u/BeginningParsnip5207

I had a love marriage 1.5 years ago. We live in different cities due to work. We had an agreement that my wife would leave her job and come live with me after marriage. In between, I lost my job and we dropped the plan, I went and lived with her for 2 months while interviewing. Now I have got a new job but she is showing no signs of wanting to move.

For context, I earn 10x her salary and she doesn't save anything, I have to send her money by the end of the month as her salary is over by that time. She has also changed her flat 3 times in last 1.5 years where I have to come and help her find the new flat and pay for brokerage and deposit. I have lost 30k in brokerage for 2 flats till now.

The latest issue happened when I asked her to wait till June to change flat as I am new to my company and can't take leave. She accused me of not caring for her and went ahead and found a flat herself. But the way she has been managing the shifting has caused a lot of strain. She has been occupying both flats for 15 days, and I have no hope of getting deposit back. This is causing a lot of fights as I am not understanding why someone would delay things so much.

Also I am finding us incompatible in thought process and future plans. She just keeps asking about trips and gifts while I want to invest and plan my future.

I have considered divorce multiple times but each time stopped thinking about the legal issue and stress. Now she has put a long message to my parents saying that I am "torturing " her for last 10 days about the new flat. I am seriously considering divorce this time. Anyone has been in a similar situation? Any advice for me?

It's well known that half of "businessmen" in Dubai are either criminals or related to corrupt governments

I have just watched the first episode, but some things struck out:

1. Except for the Sajan family (Danube owners), none of the people are well known. You can find thousands of such so-called businessmen

2. Satish is a literal criminal with open cases against him in India. He still runs betting apps and money laundering, that's why he buys so much gold. He literally can not keep his money anywhere else for fear of his accounts being frozen

3. The Iranian sisters are at best middle class. There are literally hundreds of such clinics in dubai

4. The Holi 'party' was literally at a brunch location where anyone can book the tables for 500 aed per person, nothing special

5. Living in Burj Khalifa is not really that much of a flex, it has thousands of apartments, real rich live in mansions on Palm Jumeriah and their own islands

6. Yacht parties are a very normal thing here, you can go to Marina and book a yacht by the hour for a few 1000 aed

Also, it felt overly scripted, I am sure the jets and rolls Royce were all arranged by the production. Anyone can hire them by the hour.

Been thinking of writing this for a while, will cover 3 things: 1. My job struggles 2. Work culture changes 3. My own mindspace during the past 6 months.

Returned from one of gulf countries post 4 years with a decent nest egg, not retiring money but enough to not have to think about work for a while.

Enjoyed first 3 months visited friends, bought some land( more on that later) and just chilled.

Then came the fomo of being unemployed and fearing the gap in resume started applying to companies. That was a humbling experience, as I had lost touch with just how grueling the interview process is here, round after round of interviews with no offer in sight. The comp discussion was a disaster as I was earning what a director would earn here but my experience was at best suitable for a senior manager.

Finally landed a role in my hometown with a 40% salary cut ( still hurts thinking about it) at a local company.

Then came the biggest shocker, expectation to punch in and out with set timings, never had that before and talking to colleagues, it feels everyone is depressed in the office. When I tell them about my previous experience, I feel a sense of judgement like they are trying to figure out what exactly went wrong in my life that I had to return.

I am still quite new to the company but still feel like I may have taken the wrong decision. Just biding my time here and trying to save up some money before either trying to return to gulf or applying for PR to a western country.

Talking about the land, I had grand ambitions to construct an Airbnb property, but the costs are a shocker to me. Would require another 5 years of work to save up the cost of construction in India, that's why thinking of going back and doing the same in 2-3 years.

Thoughts welcome.