u/Beginning_End316

My sister went to a different country to pursue her masters because of the toxic and controlling house and my parents are forcing me to do masters abroad as well. Typical and obvious. I got done with college yesterday but I’ve been applying for jobs that are not too far from my city, close enough to come if something happens since it’ll just be my parents at home if I leave too.

I’ve never been alone before, I genuinely want to just get out of the house. I was having a conversation with my parents about moving out and they said that if it’s far from home in the city, I can do up and down, they see no necessity in me shifting, and if it’s not in the city, I can simply not go for the job.

There are jobs that are reaching out to me with a good pay for a fresher and I don’t want to miss out, and it’s not in the city as well.

How do I convince them? If you moved out too, how did you do it?

We've a couple friend, it's my boyfriend's close friend and his girlfriend and we all are pretty close and we used to hang out almost everyday. Even now, we hang out at least twice a week. Me and my boyfriend used to roam around in bike for a very long time, until recently, when he started getting car from his house.

Now every-time these friends want him to get car, they call me instead of asking and it feels like they're taking advantage of the fact that he'll get it if i ask him to.

But then nowadays, every time i ask my friends if we can hang out, the first question they ask is if my boyfriend if coming by bike or car, and when its bike, they hesitate, but when its car, they expect me and my boyfriend to mend ways to make sure they don't have to travel much. They expect him to get car when they want to travel and don't want to go in bike because of the hot weather. They don't offer to pay for the fuel either. I did tell them once or twice before that if we're travelling far, we'll have to split the fuel.

I've been trying to avoid telling them that he's coming through car because I know exactly what they'll expect from us if I do tell. Or I just cancel plans with them with the way they hesitate when it's bike.

It's really annoying and frustrating, I've tried to bring this up before too. What else do i do or how do i deal with these friends?

We’ve a couple friend, it’s my boyfriend’s close friend and his girlfriend and we all are pretty close and we used to hang out almost everyday. Even now, we hang out at least twice a week. Me and my boyfriend used to roam around in bike for a very long time, until recently, when he started getting car from his house. Now every-time these friends want him to get car, they call me instead of asking and it feels like they’re taking advantage of the fact that he’ll get it if i ask him to.

But then nowadays, every time i ask my friends if we can hang out, the first question they ask is if my boyfriend if coming by bike or car, and when its bike, they hesitate, but when its car, they expect me and my boyfriend to mend ways to make sure they don’t have to travel much. They expect him to get car when they want to travel and don’t want to go in bike because of the hot weather. They don’t offer to pay for the fuel either. I did tell them once or twice before that if we’re travelling far, we’ll have to split the fuel.

I’ve been trying to avoid telling them that he’s coming through car because I know exactly what they’ll expect from us if I do tell. Or I just cancel plans with them with the way they hesitate when it’s bike.

It’s really annoying and frustrating, I’ve tried to bring this up before too. What else do i do or how do i deal with these friends?

All they do is get things done by you, say they’re grateful but their actions prove otherwise. How do you deal with such friends?

Me and my best friend had a huge fight recently and I was very hurt. She didn’t talk to me for a week and then I brought it up to her about how hurt I was and everything I felt the last time we had talked. I told her I wanted to cut her off but then she said, give me a chance, I know I’ve hurt you a lot and what not. I asked her to give me time, a lot of time since I’m going through a lot with what happened and otherwise too. She texts me today when I’ve an exam tomorrow morning saying she needs to sort this out today Orelse she’ll never talk to me again.

I told her that I need more time, I’ve too much on my plate. She said something like I’m just running away from my problems, started being sarcastic and said things like my bad that I’m begging you.

I find her reasonings for me to get back to her very selfish. I feel like she wants to be friends because she’s guilty and misses me, and not because she claims and understands how hurt I was.

How do you guys think I should go on with this?

Me and my best friend have been friends since 5+ years. Ever since I’ve known her, every time we go out to eat or just anything that comes to monetary terms, I’ve always been the one to pay, and trust me when I say this, I absolutely don’t mind at all. I’m in a good financial position to be able to pay for her all these years and she isn’t, and I’ve never complained about it, not even once. She always tells me that I’m the only person to whom she’s ready to openly demand if she wants something because everyone else has just mocked her about how she can’t pay for herself, and I’m so proud that she can rely on me like that.

I’m the one who pays for most of the people in my life, and I’m okay with it.

It was my birthday a week ago ,it was my boyfriend who planned everything for me because I’ve always been this person who always plans and pays everytime I go out, and he wanted to make sure I don’t have to stress about anything at all and just chill the whole day, and my best friend didn’t show up because she was grounded.

2 days later, when I was expressing to her about how upset I was that she didn’t show up but I understood, we start fighting, and then asks me why my boyfriend planned anyway and i told her that it was because he knows I plan and pay all the time everywhere, so he wanted to make sure I was stress free on my birthday.

(This was all over text)

Now I get how that sound for someone who has been mocked all her life about money, she started raging at me saying she knew this is the kind of person I was all along, it’s always about money for me, she’ll make sure she’ll pay me back every single penny, even if it takes years, and so many other things

I tried telling her that that isn’t what I implied, and constantly trying to make her listen to me, but then she has just concluded that it was all about money for me. I hate the way she’s ready to believe into things I didn’t say but not take an effort to listen to what I implied, because it was clearly a misunderstanding.

How do I go about this now? Was it my choice of words or actions that should’ve been corrected?