u/Beginning_Act_9666

Давно здесь люркаю и читаю посты и размышления девушек и парней. В основном все адекватные, добрые и интересные личности, но, к сожалению, большинство одинокие. Так вот, почему бы нам не исправить данное недоразумение? Начну исправлять на своём примере:
Мне 26, живу в Москве. Двухметровый рост и красавец. Люблю спорт, фильмы, сериалы и видеоигры, особенно стратегии. Недавно устроился инженером-программистом в финтех, поэтому считаю, что готов снова встречаться с представителями прекрасного пола, будучи не безработным и уверенным в своих способностях) Ищу добрую, милую девушку для долгосрочных отношений и совместного развития. Дорогие девушки, пишите - буду рад познакомиться!

She dumped me because I was anxious and unemployed. We had a fight and never talked to each other again despite my early attempts to reach out. During 7 months I have been studying tirelessly and improving myself - training and learning programming which resulted in me getting a prestigious tech job recently. I texted her with simple message 2 days ago and she ignored me for 2 days. Then I deleted that message and sent her this(translated from my native language):

Hi! I get that it wasn't clear from my last message why I was even texting you, so considering the way we broke up long ago, ignoring me totally makes sense in this situation) I’ve just built my career in IT and decided I’m ready to date someone again, just not being unemployed this time)) That’s why I wrote to you) If you’re already seeing someone - just tell me, or just keep ignoring me)) Either way, I’m glad I met you back then - you had a generally positive influence on my life, and I wish you all the best. Sorry for the bother if my messages bring up any negative emotions. Peace!

To my surprise she replied:

Hi! I’m happy for your career, hope everything works out for you) I already have someone, just telling you straight) I sincerely wish you luck in finding your other half!

Me: Thank you so much!) I wish you happiness!

Looks good but I feel like shit that I'll never be with her yet I kinda owe her my improvement journey. If she didn't dump me and I had never met her I would never reach my heights now.. Has anyone been in a situation like this? How did you cope?

She dumped me because I was unemployed and anxiously attached. I tried to reach out for a month after breakup but she just ignored me. 7 months after I got the best job I could find at fintech as an engineer so I decided to give it a shot with her and sent her a message. Got ignored again.. Yikes.. I guess I should just move on..