r/TBI

I can’t remember what I’m supposed to do it’s been 15 years since my moderate TBI. I had a resurgence of all my old symptoms that I had when I first got hurt in the car accident.

I need help with what to do now. I have an increase in my irritability and impulsivity. With a decrease in my short term memory, having difficulty concentrating/maintaining attention and some slight aphasia.

What do I do to help with these symptoms?! Does it just take time? Is there specific therapy I need to do? I wish I could remember but I don’t and I really need some help!

My neighbor 77 recently faced a utility shut-off due to an $800+ sewer bill. To assist, I 60 provided access to showers and hauled water for her daily needs.
The Boundary Conflicts
I established specific times for shower and water access to protect my routine, as I manage a brain injury and utilize a weekly caregiver. My neighbor consistently ignored these boundaries, attempting to force schedule changes.
Further complications arose regarding communication and transportation:
Communication: Her phone service was disconnected, eliminating our primary means of contact.
Transportation: I provided gas money for her vehicle (with expired tags) to facilitate occasional transportation for me. However, I found her driving to be hazardous—frequently running red lights and stopping in active traffic to text. Due to these safety concerns, I ceased relying on her for rides.
The Escalation
The relationship deteriorated further when she demanded a spare key to my home, which I denied to protect my personal space. She responded with aggression, accusing me of distrust.
When I shared plans to purchase a new property with a shop that could be converted into a guest house, she immediately declared that I should rent it to her and provide for her care. I declined, noting my desire to keep that space available for my own family. When I attempted to discuss these issues calmly, she responded by screaming at me and claiming I had hurt her feelings.
Professional Concerns
The neighbor claims to be a social worker with professional access to other vulnerable adults. Her pattern of disregarding boundaries, aggressive verbal behavior, and attempted financial manipulation raises significant concern regarding her interactions with her clients. If she is willing to coerce me, she may be leveraging her position to exploit or manipulate other vulnerable individuals who may have less capacity to defend themselves.
Current Status
I have chosen to sever ties with this neighbor. While I am aware of her current difficulties—including lack of utilities, transportation issues, and limited resources—her refusal to respect my boundaries and her aggressive behavior have made it impossible to continue assisting her. I have maintained these boundaries firmly, recognizing that my disability does not impair my ability to protect my interests and my home.
AITAH

Hello, due to a number of concussions in my life I suffer from binocular vision dysfunction and have issues with accommodation and convergence. I recently started firing a S&W M&P shield X with an iron sight but noticed that I have a very difficult time visually focusing on my targets. I cant seem to keep both the sight and the target behind it clear. Are there any modifications that could help me circumvent this issue? Ive heard of red dot sights as an option but wanted to see what people have to say.

Has anyone gone through family member’s cutting off after tbi, my sibling and I decided we’re no longer fit to have conversations with each other. There’s a grey area between interactions she thinks are disrespectful and I find normal questions. I guess it is the heightened impulse to irritability, ex- can you help my mom with something, like have months to work on it, and she cannot be asked it’s like she says things like how dare you ask. A simple no sorry and being civil, but I am being berated. And then days will go by without speaking and I am crying about how the last convos ended. we have been kept in the loop out. She lives far away, i think it’s mild but not sure she won’t give us medical details. Happened in January. My mother tried to visit in march to take care of her, sibling canceled that trip and then my mom went in April. Just for 5 days. This distance from her primary family ( and friends too). We know she still works but doesn’t drive to work. She won’t let me visit ( even if I stay in a hotel) there was always an excuse but she lets her boyfriends family visit for extended amount of time and takes trips with them. I don’t know how much of this is due to tbi or possible manipulation from her bf ( who we have no contact with, during all this he lives with her and has given her family 0 context or communication ). We used to be extremely close, like best friends but no longer.
TLDR wondering if anyone lost a relationship w a family member after tbi after insolvable communication issues, or if it was bc of a personality change..
also I don’t know if this is a right place, to ask, apologies if not.

Hi everyone! English is not my native language, so I apologize in advance.

I suffered a severe traumatic brain injury (TBI) 15 years ago. Today, I’m studying veterinary medicine (in a country with no entry requirements or entrance exams, so it’s not unusual that I'm here). I started back in 2021, and in 2025 I finally finished my first year. This year I finally started my second year, and it’s already clear that I’ll have to repeat it next year (for example, next semester I’ll only be able to take one course because I don't meet the necessary prerequisites for the others).

Now, I’ve tried every study method I've come across, but unfortunately, the only one that works for me is reading the material over and over again on a loop. I feel like I waste a lot of time this way, and to make matters worse, a few weeks after the exams I forget most of what I learned.

Have any of you gone through something similar? What study methods have worked for you? Have you created your own methods? I'd love to read your thoughts!

I’m finally starting vision occupational therapy after daily headaches for years since my TBI! I’m very excited and also nervous. Whos done vision OT? I have absolutely no idea what to expect?

Is anyone sensitive to loud noises years/months after hitting the head?

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Does anyone else get mentally fatigued really fast than other people. Like 4 hours of work is like a 10hours of work. Just even doing simple things. I got a job as a drive thru worker at a fast food place and everything just stacks up. I do dishes have to worry about drive thru, when things get backed up in the drive thru I just overly stress. Then do dishes while keeping an eye out for the camera. Then a lot of loud noises makes it impossible to think clearly so I don’t talk as much or I just derealization. I want to hear other people’s stories so I know I ain’t alone

I used to be a huge outdoors person before my injury (a concussion in 2020) but post-injury I have found it challenging to do things like sport fishing due to having poor vision and getting easily overwhelmed. Im thinking of getting back into hunting but Im worried I wont be able to spot my prey. Has anyone been able to enjoy hunting despite visual processing issues?

Hello, I got my TBI two years ago due to a bad OD, not to get into it but I was in a Coma for a couple of days and had to stay in hospital for around a month and a half. I was fifteen when I got it meaning I was finishing secondary school. My secondary school was great but now that I'm in college I feel like none of my teachers really take my brain damage seriously, and It doesn't help that I don't really feel disabled and I feel like I'm attention seeking every time I talk about it. On one occasion this bitch of a classmate hit me on the back of the head and it caused a super bad migraine and my teacher didn't really do shit but sorta treat it like we were messing around. My mum often thinks I'm using weaponized incompetence when I misinterpret her instructions which really fucking sucks, why can't I just be retarded without people thinking I'm doing it on purpose?? Small shit like this really infuriates me but I feel like I've got no one to blame or I deserve it because I took the overdose myself when I was fifteen. I hate this and I feel like I've ruined myself and I just wanna complain

After leaving the hospital, even with the medication prescribed, I was getting extreme headaches. I was constantly trying to like, squeeze the pressure from my head if you know what I mean. It even extended into the neck and jaw area and I had no idea what I could do to make it stop.

About a year later I felt good enough to drive again, but the headaches persisted. I started playing the music I used to enjoy ands crazy realization occured while I was driving. The bass actually soothed the headache. I then the bass on high and it was amazing. I haven’t felt that kind of soothing since it happened.

I just remembered this… because I saw the video of that lady telling a guy to turn his music up and he did.. lady was enjoying it. It was explained she was partially deaf and she was enjoying the vibrations of the bass. Since my TBI my inner ear fluid was all messed up which kept me nauseous 24/7. I wonder if that’s what I was experiencing, the vibrations were helping.

This happened 15 years ago so headaches are not bad anymore.

Has anyone else experienced this?

I have brain damage and the damage
Is very bad yet im okay and fine (for the most part. When i am having intercorz. With my girlfriend i can only b*st once every 10 hours or so. Does anyone know if this will heal. Does qnyone have the same issue? Edit im not an affiliate idk why it would say that

Just name them if you have one. I'll try to figure out stuff like if they do online appointments or are licensed for my state. Thank you.

Anyone dealing with Anxiety after their TBI?

My doctor perscribed a GLP-1 thinking it could have a positive effect on anxiety and maybe inflammation. It has only been two weeks but I actually feel amazing. Maybe just in a honeymoon phase but anyone else experience the same thing?

Anyone have any experience with Amen Clinics and did they help after your TBI? I’ve been hearing a lot of about Dr. Daniel Amen and I’m curious if anyone has any experiences with treatment at their clinics, aspect scans etc.

Hello. I was with a man for 18 yrs. I left him in 2013/2014. In 2022 he was in a severe car accident and was in a coma for months. He suffered a traumatic brain injury and so many physical problems. I was living and working in another state. His family asked if I would consider coming to care for him till they got help in the home. That was 4 yrs ago. I am his 24hr caregiver. I do not get paid. I have now been diagnosed with cancer. Advanced. I have already started chemo and go to radiation 5 times a week. I need help. Every place I call just passes the responsibility onto another agency. The hospital is of no use as they haven't even filled out a paper for the waiver program that I dropped off 3 weeks ago. He is under 62 so area on aging will not help. I called adult protective services on myself. She came to house and never heard from again. Took him to the emergency room twice during manic state said they had no where to send him and I had to take him home. Cops were here last night said I had to call crisis. Crisis said he is not a harm to himself cant help. Neighbor called the cops on him 6am they never even came. Its almost 24 hrs . I cant care for him and myself. Anyone who has any suggestions? Please. Thank you

One thing that's struck me after brain injury is how much language medicine gives us for the injury itself—and how little it gives us for living with it.

We have diagnoses.

We have imaging.

We have symptom lists.

We have much less language for the invisible work.

The recovery after the appointment.

The planning that happens before leaving the house.

The exhaustion after dinner with friends.

The constant negotiation between capability and capacity.

I've found that simply having names for those experiences changes something.

Not because naming them fixes them.

Because naming them makes them visible.

Once they're visible, they're easier to explain.

Easier to advocate for.

Easier to recognize in other people.

You can't fix what you can't name.