u/BeeFearless9107

Well, it’s basically what’s in the title. Last week, I got the devastating news that the person I'm with was in a severe traffic accident, which resulted in a traumatic brain injury (TBI). He has been in the hospital since then, went through surgery, and is currently sedated. Right now, they are working on weaning him off the sedatives so he can wake up, and his family says he has been doing well in his recovery so far.

The hardest part for me is that we are in a long-distance relationship. We were in a really great place, planning our future and sharing our lives daily through calls and texts. We haven't met in person yet (the plan was to meet later this year), but our connection is incredibly strong and deep.

Since the accident, I have been drowning in anxiety. Every day, I send him an email telling him about my day and how much I love him, and I also mailed him a letter a few weeks ago. I am terrified that when he wakes up, he won't even remember who I am, or that the trauma will change him so much that what we built will come to a tragic end. I’ve been keeping in touch daily with his sister and a close friend to get updates, but I feel so helpless being so far away.

I’m reaching out to this community because I am completely lost.

What should I expect when he starts to wake up from sedation? Is memory loss regarding recent or long-distance connections common?

How can I support him and his family from afar without becoming an annoyance or a burden to them?

How do I cope with this overwhelming fear of the unknown and the personality changes that might come with a TBI?

Any advice, stories of hope, or honest insight on how to navigate this would mean the world to me. Thank you.

I translated this text into English using an AI because it is not my native language.

Well, it’s basically what’s in the title. We were in a really great place in our relationship, planning ways to move forward and stay connected despite the distance. We really love each other, but we wanted to meet in person first before officially defining the relationship. The plan was to meet at the end of 2026.

However, last week I got the news that he was in a traffic accident, which resulted in a traumatic brain injury (TBI). He has been in the hospital since then, went through surgery, and is currently sedated. Right now, he is recovering and they are working on weaning him off the sedatives so he can wake up. He has been doing well in his recovery so far. His sister was the one who initially reached out to me, and later a close friend of his also contacted me to keep me updated on what happened.

Honestly, I am devastated. I found someone who I truly felt in my heart was "my person"—someone who vibrated on the same wavelength as me in so many ways. Our connection was so strong and beautiful, and now I feel like everything we planned, and even our relationship itself, will probably come to a very tragic end.

Every day, I send him an email telling him about my day, how I feel, and how much I care about him. Also, a few weeks ago, I mailed him a letter that is currently on its way. I want him to feel loved by me, but the harsh reality is that I am terrified he won't even remember who I am when he wakes up. Even with that fear, I keep up with it daily, messaging his sister or his friend to stay informed.

On the day of the accident, he sent me a few voice notes early in the morning before leaving for work, and after that, it was just silence because the accident occurred. We used to spend whole nights on phone and video calls; we exchanged videos, audio notes, and text messages every single day. We were talking more and more openly about our feelings. Our relationship grew in such a gradual and beautiful way, because initially, it was just a friendship that sparked from a mutual interest in learning each other's languages. And now, I feel like something so promising, which had barely even started, has simply come to an end.

Sorry if anything sounds off, I used AI to translate this text since English isn't my native language

Well, it’s basically what’s in the title. We were in a really great place in our relationship, planning ways to move forward and stay connected despite the distance. We really love each other, but we wanted to meet in person first before officially defining the relationship. The plan was to meet at the end of 2026.

However, last week I got the news that he was in a traffic accident, which resulted in a traumatic brain injury (TBI). He has been in the hospital since then, went through surgery, and is currently sedated. Right now, he is recovering and they are working on weaning him off the sedatives so he can wake up. He has been doing well in his recovery so far. His sister was the one who initially reached out to me, and later a close friend of his also contacted me to keep me updated on what happened.

Honestly, I am devastated. I found someone who I truly felt in my heart was "my person"—someone who vibrated on the same wavelength as me in so many ways. Our connection was so strong and beautiful, and now I feel like everything we planned, and even our relationship itself, will probably come to a very tragic end.

Every day, I send him an email telling him about my day, how I feel, and how much I care about him. Also, a few weeks ago, I mailed him a letter that is currently on its way. I want him to feel loved by me, but the harsh reality is that I am terrified he won't even remember who I am when he wakes up. Even with that fear, I keep up with it daily, messaging his sister or his friend to stay informed.

On the day of the accident, he sent me a few voice notes early in the morning before leaving for work, and after that, it was just silence because the accident occurred. We used to spend whole nights on phone and video calls; we exchanged videos, audio notes, and text messages every single day. We were talking more and more openly about our feelings. Our relationship grew in such a gradual and beautiful way, because initially, it was just a friendship that sparked from a mutual interest in learning each other's languages. And now, I feel like something so promising, which had barely even started, has simply come to an end.

*Sorry if anything sounds off, I used AI to translate this text since English isn't my native language*