relationship. It escalated to the point where they even attempted to interfere with our wedding the day before it happened.
His mother is no easier to deal with. She has a strong victim complex, constantly paints herself as suffering, and places her daughters on a pedestal despite the damage they cause. She excuses their behaviour no matter how cruel or manipulative it becomes. Recently, she’s been speaking badly about her own son to me because she wants him to reconnect with his sisters and personally tell them that we’re expecting our first child.
I politely told her that he would not appreciate me getting involved in that, but she keeps pushing. She constantly tries to guilt me with stories about how “hard” her daughters’ lives are, despite them being fully grown women with successful careers, active social lives, and plenty of support around them.
The issue has never been their circumstances it’s the bitterness and control they seem to hold over him.
At this point, the constant pressure, manipulation, and emotional guilt-tripping are starting to affect my peace during pregnancy, and it’s becoming incredibly draining.
I feel bad about the fast food intake but wanted to know if anyone else engages in any fast food a lot during being pregnant. I still try to get my healthy fats and carbs in and 5 a day but also love a good take away especially if it’s KFC. Has anyone else been having it during this time ?
So I know a lot of weird stuff happens during pregnancy but I keep feeling a stretching or pulling sensation near my belly button when yawning or taking a deep breath. Also the most random dull aches around my ribs, stomach and abdomen and tenderness for a few seconds I’m currently 16+1 and I’ve been so tired today omg and the rarest of w tender side for a few mins I’ve noticed stomach is a bit bigger but not sure if that’s just food or gas tbh
Sorry for the rant but just wanted to see if anyone else had this or is going through it in the second trimester
I recently found out that a casual comment I made to my sister-in-law somehow turned into “she’s constantly going to the hospital and getting scans” gossip among extended family, and I’m honestly baffled and hurt.
For context: I had one scan done during my pregnancy because I wanted reassurance about something health-related. Everything was fine, and since then I’ve only been attending normal follow-up appointments that my doctors scheduled. Nothing dramatic or excessive. But I had also been offered a very early scan to check for ectopic which wasn’t also the case.
What makes it more upsetting is that my sister-in-law is also pregnant, and I genuinely thought we’d be able to bond over the experience. Instead, a lot of our conversations left me feeling dismissed. She would often talk about how easy her pregnancy has been and act like symptoms outside of her own experience were strange or exaggerated. Whenever I opened up about discomfort or symptoms I was having, she’d say things like “you’re not even close to labour yet” or “it’s too early to be feeling those aches and pains.”
At the same time, I’ve tried really hard to be supportive and non-judgmental toward her, even when we clearly have different views around pregnancy and birth. For example, she’s expressed very strong opinions about things like epidurals being harmful and certain birth choices being the “best” or only right option, but I never criticized her for that or made her feel bad for her preferences. I respected that every woman approaches pregnancy and birth differently, which is why it hurts that I don’t seem to be receiving the same understanding back.
The thing is, my doctors have reassured me that what I’m experiencing is valid and that pregnancies vary massively from person to person. Also, she’s much further along than I am, so obviously someone in their second trimester won’t necessarily experience the same things as someone in their third.
Then my mum told me that an older relative had been asking if I was “okay” because apparently they’d heard I keep having “trips and scans at the hospital.” I was genuinely confused because that’s simply not true. I was even told that “so many scans all the time” could be dangerous, which really upset me because it’s based on something completely exaggerated.
What also hurt was the way it was implied that I’m somehow not mentally handling pregnancy well or that I’m overly anxious and constantly seeking reassurance, when in reality I’ve just been following normal medical advice and checking in when something worried me. I feel like normal concerns got twisted into this narrative that I’m unstable or struggling to cope
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After thinking about it, I realized where it probably came from. During a family visit, I jokingly mentioned to my sister-in-law that getting the scan had actually eased my anxiety because sometimes not knowing what’s going on is more stressful than the appointment itself. Somehow that one comment got repeated, exaggerated, and turned into this narrative that something is seriously wrong with my pregnancy and that I’m constantly getting checked.
I think what hurts most is that I confided in her thinking she’d understand as another pregnant woman, only to feel like my experiences were minimized to my face and then discussed inaccurately with other people afterward.
Has anyone else experienced family gossip or misinformation like this during pregnancy?
I’m 15 weeks but have the smallest bump even after I eat. Really confused as sometimes it looks smaller and once or twice it looked like it had grown. Is this normal ? When will my bump be more noticeable and grown? I’ve seen people at 16 weeks have huge bumps for women my size and and height so wanted to know what other peoples experience have been
Ftm mom here keep feeling like I need to be sick is it a red flag or normal for hormone to fluctuate and come back I kinda feel like I did at 7 weeks. I’m so confused as to what I’m actually meant to be feeling at this stage haha. Also barely have a bump yet. Just feel tired and nauseous at the moment